Leahaven

[LeaHaven]

They don't just accept it. They crave it even if they are conflicted.

This.

And it seems the more it's all about me, the better we like it. For sure the better I like it!

 

[LeaHaven]

You have ten days to tease Robbie about what might happen on the 31st, for him to expose his erection to you as he tells you what he imagines might happen, or you tell him about sucking Alex’s cock. So many possibilities for how to maximize his humiliation….

I wish I had more experience to make the best of this situation.

We are going shopping today to get Alex a gift. Robbie came up with the idea of a skeleton watch (I think that's the right name). It's the kind of watch where you can see the gears and all. At first, I didn't think it was such a good idea. I think they're ugly, but Robbie reminded me that Alex is a mechanical engineer. Will it appeal to him? Idk, but I know Alex will appreciate the gesture...especially since the gift is coming from Robbie.

 

[subdudeme13]

This.

And it seems the more it's all about me, the better we like it. For sure the better I like it!

It is, and should be all about you. IMHO
How have I missed this thread?

 

[subdudeme13]

I wish I had more experience to make the best of this situation.

We are going shopping today to get Alex a gift. Robbie came up with the idea of a skeleton watch (I think that's the right name). It's the kind of watch where you can see the gears and all. At first, I didn't think it was such a good idea. I think they're ugly, but Robbie reminded me that Alex is a mechanical engineer. Will it appeal to him? Idk, but I know Alex will appreciate the gesture...especially since the gift is coming from Robbie.

Lit must have some threads, aside from yours, that will help guide you. Experience is the best teacher, get all you can!

 

[liqueur]

They don't just accept it. They crave it even if they are conflicted.

This.

And it seems the more it's all about me, the better we like it. For sure the better I like it!

That, and This ↑!
Because there are many different subleties and nuances to cuckoldry. But the one thing that arouses me more than anything else is this. The “This Is About Me and What I Want” attitude.

Ironically, this is also what do many men miss when they try to push their wives into cuckolding them. To them, it's just about their kink. Not hers.

 

[LeaHaven]

I do hope that since he got you ready for your date. and got you horny too,
after your date I hope Robbie got a nice reward from you. it might encourage him to prep you for your next date

As a "nice reward," I thought you meant that eventually Robbie would be allowed to cum. But I was reading other threads, as suggested by subdudeme13, and now I am wondering if you meant something different. Did you mean something different? Something in particular?

 

[LeaHaven]

Lit must have some threads, aside from yours, that will help guide you. Experience is the best teacher, get all you can!

I thought this was a great idea. I've been reading...and learning. I had forgotten that this is what got me started on this forum in the first place!

 

[LeaHaven]

“This Is About Me and What I Want” attitude.

I hope Robbie likes it, because he's got a wife full of it

 

[NancyPan]

I wish I had more experience to make the best of this situation.

We are going shopping today to get Alex a gift. Robbie came up with the idea of a skeleton watch (I think that's the right name). It's the kind of watch where you can see the gears and all. At first, I didn't think it was such a good idea. I think they're ugly, but Robbie reminded me that Alex is a mechanical engineer. Will it appeal to him? Idk, but I know Alex will appreciate the gesture...especially since the gift is coming from Robbie.

Hmmmm? How does Alex explain his beginning to wear a new watch to his wife?

 

[9to5]

As a "nice reward," I thought you meant that eventually Robbie would be allowed to cum. But I was reading other threads, as suggested by subdudeme13, and now I am wondering if you meant something different. Did you mean something different? Something in particular?

just hoping that you made him cum, maybe edged him a few times first, so he was not sure when and if he would cum

 

[LeaHaven]

Hmmmm? How does Alex explain his beginning to wear a new watch to his wife?

We thought of that. We went shopping yesterday, but not for a watch.

I'll write more later

 

[Artfan2]

We thought of that. We went shopping yesterday, but not for a watch.

I'll write more later

Hmm, I'm wondering what that could be.

 

[liqueur]

The “This Is About Me and What I Want” attitude.

I hope Robbie likes it, because he's got a wife full of it

Please forgive the cross-posting. But I put this comment up on another thread called something like “Giving your wife to another man" — and then realized that it was the conversation here that had inspired it—

You know, something's bothered me about this thread ever since I joined it, and I finally figured out what it is (I'm slow sometimes). It's nothing to do with the posts, it's the thread title. “Giving your wife...” — it implies the wife has no agency, as if she's some possession to be handed off at will.

What I admire is exactly opposite: the wife who knows she's nobody's possession, and makes sure you know it too. The woman who takes what she wants, when she wants, where she wants. And tells you if you don't like it, you can go sit on it.

Or in Lea’s case, “you can have a date with Lily.”

 

[policywank]

This.

And it seems the more it's all about me, the better we like it. For sure the better I like it!

Absolutely. The Hotwife dynamic is unapologetically asymmetrical with the focus on the wife's pleasure. There is an element of selfishness as I claim that which is mine. And it is not mere pretend. I am prioritizing my sexual pleasure without reservation. I am still aware of what gets him turned on and I indulge that, but within a context of recognizing that we are not equal.

One of the things a lot of guys refer to in this lifestyle is the idea that their wife is their personal porn star. To each their own I guess but that is emphatically not the case with us. While he does get to watch sometimes, his viewing pleasure is not my priority. And it is frequently the case that he is not permitted to participate. At those times his role is to accept my prerogative and wait patiently.

In the last few decades as women have thrown off the burden of patriarchy we have insisted on more equality and "equal" has become the default marital dynamic for many people. But before that marriages were usually unequal in terms of status, authority and rights. Men were ok with that since they were the ones in whose favour the inequality tilted. Now it can go either way and that is often the most natural outcome. After all most groups, organizations, etc. exist with a hierarchy and unequal perks and privileges not only based upon who leads and who follows, but also individual aptitude. Just as with my cuckold, Robbie is not equal and should not expect to be. His place is to be contented to serve and facilitate your sexual pleasure.