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This is all I really need to know.
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This is all I really need to know.
Lord Pmann
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This question makes me think of the first time I ever jerked off. I remember I was looking at porn on the Internet (slow, dial-up porn of images). As soon as I came I thought, "Holy shit. That was the most amazing thing ever. I'm going to do this again!" So, when I cleaned up the mess, I realized, "Meh, I've lost interest." It was so weird. Because I though I could go and redo it again immediately after yet my body was not having it.
To answer the question- sometimes you'll try to recreate a memory or an event. But I find that it's usually not successful. It can be. But more often than not it seems that you're unable to recreate the mood or situation and it becomes more of a disappointment. I think it's okay to hold on to the past and it's memories as long as you don't live there.
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Hawt. So hawt. I'd pull her pigtails.
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I think it's fine to hold on to bits of the past and try and recreate it. BUT, it will never be identical to the original. Circumstances change, as do the people who helped create that past experience. Things that were once a trigger won't be as powerful as they were the first time.
Hmmm... This question seems familiar. I think Chained has something on his mind he wouldn't mind recreating or watched The Great Gatsby last night.
Hmmm... This question seems familiar. I think Chained has something on his mind he wouldn't mind recreating or watched The Great Gatsby last night.
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All I can think is...
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Heyyyy Suz.
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Sometimes a little pain is ok.
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Heyyyy Suz.
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Sometimes a little pain is ok.
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I believe that for the most part you leave the past where it is - there is normally a good reason that person isn't a part of your present. I personally would hate to tarnish good memories by attempting to create new ones. Of course, that is always easier said than done.
My ex is attempting to come back into my life in that way and while it is tempting to go back to what was comfortable, we ended for a reason and it's best left there.
Now I want to go watch the Great Gatsby or something
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"The devil that you know is better than the devil that you don't."
"As time goes on, we remember the good times and the not-so-good fades away." (Paraphrasing of course)
For me, it's quite simple. If the person made an impact on my life, it's always a challenge not to want that back. Holding on to anything isn't healthy as change is always inevitable. This is a simple but difficult concept to grasp. Letting go isn't easy and we're always caught between the valley of moving forward and the what if.
In a sexual context, if the said person made me push my limits or introduced something new, I'd want that again and again and then some. I'd worry about the consequences later.
What can I say, sometimes, I just want what I want.
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That is one of my favourite quotes.
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I don't have an answer to this question. It's far too deep and emotional for me to soul search and be definitive. Other than to say, you can look back at the past, just don't stare at it. It's a great question, though.
But this question reminds me of lyrics from a song because it talks about this very thing and it's just such a beautiful song. It tears my heart out when I listen to it...
Isn't every goodbye a chance to become
A bittersweet memory for someone
Don't you ever look back with regret
Share with me a moment for all time
In a corner of your mind
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Like the saying goes: "You can never step in the same river twice." Once it's happened, it can't be the same again. It can't be perfectly recreated. Move on. Create more memories instead of chasing old ones that can't be caught.
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The "what ifs" will make you crazy.
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I closed my eyes and the question came.
It's now smoking on the back patio and I'm still sitting here confused.
It's now smoking on the back patio and I'm still sitting here confused.
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So maybe, just maybe that was a little too abstract.
So after watching the big basketball game in the last night (apologies for being even more American centric than normal on this one) this came to mind: Is the thrill of winning greater than the despair of losing?
In a mathematical sense, if you could assign a numerical value to both, positive for winning and negative for losing, would the sum of the two be equal to zero? Or is winning so much better than losing that the sum is positive. Or does losing suck so much that the sum is negative?
And then to go even deeper, if the sum is negative should the game even be played if allowing for "the greater good?"
So after watching the big basketball game in the last night (apologies for being even more American centric than normal on this one) this came to mind: Is the thrill of winning greater than the despair of losing?
In a mathematical sense, if you could assign a numerical value to both, positive for winning and negative for losing, would the sum of the two be equal to zero? Or is winning so much better than losing that the sum is positive. Or does losing suck so much that the sum is negative?
And then to go even deeper, if the sum is negative should the game even be played if allowing for "the greater good?"
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No. They are not equal. There are actually mathematical principles behind this. I recall reading a study about financial gain/loss some years back. The basic idea behind it was that in order to create an equal physiological response in a casino, you had to win twice as much as your losses. In other words, if your body reacts in X manner from losing $200, you would have to win $400 to recreate that same level of physiological reaction. Thus, loss and pain have a far greater effect on us than happiness.
In my opinion, it's why sad songs are typically more emotive and better.
In my opinion, it's why sad songs are typically more emotive and better.
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On the other hand, if losing something (or someone) hurts so badly, the reward of winning must be better if you're willing to risk it.
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0 and 0 equals 0.
To me.
People have died of heart attacks when 'their' team won or lost a game though. So maybe people prone to heart attacks shouldn't watch these games. I can't understand the importance these sports games have for some. It is a game, played by people earning exaggerated wages! I do understand people encouraging their kids when they play and are having fun. That I did myself quite often. I also encouraged them when their (yes, no ' ' here, in my opinion it is only your team if you are part of it) team lost. It is the fun, the exercise, the shared experiences which makes games important.
When I am playing a board game, I like it when I win, shrug my shoulders when I lose. It is the playing itself I am really enjoying.
To me.
People have died of heart attacks when 'their' team won or lost a game though. So maybe people prone to heart attacks shouldn't watch these games. I can't understand the importance these sports games have for some. It is a game, played by people earning exaggerated wages! I do understand people encouraging their kids when they play and are having fun. That I did myself quite often. I also encouraged them when their (yes, no ' ' here, in my opinion it is only your team if you are part of it) team lost. It is the fun, the exercise, the shared experiences which makes games important.
When I am playing a board game, I like it when I win, shrug my shoulders when I lose. It is the playing itself I am really enjoying.
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Losing lasts forever, winning lasts until the first person says "what's next?"
But that said, the high of winning, for me, far exceeds the pain of losing. And at times the fear of losing can be a better motivator than the prize of winning.
But that said, the high of winning, for me, far exceeds the pain of losing. And at times the fear of losing can be a better motivator than the prize of winning.
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So introspective lately!
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Are you a gambler?
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This seems quite plausible.
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Definitely! Wow!
Here's my feeble attempt at answering with my emotional brain what seems like a very rational question:
Of course, the game should be played. It's not just about winning or losing, much the same as the game of life. It's not about the goal or the final destiny; it's about the journey from start to finish. It's about the experience. I would assume for the players, especially the ones with a lot of heart, losing is still part of the greater good because if the thought of losing was enough to keep them from having motivation, then they would never play the game.
I could be way off here. It wouldn't be the first time I've been thrown off by Chained's introspection and intellect.
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I believe in calculated risks.
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This seems quite plausible.
*smile*
Definitely! Wow!
Here's my feeble attempt at answering with my emotional brain what seems like a very rational question:
Of course, the game should be played. It's not just about winning or losing, much the same as the game of life. It's not about the goal or the final destiny; it's about the journey from start to finish. It's about the experience. I would assume for the players, especially the ones with a lot of heart, losing is still part of the greater good because if the thought of losing was enough to keep them from having motivation, then they would never play the game.
I could be way off here. It wouldn't be the first time I've been thrown off by Chained's introspection and intellect.
It's about the journey. When looked through glasses of the past, we see where our losses also served a purpose in our lives. If we allowed them to, they changed us. Made us better. Life just works out. I've heard it said that we play to win the game, and even if we lose, we appreciate just being on the field.
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What's your game, Papa C?
I can picture you getting off the bus in Atlantic City with your fanny pack shooting straight up to the nickel slots!
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Laughs. Enough with your data mining. I know you're NSA.
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