Light restraint

[muscles525644]

Any advice for a couple interested in some light restraint during sex. Positions that aren't too threatening but still fun. I think I could get a little more into it than my wife so I'm looking for some fun stuff that won't freak her out.

 

[dirtycarol]

Maybe try tying her to the bed posts with old stockings first, it gives the thrill of bondage and she can streatch them to untie herself if she wants. If she's willing to "play" it'll work, if not she'll see it as a joke once she sees how easy it is to free herself.

 

[coastal-boy]

it is only kinky the first time...then it becomes a lifestyle...check out twistedmonk for some simple knots

 

[SweetErika]

If you're truly worried about freaking your wife out, your best bet is to talk to her about what would and wouldn't likely freak her out, and what she is/isn't willing to try, bondage and otherwise.

For instance, maybe she'd be fine with having her arms restrained, but will her legs free to feel safe. A blindfold might be in, whereas restricting her ears or mouth could be out. Light, soft fabrics and everyday objects (e.g. ties from the thrift store, robe belts) may feel more fun and less threatening than rope, cuffs or other bondage gear.

Having a safeword, paramedic shears on hand and the knowledge to play safely should reassure her as well, and are especially important if you're concerned about how she might react.

 

[ples]

Easy-let her do the tying. You get the trill and she doesn't get the apprehension.

 

[Evilzeus]

I've done some playing with this topic (pun intended), so here is my advice on how to get started with "lightly restraining" your partner.
1) When she is on her back on the bed, put her arms above her head and tell her to keep them there. Proceed to tease her, kiss her, eat her, and play with her. Then if she disobeys and moves her hands, stop all your "activities" until she returns her arms where they belong. You will set the precedence of good things happen when she obeys.
2) Probably at another time, my suggestion is to do the same thing except this time add the blindfold. Explain this is sensory deprivation and that by 'restricting' one of her senses, her other senses will be enhanced. Show her that without her sight, she FEELS everything more intensely.
3) Again once you have set the precedence that each step she takes is pleasureable for her, getting her to do the next step gets a whole lot easier. At this point you could advance to tying her arms with scarves or neck ties. I happen to know you can buy a pretty good set of 4 velcro "velvet" cuffs for about $20-25. No keys to lose, no knots to learn, just velcro. For another $10 you can pick up two fake "velvet" velcro cuffs that just hook together. With this combo of cuffs there are many possible combinations!

As far as positions: Spread eagle on her back is probably the easiest to start with, moving her to her hands and knees (arms tied to bed or eachother) is prob the next easiest.

At the risk of giving away all my secrets, I'm going to stop there.

God, I love this topic!!! Is there any other activity that is this much fun?!

 

[RedheadedHaze]

I've done some playing with this topic (pun intended), so here is my advice on how to get started with "lightly restraining" your partner.
1) When she is on her back on the bed, put her arms above her head and tell her to keep them there. Proceed to tease her, kiss her, eat her, and play with her. Then if she disobeys and moves her hands, stop all your "activities" until she returns her arms where they belong. You will set the precedence of good things happen when she obeys.
2) Probably at another time, my suggestion is to do the same thing except this time add the blindfold. Explain this is sensory deprivation and that by 'restricting' one of her senses, her other senses will be enhanced. Show her that without her sight, she FEELS everything more intensely.
3) Again once you have set the precedence that each step she takes is pleasureable for her, getting her to do the next step gets a whole lot easier. At this point you could advance to tying her arms with scarves or neck ties. I happen to know you can buy a pretty good set of 4 velcro "velvet" cuffs for about $20-25. No keys to lose, no knots to learn, just velcro. For another $10 you can pick up two fake "velvet" velcro cuffs that just hook together. With this combo of cuffs there are many possible combinations!

As far as positions: Spread eagle on her back is probably the easiest to start with, moving her to her hands and knees (arms tied to bed or eachother) is prob the next easiest.

At the risk of giving away all my secrets, I'm going to stop there.

God, I love this topic!!! Is there any other activity that is this much fun?!

Nothing like a little enthusiasm to perk up a thread.

 

[Hiliburn]

Evilzeus I have to thank you for your post! Suggestions will be used! if you have more I'm willing to read!
thanks!

 

[Hoardingenergy]

Google it or buy a book.

 

[Evilzeus]

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Evilzeus I have to thank you for your post! Suggestions will be used! if you have more I'm willing to read!
thanks!

To be used ON you or BY you??? I'm thinking it would be a whole lot easier and more effective for me to demonstrate... lol!

I wrote this at another thread, "Play materials where you least expect to find it". This is more of the equipment description.

Velcro cuffs w/ three foot "tails", add Clips from a hobby store (like motorcycle helmet), eye bolts from hardware store, bolt them to 4 corners of bed frame...

Eye bolts (screw style) from hardware store, screw into the studs of the walk in closet (these appear to be for hanging clothing), use previously mentioned velcro cuffs.

Also hardware store chain, with mountain climbing style clips ($1.00/pc).

Hardware stores (big box style) also have a wide selection of ropes including the most inexpensive mountain climbing style ropes. (Make sure you grab rope that doesn't chaff...well on second thought... it depends on what you want)

I have pics of exactly what I'm talking about and how I did it. I'll pm you with my email address. If you have a url you are welcome to post and link.

Let me know what other questions I can answer.

 

[acyclist]

after you get past the communication part.

I offer these simple things.

Blindfold. visual restraint.
Ear plugs Audio restraint
Toes and fingers

 

[carrie-on]

Any advice for a couple interested in some light restraint during sex. Positions that aren't too threatening but still fun. I think I could get a little more into it than my wife so I'm looking for some fun stuff that won't freak her out.

We have a hook in the corner of the room that i love to be tied to with my hands overhead. That way He can get all around me, touching,teasing,etc. Even more fun with a blindfold. When not in use in play, it has a plant hanging from it...

 

[Midnight_Man]

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