Lesbians: would you date a T-girl?

[temp256]

From my readings, it is difficult for transsexuals to find men who want anything more than sex. But what about women? Would any lesbians/bi women have anything against dating someone who aspires to be a girl?

Does pre-op/post-op make any difference? Also, would you rather begin a relationship knowing her secret, or find out later in a deep emotional confession?

Just curious...

 

[MissBri]

 

[neonflux]

Ditto

I am also bi, would definitely date a trans woman, pre-op or post-op. Would want to know ahead of time as this would be so much of who the person is - secrets are never good for a relationship...

~ Neon

 

[MissBri]

 

[bisexplicit]

Personally, I want a woman that I date to be a woman, and a man that I date to be a man. What that means, is that if I were to date someone who was trans, it would have to be post-op.

Oh, and I would most certainly want to know before I began dating them.

 

[PredatorSmile]

well, i am a fan of transsexuals. especially the really pretty ones. I like a certain transsexual beauty named Sylvia Boots, and her fellow sexy transsexuals such as Olivia Love, Geneva and Ivana. All of them appear in adult movies. They're MTFs, though. I am puzzled by a certain FTM transsexual who has appeared in a couple of adult movies, Buck Angel. Love to get my hands on that one.

 

[kbate]

I sometimes wonder about this very subject, more since coming to Lit than previously.

I see no reason that I could not spend time with, speak with, and otherwise become everything other than sexual partners with an MtF transsexual, even to the point of falling in love. I do not believe I could or would participate in physical sex with a pre-op transsexual.

The sexual aversion is strictly a plumbing issue, not a gender issue. I imagine that once love developed, the plumbing issue would work itself out in some manner or another. I can see no long term relationship without some sort of sexual contact, so the issue would, without doubt, require attention.

 

[Samuelx]

I sometimes wonder about this very subject, more since coming to Lit than previously.

I see no reason that I could not spend time with, speak with, and otherwise become everything other than sexual partners with an MtF transsexual, even to the point of falling in love. I do not believe I could or would participate in physical sexual with a pre-op transsexual.

The sexual aversion is strictly a plumbing issue, not a gender issue. I imagine that once love developed, the plumbing issue would work itself out in some manner or another. I can see no long term relationship without some sort of sexual contact, so the issue would, without doubt, require attention.

Man, it seems that I'm more "bisexual" than most bisexuals. I seem to find everything highly erotic and I like everything about the human body in all the types it comes. I like tall guys, short guys, muscular guys and chubby guys. I like tall girls, short girls, muscular girls, BBWs and of course, all colors. I also like MTFs ( Male to female transsexuals) and I also like FTM ( female to male transsexuals). I love humanity. I like people. I wish people were better sometimes. That's all. I can see myself falling for just about anyone, if he/she "gets me".

 

[Wolfman1982]

Hmmm I think I love all people too, and well if they can behave, then I am a person who will respect them without a splitsecond doubt in my mind

And of course the chemistry is there, but ok that was my comment on the matter

 

[RazorSplitClit]

My girlfriend and I have discussed this.

My girlfriend is straight, and is constantly discussing her sexuality. I guess she doubts her heterosexuality because she's dating me, and is starting to refer to herself as "open-minded" now. She said she's always had a thing for TV/TS.

I personally wouldn't have a relationship with another male transvestite, maybe a TS.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I have loved a pre-op woman. I loved her post -op and during op as well. Gender isn't the only thing that turns me on...so my answer would be a resounding *YES*!!!!

 

[revolution724]

I would have to echo kbate here. I have a strong aversion to penises, so I would not be able to have a fulfilling sexual relationship with someone who came equipped with one. Anything else, sure, and I'd be open to the idea of a romantic/dating/sexual relationship with someone post-op.

 

[Guest]

sure would as long as she doesnt have a penis

 

[cpicass0]

In theory I would say yes, though I have never had the opportunity. The pre-op penis might be a hurdle, but then maybe not. I am not as put off by a penis as some of the ladies here seem to be, but I am not necessarily drawn to them either. I guess in the end it would depend on the person.

 

[PredatorSmile]

well, although i have never had a sexual encounter with an FTM or MTF before, i must say i'm somewhat curious. i'd be open to trying it with them. might be an eye-opener.

 

[Anniejustagirl]

I have actually had the blessing of dating two MTF women. Tanya was one of the sexiest women i had ever met and she was always teasing me to be more girly. She was totally honest with me from the very beginning. She was pre-op when i met her, not that i ever would have guessed. At that point, the 'leftover equipment' (her terminology) didn't matter in the least to me. It was her energy and it was all lesbian and very femme and amazingly gentle.

She was a tough one to lose. She was blackballed in her business of choice and unfortunately slipped into the darkness. I still 'look' for her now and then to no avail. I miss my friend and that beautiful woman that she Always was. She worked so hard to match the outside to the inside and far too many people didn't see the gift that she was to the world.

Angie and i still keep in touch from time to time. *grin* i get so turned on by a femme that can wrench far better on my bike than i can! *chuckle* Again.... totally honest from the very begining. In my limited experience, i have found transexuals to be some of the most brutally honest and open people that i have ever known. Unfortunately that brutality is often directed at themselves.

I've never dated an FTM.... hanging out with yes, but it's the energy...(damn, the hormones... the guys i knew always wanted to wrestle for crying out loud!) and for the most part...the energy that draws me is feminine in all its varying degrees!

 

[Stefani]

Luna, Annie, what incredibly heart-felt posts. Reading this thread gives me hope for humanity. You people are beautiful.

Just to toss in my own 2 cents, and give you a trannie's perspective on women...

I've spent most of my life with male partners... two in long relationships. Then a couple years ago i discovered women.

I've dated two now, and both have exceeded anything i could have ever imagined - on both an emotional and physical level. The woman i'm involved with right now is my best friend, business partner, soul mate, and lover. I don't think i've ever known anyone better, or been loved half as deeply.

With the last guy i dated, i couldn't get his feelings out of him with a crowbar. Whereas with my girlfriend, sometimes she drowns me in a sea of emotions. But i know right where i stand. Men run from committment - women run towards it. With men, relationships are about sex, and minimal investment. With my girlfriend, it's about making love with someone you cherish dearly. It's the whole enchilada.

Funny thing is, for years i never had the slightest interest in women. If someone had suggested to me ten years ago that I'd be in love with a woman today, i would have laughed. God plays some wonderful tricks on us.

Steffie

 

[Tymeless]

glad everything is working out stef

 

[PredatorSmile]

glad everything is working out stef

I am glad too. I often read your posts, Stef. I consider you a Success Story !

 

[playwithlezli]

From my readings, it is difficult for transsexuals to find men who want anything more than sex. But what about women? Would any lesbians/bi women have anything against dating someone who aspires to be a girl?

Does pre-op/post-op make any difference? Also, would you rather begin a relationship knowing her secret, or find out later in a deep emotional confession?

Just curious...

For me it is the person, not the package, so no issues here.

Pre-op, post-don't matter.

But I would prefer to know early on in the relationship as it would obviously be a big part of who the person is. It would show me the amazing depth of character, the conviction and the courage that he/she had.

We really need a neutral gender term don't we? Not just for this type of conversation, but for anytime the gender is irrelevant, which would be most of the time in my eyes.