Little_Sister
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You wear Versace well.
https://builtforman.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/built-for-man-likes-versace.jpg
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You wear Versace well.
https://builtforman.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/built-for-man-likes-versace.jpg
Lord Pmann
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God. That's ridiculous. I had a Versace shirt some time back. I had to buy it like three sizes bigger than the normal size I wear. Apparently their shit isn't tailored to manly, rugged guys like myself. It's made for tiny Italians, apparently.
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And sort of related to the topic of the day - this is my favorite Easter card and, as it turns out, my warning to the world.
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everyone
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No! It was a plain, white button up dress shirt. Fuck. I'm not part of the cast of Jersey Shore.
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I have a huge guilt, scales must equal, complex. I find it hard to just let people do stuff for me. However, I think it's because, in the past it's been used as ammunition when I complained or requested something. Also, my mom is a biiiig fan of letting others do for her. So much so, my sister and I have swung in the other direction.
If we're talking non sex stuff, and I use reverse psychology on myself, I love 'doing for others'. So I've taught myself to accept when others do for me....and i assume they get pleasure from it as I do.
Okay..this works for sex too
an interesting question, because I am at odds with understanding someone
being something they are not, only to please me.
Yet isn't that the definition of true love, that whatever the other person wants,
you will fulfill without thought to what it asks of you?
Yet if someone you love said "kill yourself for me" is that a statement that they do
not love you in return?
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Azuldrgon
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My limit is what I can return to them.
I've always been one who always did things for themselves. I have a hard time receiving much. It wasn't until I married and had kids that I started seeing that I could be receptive. However, I still try to give back whenever possible. My family has given me more than they even know and I try to work hard daily to show them that.
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I don't allow myself to be dependent on others. It is a sign of weakness in my eyes. I sometimes have difficulty expressing what I need from someone for the same reason. It does muddy the waters when in a relationship because vulnerability is a necessary ingredient for intimacy.
I don't shy away from the other party asking for what they need from me. In fact, I welcome it.
Happy Easter everyone! I'm looking forward to biting the head off marshmallow bunnies and ODing on chocolate. I wish the same for everyone!
Little_Sister
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I have no issue letting others do things for me. Drives hubs crazy sometimes but I figure if they want to do it, let 'em.
He also blames it on me being the "baby" and only girl so he thinks my folks spoiled me. Did they? Probably. He didn't complain when they paid for my college, and all my expenses, including the apartment he lived in after we got married.
Growing up my mom would say "Either you clean your room or I will". She would clean my room and go through all my stuff, notes, school work, everything. I was never a private person so I would rather her go through my stuff and me not have to clean my room. A lot of times, I would sit on the bed and talk to her as she cleaned around me. She is very type A just like my hubs. I am much more laid back about everything.
Happy Easter (this is easter anal porn)
He also blames it on me being the "baby" and only girl so he thinks my folks spoiled me. Did they? Probably. He didn't complain when they paid for my college, and all my expenses, including the apartment he lived in after we got married.
Growing up my mom would say "Either you clean your room or I will". She would clean my room and go through all my stuff, notes, school work, everything. I was never a private person so I would rather her go through my stuff and me not have to clean my room. A lot of times, I would sit on the bed and talk to her as she cleaned around me. She is very type A just like my hubs. I am much more laid back about everything.
Happy Easter (this is easter anal porn)
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That's the worst threat ever, either you do this or I'll do it for you, and probably do a better job,
If you had something you needed to hide, you just hide it.
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During sex, what is your selfish ranking? Do you demand to get what you want? Does your partner know and deliver? If you don't get what you want, are there repurcussions? When you've gotten yours, do you return the favor? Is it okay to be selfish as long as you reciprocate?
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I think sex is give and take. I think that's important. I mean, you've got 3-5 minutes to make each other happy. It's important you both get what you need.
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Five continuous minutes? *swoon* You're so Sting-like,
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Getting what you want during sex is paramount. If it isn't, why indulge? Sex is fantastic when the people involved are getting what they want outside of the bedroom. Sex mirrors the quality of intimacy of your relationship. If one party isn't getting what they want, more than likely they're not going to get what they want between the sweaty sheets.
I'm all about giving my partner what he wants. Giving him pleasure gives me pleasure. It leads to that earth shattering, thunderous, body-shaking, powerful orgasms.
That's doing it twice, baby.
Wow, Pmann. You deserve a medal. TWICE?
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Wow, Pmann. You deserve a medal. TWICE?
That's right. It's why the ladies love me. It's my stamina.
I interrupt this program to bring this handy guide to you (By you I mean Pmann). We all know how much he likes hearing about dilation so here's a comparative chart for his reference.
Enjoy those Krispy Kremes!
I'm 10000000 cm grossed the fuck out.
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It's not always equitable. There are times when I get mine and don't return the favor and vice versa. Most of the time, it is very balanced although I usually get more orgasms because, well... I can. But even the inequitable times tend to balance each other out.
So yes, it is okay to be selfish every so often.
Little_Sister
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Hubs has a list of acceptable acts during sex. If lines are crossed he will shut the whole thing down, roll over and go to sleep. Truth is he yields sex as a weapon sometimes and has flat out said as much because he says it is the only thing that motivates me
Have I tried to push the envelope and say, let my hand go between his legs while I am sucking him off, yes and he has also physically pushed me off him, refused to let me finish because I did something he already told me no about.
So to answer your questions...
During sex, what is your selfish ranking? Low
Do you demand to get what you want? No way. vanilla sex is better than no sex
Does your partner know and deliver? He knows, but prefers to pretend I'm a good girl. Last night he made a big deal about me watching porn on my kindle before bed on Easter?!
Evidently you shouldn't watch porn on Easter. Who knew. If you don't get what you want, are there repurcussions? No, he definitely yields all the power in the bedroom. I want it way more than he does and he knows it, and uses it to control when/where/how we have sex.
When you've gotten yours, do you return the favor? Always
Is it okay to be selfish as long as you reciprocate? Of course.
All that aside, he can make me cum faster than I can make me cum so if he wants me to get off, I get off...even if I am really, really mad at him. I almost always have 2 or 3 Os to his one so if we are talking O count I get way more.
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it's been pointed out that I am a bit of a door mat, so I do think I have not gotten as good as I've given in the bedroom. And while I do usually cum, I also try really hard to satisfy my partner, sometimes to my own detriment. And I have tons of IOUs for sexual favors, to be performed after other, no sexual tasks have been completed on my part. But since I'm not into rape, I usually just chalk it up to life, and move ahead.
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And to answer the actual question, I am kind of bossy and selfish. Yeah. I do have needs and I make sure they are met.
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My selfish ranking during sex is a mixed thing. I want sex, that is selfish. I want to enjoy sex, that is selfish. I want my partner to enjoy that is not selfish. Sometimes I want it my way, that is selfish, other times I am very happy with him having his way with me (which could be my way also), in ideal circumstances these two desires meet.
I don't demand but I do ask. Or give hints.
My partner should know and should deliver, but most often it was me delivering.
Are there repercussions if my wants aren't satisfied? Nah, that would result in a sulking partner who is able to keep the 'insult' alive for a very long time.
Do I reciprocate if I got what I wanted? Hell yes! Sometimes I even reciprocate before I got what I wanted. And reciprocation is positive reinforcement …
I don't demand but I do ask. Or give hints.
My partner should know and should deliver, but most often it was me delivering.
Are there repercussions if my wants aren't satisfied? Nah, that would result in a sulking partner who is able to keep the 'insult' alive for a very long time.
Do I reciprocate if I got what I wanted? Hell yes! Sometimes I even reciprocate before I got what I wanted. And reciprocation is positive reinforcement …
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