Lit and your sex life

[curiousjen]

Ok so we've all spent at least a little time here at lit, and I'm interested to know what effect this open and stimulating site has had on its readers.

Personally speaking, for me it caused a bit of a crisis at first because I went from being very vanilla (if slightly submissive) to wanting to try out everything from spanking to watersports all in a few days. It was just too much for him to handle!!!

However, now I've been here a bit longer, I find the amount of advice easier to process and have learnt the virtue of patience, lit has had an amazing effect on our sex life. I am more open, experimental, honest and willing to learn than I ever was before. Plus I just know more now so I am less easily shocked.

I would love to hear other peoples experiences of this vibrant community and how it has affected their lives.

 

[Bobmi357]

This has all the potential of being a rather interesting thread.

For myself I can't say its really changed anything for me or my wife. I reckon once a horn dog, always a horn dog.

 

[phoenix1224]

It hasn't changed a thing for me at all... I've ALWAYS been a perv...

But I know that my GF learned a lot from Lit before we even met (we first met on the GB, in fact)...

 

[Eilan]

I discovered this place not too long after I met my husband. I can't really say if it was he or Lit. who brought out my Inner Perv, but either way, nobody's complaining!

 

[LonelyNights]

Hasn't changed mine at all, but I'm also relativly new to the boards, and I'd also concider myself pretty open minded in the first place, so I don't really know if it will effect my sex life even in the long term.

 

[EJFan]

lit IS my sex life.

sad. so sad.

 

[BlueSugar]

I needed an outlit.
I had so much to say, and no one to tell it to.
I felt like I was going to explode, so much on the tip of my tongue and no one to appreciate it, or ask the questions I had answers to. There were sexual jokes, that I actually corrected - and that was the last straw... lol.

And then I registered at lit.

It has given me the place to be an educated perv.

As far as my relationship goes?

It didn't give me anything or change anything that I wasn't already headed towards. Lit gave me technical terms to things I've been doing for years (those are just fun facts to me). It did provide a good place to discuss. And a good place to start searches from, there are alot of knowledgeable people here who also specialize in certain areas. You can read anything off of a how to spot, but to get live info from several people - is amazing

 

[londonaberdeen]

Help in communication

I guess for me; I was always horny and adventurous but I've learned through Lit how to express that, how and when to broach subjects.

I've also learned terms for things I was doing and probably some new techniques to try too.

A simple example. I was always the quite lover you know the moaning at pleasure and the occasional expression of love but having read enough about dirty talk. I now freely tell my SO what I'm doing/going to do and how much I'm enjoying it.

More than anything I've gained confidence. I'd never have got into anal without Lit. As it turns out we now enjoy frequently so great thanks for that alone.

Finally have also learned some important things in live like manners and conduct. There are really bright and good people on hear worth listening to.

 

[Etoile]

It's pretty much the same I guess. I report to Lit what happens IRL sometimes, but nothing on Lit really impacts my sex life. I do send my Daddy stories that I like though.

 

[tealsphynx]

I had never thought to explore past what seems to be termed vanilla sex til I found both my husband and Lit. When he and I first got together I would look through the history online to see what kind of porn he was looking at so I could suprise him by doing things that to him seemed random like offering anal before he had a chance to ask, giving more blowjobs than normal...little stuff. Then I found some pics that at first scared me...women tied up, men tied up...various types of tortures, ect. But I've always claimed to be very sexually open to new ideas. I couldn't stand the idea of being hipocritical (sp?) so I went searching. He had Lit bookmarked already and I had read some of the stories he read, again more BDSM related things. I lightly asked when he was drinking and got some answers that (again) at first worried me...I think the normal media puts such a bad lable on the BDSM world, and worse, it had already imprinted in my brain. I like to overcome things that scare me, so I got on the boards, did some reading, posted some questions...now I like what I find. The link to the BDSM checklist was very helpful for him and for me...turns out I am more of a perv than I thought...I'm enjoying exploring and learning this new....uhm, I think world is the best way to put it? So yah..Lit has done alot for me (sheesh, I sound like a Jenny Craige testimonial.... ) in closing: YEAH LIT!!

 

[nycphoto]

lit IS my sex life.

sad. so sad.

At this point in time I would have to agree to the above quotation.

 

[groverty]

At this point in time I would have to agree to the above quotation.

as pathetic as it is...me too...

maybe that's a whole other thread at this point!

 

[curiousjen]

lit IS my sex life.

sad. so sad.

Guess its a better sex life than, say, throwing your knickers at tom jones or lusting after the men of Accrington stanley F.C.!!!

At least you're surrounded by intellegent beings


*snort*

 

[Lynxie]

Lit didn't do much for me in the bedroom - I've always been the adventurous type in that respect. But it has gotten me talking about sex more. I'm more open about my sex life with my close friends (they used to talk about theirs all the time, but I was usually quiet). Posting and reading what others have to say has built up my confidence, and I'm no longer ashamed of the things I enjoy. For example, a good number of my friends badmouth anal sex...so I used to assume that I should remain quiet about my love for it. But since I joined Lit and learned that so many others do it, I could care less what my friends think. I talk about it with them now, and have at least dispelled some of their misconceptions about the act.

Overall, Lit has offered me an outlet to freely express my sexuality and pass on my knowledge and experiences to others who might benefit from them. It's a great place to learn - I'm so glad I became a part of this community

 

[Candee]

Lit hasn't really changed anything in my bedroom. I'm more adventerous than hubby and he tends to go along with anything i want to try. What I need to do is figure out how to get him to read this site and be more dominating!

Only thing it did was give me the courage to go and get a brazilian wax which I LOVE!!!!! Had it done Wed night and the results are amazing! I will definately be keeping that.

Otherwise I was an adventerous person before meeting hubby and slowly working on making him more adventerous with me!

 

[lisasmurf]

Lit not changed my sex life at all, bit i'm new here also..
I do think if younger people or virgin came into Lit. it could be a great help..
a young couple ssearching here could open a lot doors for them.....

The older People been there done that!

I can say, I beleave Lit lifed some weight off me,, I'm not has weird has i was thinking, is a lot more bigger pervents then me around..

so i do thank Lit for that!!!!!

 

[MR.GGG]

I can't say LIT has

affected MY love life much but I'd like to believe that a trick or two that I've shared with the readers here have affected THEIR love life.

I have a 140+K file of "thank you" Emails and PMs that certainly bears that out. It makes me feel great that so many couples have let me know that some of those techniques and scenarios have worked SO well in improving their sex lives.

 

[Lia Monde]

Lit and Sex

Communication is education, and communication is what Lit seems to be about. Broad, open, deceitful, thoughtful, entertaining, visual...and always interesting. In sex, as with the rest of life, interest adds spice...so Lit has helped in that department. More importantly, Lit has helped me to think and learn and practice and ponder and enjoy...both human nature and myself. A pretty potent package that.

 

[BXGemini20]

I have learned and read about many new things on Lit. I use to just come here for the stories when I was 18(20 now). Then I started to get into message boards around the same time. I lurked for about a year before I actually got an account and started to post. You do meet intelligent and nice people on this board. I hope I learn more from Lit and pass on the knowledge without being a perv.

 

[krazeekat]

Since I'm still relatively new to Lit. I can't say how much impact it will have with my sex life. I dare say it might not impact much as I've always been the dominant one in the bedroom (or wherever else the man and I are getting it on). I might however nudge him to Lit. sometimes it is so tiring being dominant. I just want someone to just take over me and do me!

 

[RavenousRae]

Doesn't really impact my sex life, maybe I masterbate more or some nights I'm a bit more sexually frustrated but I've also learned there are many people with my same interests which is nice to know. Generally though I don't have a sex life (other than with myself!) and lit can help enhance or be the fantasy in some instances.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Well, Lit is a nice place I frequent because of the fact that you can be so open here. I'm curious to what other people say and love to hear about their experience. Making a few friends isn't that bad as well.

 

[phoenix6666]

Never had sex before so this really is my sex life. Lit has been great in giving me an outlet for pent up sexual frustration. I used to be like any other kid who was first getting into sex and whatnot, where pictures and movies would be enough for me. But eventually I found my way into stories and it has been a whole new level of stimulation all together. It's not often when my mind is stimulated more than my body but it happens. It's a great site and I would recommend this place to anyone who was open-minded.

 

[grrrowl]

damn shit crap fuck

This is depressing news, so skip if you're wanting to have a good day, but...

The day after I discovered the Lit forums, and read Mr. GGG's fascinating thread about G-spot technique, and was extremely excited to be able to offer my wife/us something new and exciting... the day after I read that... she asked me for a divorce. (Many issues here, other threads for me to start.)

I don't think I'll have a more coldly ironic thing happen to me in my entire life.

In less than two months, she's bailed out of our couples counseling, packed and left the house an echoing empty shell.

What I wanted to say about Lit is that I've been spending some time here, and thoroughly enjoying it. Eventhough I have no partner, and am currently touring an emotional abattoir, I find it extremely liberating to have discussions with intelligent, open, caring, confident people, who are supporting each other in a community. Sharing about the joys and endless possibilities of sex. Something we need in a society where even discussion is often taboo. And I get to live a little vicariously through you all for awhile!

My thanks you all.

And, it goes without saying -- but it's damn fun to say: I look forward to my next partner, with all that I'm learning from everyone here.

 

[jupiter lilly]

Lit is great!

I've certainly gotten some good ideas about what to try in the bedroom. I've also gotten some excellent unbaised advice in the few threads I have started.

It's nice to be able to read about people's experiences and share your own...Now anytime I have a sex question, whether it is how to best stimulate my g-spot or where to look to buy a good dildo online, I come here first.