Level of Lifestyle feeling

[ElusiveDream07]

When engaged in relationship in the lifestyle am interested in how much or little feelings people allow.

My views on this have recently changed and am interested on how other feel about it as well. Dom/Domm/Switch/sub....looking for all roles responce.
Well gladly share results with group.


Thanks......

 

[xxCrystal4314xx]

We have a lot of trust and closeness in our relationship, but the bdsm side is something that only comes out in sessions.

 

[ElusiveDream07]

We have a lot of trust and closeness in our relationship, but the bdsm side is something that only comes out in sessions.

Agreed Crystal..in my opion but is something I'm interested in how others feel

smiles thanks for participating...

 

[xxCrystal4314xx]

I'm eager to see what others have to say as well

 

[Netzach]

All of the above at varying times depending on the person referred to.

 

[museofdragon]

D/s is about so much more that just sceneing for us. Scening is a maifestation of our dynamic, not the only mnaifestation, just the most clear. The D/s asects of our personality are always there, just shown in ways appropriate to the situation. (sorry, but i really hate the word lifestyle).

i think i may have went a bit off topic, but maybe not.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm not really sure if this is on topic but I personally can not see myself ever bottoming just for a scene with someone with whom I have no emotional feelings. Even years ago when my husband tried to fulfil my desires to be dominated he could only do it in the bedroom and even though I love him since that domination didn't extend outside of the bedroom the bedroom scenes felt empty.

 

[ElusiveDream07]

I'm not really sure if this is on topic but I personally can not see myself ever bottoming just for a scene with someone with whom I have no emotional feelings. Even years ago when my husband tried to fulfil my desires to be dominated he could only do it in the bedroom and even though I love him since that domination didn't extend outside of the bedroom the bedroom scenes felt empty.

I am in agreement....the conection is important and play only heightens experience

 

[myinnerslut]

A was my boyfriend for months before becoming my dom. now he is both and i am both his gf and his sub

 

[Ebonyfire]

I don't think about this at all.

 

[ElusiveDream07]

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A was my boyfriend for months before becoming my dom. now he is both and i am both his gf and his sub

Sounds like you are quite lucky...am happy for both of you.....as it should be...smiles

 

[Softouch911]

Not sure what you want to hear about.

LIfe? Yeah, we get busy, and sometimes we plod through and it gets a little mechaniwockle.

Scening? How could it not be emotional? BDSM play is all about emotion, control of it, and letting go of it.

I think I'm missing your point. HOpe mine is clear.

 

[ElusiveDream07]

Not sure what you want to hear about.

LIfe? Yeah, we get busy, and sometimes we plod through and it gets a little mechaniwockle.

Scening? How could it not be emotional? BDSM play is all about emotion, control of it, and letting go of it.

I think I'm missing your point. HOpe mine is clear.

Meaning some have indicated to me that feeling is just within scene, does not extend outside. Others are only interested in the scene.

Just was courious Softouch, hope you Get my point....smiles

 

[JMohegan]

When engaged in relationship in the lifestyle am interested in how much or little feelings people allow.

My views on this have recently changed and am interested on how other feel about it as well. Dom/Domm/Switch/sub....looking for all roles responce.
Well gladly share results with group.


Thanks......

I am not interested in BDSM outside the context of a personally intimate relationship.

Even within the context of a personal relationship, I do not participate in scenes or sessions. Physical activity flows naturally and seamlessly from the way in which my partner and I relate to one another in general.

In an ideal situation, my partner and I are deeply in love with one another. It is impossible for me to imagine falling in love with someone without D/s and SM existing as fundamental elements of the relationship. At the same time, love strengthens and enhances both the D/s and SM for both of us. It's an upwardly spiraling loop sort of thing.

I hope that answers your question.

 

[ElusiveDream07]

I am not interested in BDSM outside the context of a personally intimate relationship.

Even within the context of a personal relationship, I do not participate in scenes or sessions. Physical activity flows naturally and seamlessly from the way in which my partner and I relate to one another in general.

In an ideal situation, my partner and I are deeply in love with one another. It is impossible for me to imagine falling in love with someone without D/s and SM existing as fundamental elements of the relationship. At the same time, love strengthens and enhances both the D/s and SM for both of us. It's an upwardly spiraling loop sort of thing.

I hope that answers your question.

Thanks JMohegan, I would agree that is the goal.....sounds like you have found something wonderful,

Thanks for your comment

 

[Evil_Geoff]

When engaged in relationship in the lifestyle am interested in how much or little feelings people allow.

My views on this have recently changed and am interested on how other feel about it as well. Dom/Domm/Switch/sub....looking for all roles responce.
Well gladly share results with group.


Thanks......

Feelings are feelings and I allow janey to feel whatever she feels, whenever she feels them.

BEHAVIOR is what I'm concerned about, not feelings. I could give a good rat's ass about how she feels sometimes, as long as she obeys. Othertimes I care very much how she feels and take those feelings into consideration when making my decisions. But it's always MY choice to consider her feelings or not. Verstandze?

 

[Puman]

...not sure if I'm on topic... but here goes... Our relationship is slowly moving from 5 years of vanilla into BDSM, and I can most certainly say that it's intensified our emotional bond and trust levels and (probably as a result) improved our sex life tremendously. Everything about our relationship has strengthened.

We both lead highly stressed, professional lives so the D/s & s/m factors do not effect every aspect of our lives, but we've noticed that they have started to creep into our home when we're alone together (whether engaged in play or not), and it feels.... comfortable.

 

[ElusiveDream07]

Results

Thank you all for voting....

1 vote - Don't really think about it.
0 vote - Meaning they are only interested in random scene's, with some trust.
2 vote - Some feeling and trust only in relation to scene, but stay disconnected outside.
23 vote - Desire a connection and Trust the closeness and a relationship, scene play only heightens this.


Perhaps there is hope hu...

Thanks all for voting again, and your comments.

 

[SubKekiLee]

...not sure if I'm on topic... but here goes... Our relationship is slowly moving from 5 years of vanilla into BDSM, and I can most certainly say that it's intensified our emotional bond and trust levels and (probably as a result) improved our sex life tremendously. Everything about our relationship has strengthened.

We both lead highly stressed, professional lives so the D/s & s/m factors do not effect every aspect of our lives, but we've noticed that they have started to creep into our home when we're alone together (whether engaged in play or not), and it feels.... comfortable.

I would love to live this as 24/7 but that is impossible so I will settle for what I get now, which is almost as close as you can get in "our" Situation... I look forward to every direction and every chore he makes me do...

 

[subgrl18]

me and my Master have a very close relationship. We were close friends talking every day for about 7 months before He asked me to be His. We talk about everything and i wouldnt want it any other way. Trust is a very important thing with me.