Litiquette IV

[Little_Sister]

I like to leave hidden nuggets here and there

Umm.... Is that like when you just put the tip in?

 

[Aquagal]

My dash has a coat of dust from my dirt road. There are various pens, hair bands, change, dramamine, hand sanitizer, and crumbs in the middle console. The back has some more dust, 2 air horn cans rolling around, some pot holders I forgot to take in from an Easter potluck, candy wrappers, half drank water bottles, a blanket, several pairs of gloves, that's all I can think of.

Funny enough, I took the car in Thursday to get new struts and bearings and the mechanic vacuumed all the rocks off the front floorboards.

 

[ChainedUp]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

 

[Bitesback]

Dipping into the music of the 80s again for inspiration, Chained?

Pat Benatar -
http://youtu.be/Icq0LlvtEy0

 

[rubydlite]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

Before I seperate from my husband I hadn't had sex with him in almost two years. It was my choice and I always was the one saying no. I wasn't trying to use it as a weapon but at the same time I wasn't willing to spread my legs for a man who didn't feel the need to engage my mind.
I never did...or would use it to get something materialistic...but I might use it as a thank you

Going forward...sex doled out AS punishment. ...well obviously lol
Seriously though. ..I don't consider that a weapon...unless you're someone who enjoys hurting your partner against their will.

So..the question...the right way to use sex...mutual pleasure?! Beyond that I have no answer.

And any given time you'll probably find dinki cars, a crayon, a treat wrapper that's been snuck against my rules, socks...or some other crap kids have a way of depositing everywhere *I do love the mini dictators*

One day I'd love to find my panties...discarded in a flurry of need the night before

 

[DarkSimian]

Before I seperate from my husband I hadn't had sex with him in almost two years. It was my choice and I always was the one saying no. I wasn't trying to use it as a weapon but at the same time I wasn't willing to spread my legs for a man who didn't feel the need to engage my mind.
I never did...or would use it to get something materialistic...but I might use it as a thank you

Going forward...sex doled out AS punishment. ...well obviously lol
Seriously though. ..I don't consider that a weapon...unless you're someone who enjoys hurting your partner against their will.

So..the question...the right way to use sex...mutual pleasure?! Beyond that I have no answer.

And any given time you'll probably find dinki cars, a crayon, a treat wrapper that's been snuck against my rules, socks...or some other crap kids have a way of depositing everywhere *I do love the mini dictators*

One day I'd love to find my panties...discarded in a flurry of need the night before

this only makes me like you more ruby

 

[numeniusa]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

I've wracked my brain, but I don't think I've ever withheld sex for 'being mad' reasons, or as a bargaining position of any kind. I think it just doesn't work like that for me. I might request a deferral if I'm just not feeling it for whatever reason, but not as a punishment or to 'get' something.

I think it is about the mutual pursuit of pleasure, about connecting and about reinforcing the bond of a relationship.

And because it just feels so good...

 

[ViciousTease]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

I've never withheld sex from a partner. In my mind, you can't ask someone to forsake all others and then refuse them the only sex they are allowed. However, if I'm extremely tired I may ask that we skip the foreplay. I dont do it in a "hurry up and get it over with" way. More like, "I can't wait, I need you now.". He knows what I mean, but he appreciates the effort.

 

[Hornblende]

No, I've never withheld sex as a weapon. Nor have any of my partners, as far as I can recall.

As for using sex to obtain material possessions, surely that's the definition of prostitution? And while I have no moral objection to prostitution, this sort of behaviour is no way to treat your partner or spouse, in my judgement.

I sometimes withhold my cock from my woman's mouth. It's a lovely tease, but I can't sustain it for very long!

 

[Suz_anne]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

Of course I have not wanted to have sex after a fight. But sometimes I do. I don't consider that to be using sex as a weapon though.

And in my opinion, a hard fuck is reward not a punishment.

Oh, and yes, I have used sex to distract my husband from how much that purse (shoes, trip to the salon, etc.) cost. It's highly effective. *primly wipes the corners of my mouth*

 

[SMNaughtywife]

.....punishment is distributed through a hard fuck.

This seems more like a reward if you ask me.

I'm like the reset, no withholding. I'm pretty straight up with Mr. if I'm not feeling the mojo, it's either a quickie or lets just save it for later.

 

[DarkSimian]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

I, unfortunately, have had the opposite experience from everyone else. I have almost always gotten the "carrot or the stick", the carrot being sex, love, affection, attention, etc. And the stick being the exact opposite, or some other punishment. And so I have run the race, completed my labors, lavished gifts and whatever else has been required of me...only to be told "I'll gladly pay you Tuesday...", a day which never comes. Some people have told me that's abusive at worst, and manipulative at best. But it's what I know....and so like a fool, I fall into the same patterns, again and again.

Man, this is almost like therapy! Do I pay Dr. Liz now, or does she bill me later?

 

[Little_Sister]

*primly wipes the corners of my mouth*

Do you suck your finger clean after you that?

Hubs has a list of acceptable acts during sex. If lines are crossed he will shut the whole thing down, roll over and go to sleep. Truth is he yields sex as a weapon sometimes and has flat out said as much because he says it is the only thing that motivates me

Have I tried to push the envelope and say, let my hand go between his legs while I am sucking him off, yes and he has also physically pushed me off him, refused to let me finish because I did something he already told me no about.

All that aside, he can make me cum faster than I can make me cum so if he wants me to get off, I get off...even if I am really, really mad at him. I almost always have 2 or 3 Os to his one so if we are talking O count I get way more.

Yep, it is a weapon, motivational tool and I am just along for the ride because he is good at it.

Have I tried to withhold sex? Yep. Have I ever succeeded? Not a single time. Even if I am really, really mad at him, I end up giving in. He says I am much more logical, aka I'm not screaming and cussing at him, after sex. All of our fights where he is at fault, end with sex.

 

[Aquagal]

I'm tempted to ask everyone to stick their hands between the cushions of their couches and tell me what they find but I think I'll pass. Lol

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

Yeah. ..no. I'm not in to playing control games.

 

[Callmetim]

Instead, let's talk about sex as a weapon I think we have all done it to some degree. Maybe just withholding because your partner made you mad. Maybe as a way to entice them toward agreeing with you for something not sex related. Maybe you're in a relationship where punishment is distributed through a hard fuck. So many different ways to use sex.

My question is, is that the "right" way to use sex? Isn't it all about the pursuit of pleasure? Does using it in any way cheapen it? Does it matter? You tell me...

I have not held sex as a weapon, but it has been used as such against me by someone whom views sex as a "love only, never lust" proposition. The acts I wish to engage in are sexually inappropriate and deviant to them, despite having performed some of them in the past.

I've also had the experience of going to bed for the night, engaging in foreplay to inches away from penetration, only to have a previous argument brought up verbally by the other party with full intention to bring the argument up at that time, rolling my eyes and being instantly denied.

Lastly, I've been told they wanted to have sex more frequently after a fairly cool period lasting well over a year; two weeks later, they wanted to discuss having another child. Coincidence? Not bloody likely.

The above cheapened my sexual intimacy with them. What I had thought was a mutual time of pleasure has been viewed, however cynically on my part, as a proposition of ulterior motives. I very much enjoy pleasuring and I'm adept at what I do. With those seeds planted, I cannot avoid the voice in my head that asks, "what does she want this time?"

I've been through counseling, made some choices about how I react and how I think because, ultimately, that is what is important. I won't be made to feel inferior or wrong through manipulation. I am not, nor will I become, broken.

 

[Little_Sister]

I have not held sex as a weapon, but it has been used as such against me by someone whom views sex as a "love only, never lust" proposition. The acts I wish to engage in are sexually inappropriate and deviant to them, despite having performed some of them in the past.

I've also had the experience of going to bed for the night, engaging in foreplay to inches away from penetration, only to have a previous argument brought up verbally by the other party with full intention to bring the argument up at that time, rolling my eyes and being instantly denied.

Lastly, I've been told they wanted to have sex more frequently after a fairly cool period lasting well over a year; two weeks later, they wanted to discuss having another child. Coincidence? Not bloody likely.

The above cheapened my sexual intimacy with them. What I had thought was a mutual time of pleasure has been viewed, however cynically on my part, as a proposition of ulterior motives. I very much enjoy pleasuring and I'm adept at what I do. With those seeds planted, I cannot avoid the voice in my head that asks, "what does she want this time?"

I've been through counseling, made some choices about how I react and how I think because, ultimately, that is what is important. I won't be made to feel inferior or wrong through manipulation. I am not, nor will I become, broken.

A cool period that lasted a year?! Wow. Goodness gracious Tim.

Why do married people stay married if there is no sex?! Granted I am hyper-sexual and would probably file for divorce after 2 months of no sex but a year?! Even for once a weekers a year is a really, really long time.

 

[Callmetim]

A cool period that lasted a year?! Wow. Goodness gracious Tim.

By cool I mean sex infrequently, not completely devoid of the act. It was contrasting with the much warmer time after she asked to increase said frequency. Then came the baby question which made her previously altruistic actions seem quite manipulative.

 

[DarkSimian]

A cool period that lasted a year?! Wow. Goodness gracious Tim.

Why do married people stay married if there is no sex?! Granted I am hyper-sexual and would probably file for divorce after 2 months of no sex but a year?! Even for once a weekers a year is a really, really long time.

obviously, you never met my first wife....

 

[Little_Sister]

Randomness. What would a Pmann/SexyAllison lovechild look like??

 

[Amalgamation]

Randomness. What would a Pmann/SexyAllison lovechild look like??

I'm not touching that one!

 

[beachbaby179]

Randomness. What would a Pmann/SexyAllison lovechild look like??

It would have to be skinny or she'd put it up for adoption .

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't use sex as a weapon. I mean, I'm a guy, so that's a lot harder. The saying is 50% of the population controls 100% of the sex. Maybe that's not completely true, but girls do have more control in the sex department, even from the most fundamental, biological standpoint.

Randomness. What would a Pmann/SexyAllison lovechild look like??

I wouldn't fuck her because she's too skinny. But the kid would be gorgeous, thanks to my genes. It would have thick, hippo-like skin.

 

[Suz_anne]

But the kid would be gorgeous, thanks to my genes. It would have thick, hippo-like skin.

And she'd have a HUGE cock.

 

[Little_Sister]

And she'd have a HUGE cock.

Yep, because when both of your parents have them, you get a double dose.

 

[ChainedUp]

Shakes my head. As if I ever thought I had any control