Let's Talk Lit Crushes

[BlackCashmere]

*smothers you in a hug*

I crush you

 

[Azuldrgon]

I crush you

ditto.

 

[DarkSimian]

Are man crushes acceptable?

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Shouldn't the answer to that question always be Suz_anne?

Haha well yes, of course it is

 

[Xerxes82]

Not going to requote the original question, but, in summary...

They happen. Not something I go looking for. They can be triggered by a good post, an honest reaction, even an AV. Most are fleeting, and I usually just let them pass their course. I don't openly talk about them most of the time, but I'm guessing it's not super subtle either.

I prefer to look from afar, and just let people go about their business. Too easy to misunderstand feelings and intentions when all you have is written text (and boy have I been there). Most of them are less real, more like projecting my curiosity about someone in a more intense fashion.

Hell, as conceited as this is going to sound, most of the ones I've had have been more about me than the person I'm crushing. Something about myself they've made me look at, see differently. Or, more commonly, something I might wish was true of myself that I see mirrored in them.

Lit crushes are more like mirrors than doors. It's just too easy for people to be anyone, and to see people you don't know that well as whatever you need. Fun, occassionally inspiring, sometimes frustrating. Usually they burn hot and burn out.

There has only ever been one I just can't shake. It fades, then blooms anew. The poster in question fascinates me. It's probably a lot more about the mystery than it is about how awesome a person they are. Which, end of the day, is why I tend to just lurk their posts and not respond. Or draw attentiom to myself in any way. It isn't abject cowardice (I hope?). Just quiet respect and admiration.

 

[angelofthenorth]

i don't think i'll be crushing on anyone anytime soon

 

[beachbaby179]

i don't think i'll be crushing on anyone anytime soon

 

[Jakevillines]

I feel like this thread could get people in trouble.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Oooo, that's a good question! Who was everybody crushing on in 2016?

If I recall, that was a really dry year for me. I can only think of one person, and he wouldn't care for me to share his name, but i will tell you that he had some serious Voice.

 

[Erotically_Yours]

I didn’t go looking for a crush, but one found me. Things really took off quickly, and in my excitement, I’m now wondering if I’ve smothered them.

 

[sneb]

Too new to crush on someone,
Too placid to bring it on.
I crush on moments,
And the scents they brew.

Nobody in specifics.

 

[Willingtoshare]

Can see how it happens with the amount of great people on here.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

Crushes can be fleeting and wondrous things. There are amazing people on this site, and so many of them are eminently crushable.

Not guarding yourself can lead down wonderfully fun rabbit holes...

 

[Shi_One81]

I think I’m too real for a “Lit Crush”. Meaning, I don’t like role play, I like actually talking and communicating, I’d want to meet, etc.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

No crushes at this moment

 

[KarenB59]

I've had a few small crushes but they're basically pointless. Nothing is going to come of them so better not to let them get to the point where you'll get hurt. Lit friend is 10 times better than Lit crush.