Lights off?

[TerrysSexyWife]

ooops

 

[TerrysSexyWife]

so... from the womans side of the fence. Most of us of a certain age grew up thinking about what nice girls do or don't do. We also don't always feel great about all the jiggly parts that come with age. I personally can have issues since I know what I use to be vs what I am now. That being said.. Right now I feel pretty fantastic for 53... and my husband loves my curves. Being confident in how he feels about what he sees, as well as my own confidence makes me a bit of an exhibitionist and the clothes I wear reflect that confidence. And honestly that confidence is the best outfit a woman can wear. I have no idea how to get young women over the image they think they should have. If a man marries you and fucks you, you are exactly what he is looking for. Let him have a good look.. do it everywhere in all kinds of light... talk dirty, flash him.. when you are out lean over and tell him you aren't wearing panties, are wet and what you want to do to him. No man is with a woman who doesn't do it for him, trust me... and let him look at you.. Dim light is nice but you miss a lot of great daylight sex if you only do it at night, in the dark, under the covers.

 

[rodav]

Hi Terrysexywife. I love it when my wife goes out not wearing panties under her skirt sometimes.

 

[TerrysSexyWife]

so does my DH... I have to wait to tell him though or we never get out the door...

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I'm blind so all pussy is good pussy unless it stinks. Met a woman in Savannah for a romantic week...smart, pretty, nice person...and I needed no guide dog to find her pussy. PU WHEW

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Guys, if you were in love with your attractive girlfriend who only liked to have sex in the dark or with very dim lighting because that is how she can relax and enjoy herself, would that be a major turnoff or deal breaker?

It would be a turn off. I like to see what I'm doing. It would become a deal breaker if she constantly said no to daytime sex.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

I prefer lights off, or dimmed light, or a light on that's far away so there's still some darkness.

 

[imrhapsody]

I dated a girl years ago who asked of this when we started getting intimate. It had little to do with relaxing, and more to do with her poor self-image, confidence, and fear that others (me) may flee screaming from the room once I saw her naked.

She wasn't a large girl by any means, but saw herself (in her mind) with rolls of body fat, and thought herself unattractive by some ridiculous, imagined standard.

I blame the Barbie doll for putting these stupid body shape ideals into the minds of young girls, and giving them the notion that you are not attractive if you don't meet these specs.

Seriously though, this thread may not be the place to discuss how women are constantly bombarded through media and other sources about what is ideal or attractive, and it is definitely not the place to reminisce about girls back in uni, but if the lights are off because of self-image or confidence issues, these issues should be dealt with. Then, you truly can relax and enjoy sex, lights on or off.


All of the above aside, lights on or off will not break the deal. Other senses are engaged when sight is limited or gone, and this can make for fun and intimate exploration, and play by feel.

THANK you for understanding this. Many women want a darker environment because we feel like we look like giant whales, or our boobs are sagging, or our tummies juggle a little. I think most men don't even see the flaws we 're thinking we possess.
Is it because of the Barbie doll, or the fashion industry who likes walking coat hangers to show their clothes? Who knows, but many women are just so insecure! Thank you for being this man and the more you reassure, the closer you will come to sex during the day on the beach...well, maybe.

 

[jakediamond550]

so... from the womans side of the fence. Most of us of a certain age grew up thinking about what nice girls do or don't do. We also don't always feel great about all the jiggly parts that come with age. I personally can have issues since I know what I use to be vs what I am now. That being said.. Right now I feel pretty fantastic for 53... and my husband loves my curves. Being confident in how he feels about what he sees, as well as my own confidence makes me a bit of an exhibitionist and the clothes I wear reflect that confidence. And honestly that confidence is the best outfit a woman can wear. I have no idea how to get young women over the image they think they should have. If a man marries you and fucks you, you are exactly what he is looking for. Let him have a good look.. do it everywhere in all kinds of light... talk dirty, flash him.. when you are out lean over and tell him you aren't wearing panties, are wet and what you want to do to him. No man is with a woman who doesn't do it for him, trust me... and let him look at you.. Dim light is nice but you miss a lot of great daylight sex if you only do it at night, in the dark, under the covers.

This is a great post..I love it!

The first time my wife and I had sex I told her"leave the lights on, I want to see you" She was self conscious cause she gained a few pounds since she was in her 20"s. I convinced her that I loved the way she looked extra pounds and all. Many years have gone by and I still love the way she looks.

 

[Noor]

I can find lights distracting , hell I can find a lot of things distracting, but I have no problem with daylight or non glaring light. The softness and flicker of candle light is nice unless the room is a mess, then I worry about fire

If a guy wanted no lights, it wouldn't be a deal breaker, I am mainly tactile anyway.

As far as body image let them wear a button down shirt or sheet of something, once you get into it comes off or you can see whatever...

 

[Prasa]

with lights

Guys, if you were in love with your attractive girlfriend who only liked to have sex in the dark or with very dim lighting because that is how she can relax and enjoy herself, would that be a major turnoff or deal breaker?

my wife and most of my girls are really intrested in having sex with lights on and i too addicted to the openness of lights which just increased the moods and swings of sex

 

[Ozfetishguy]

I think most men don't even see the flaws we 're thinking we possess.

So true! I once went out with a woman who believed she had nine "flaws". I hadn't even noticed seven of them, and, as far as I was concerned, none of them were a turn off.

 

[JamieJ424]

The reasons a woman might want this are pure speculation. Without an understanding of the underlying causes, I might be afraid it was less about her and more about me...maybe I look better in the dark. Also, I have nothing against the dark, but I do have an issue with monotony. Every time in the dark? It's so...limiting.

I would talk to her and try to figure out how important it is and why and address the underlying stuff. It's so important in a relationship...sex should be fun and crazy and adventurous.

J

 

[RunningJib]

Not me

Guys, if you were in love with your attractive girlfriend who only liked to have sex in the dark or with very dim lighting because that is how she can relax and enjoy herself, would that be a major turnoff or deal breaker?

I'd bring candles (and wine, flowers and lingerie)

 

[Athalia]

If I was dating a woman who in her mind believes she is attractive, yet is unwilling/reluctant/frightened to share her attractiveness with her lover, I would question her logic and wonder what other illogical phobias she embraces.

Don't be too hard on her. She may have had experiences which left her with vulnerability issues. It is possible that once she feels she has nothing to fear from you, she'll come out of her shell and be more confident with you.

But that may take a while, so you have to decide whether she's worth the effort, and she has to decide whether you're worth it. It requires a commitment on both your parts.

 

[djyak]

Shouldn't be a deal breaker, make it fun. Use your mouth to explore each others bodies, use touching more than you often would. It'd work for me!

Tifani