This is really good information. Thank you!
I have been wanting to start something like this, but to be honest, with the cage, we both get so aroused it is hard not to go straight to the orgasm. But I will start this soon. I need him to get better.
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I have been wanting to start something like this, but to be honest, with the cage, we both get so aroused it is hard not to go straight to the orgasm. But I will start this soon. I need him to get better.
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He will never learn orgasm control unless you force him to learn it. He doesn't know his own signals ... the tightening of his balls... the "butterflies" tingles near the base of his cock.
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I bet the men on this thread could chime in with tips and tricks they have used to hold off their orgasm. It is something that most young guys have to learn/figure out.
Women too can figure out how to edge and not go over into orgasm. Edging can be extremely arousing, extremely submissive feeling if you are doing it because your partner wants you to. And edging also helps you learn your body.... what and where to touch. How hard or soft to touch or stroke, when to slow down, etc. It can be absolutely delicious.
There are whole threads around here on orgasm denial, orgasm control and edging.
The one's I've read are mostly about orgasm control/denial/edging when the woman is submitting to that kind of control/play - but I'm sure there are threads that primarily focus on that aspect for men.
Should be a really fun journey
Maybe have him take the cage off while standing in a cold shower to help him keep from being so aroused and going so quickly to orgasm? Might help? Might be a useful training exercise? Idk - guys- chime in. Would that be too mean???
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One thing you can do to reward him is offer him a time limit. After which you will take him in your mouth.
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Re: punishment: taking away his cage may prove effective.
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There are some books to help and also add to the pleasrue. https://www.amazon.ca/Multiple-Orgasms-Techniques-Mastering-Extended/dp/1312335645.
I recommend you Google men and multiple orgasams. There are exercises he can do. I had a long commute and could exercise the muscles to control and ejaculation on my way to work. I did have a prostatectomy because of cancer so sadly I do not ejacutlate anymore but the thing I miss the most is the full body orgasms. They felt like my whole body exploded with pleasure. I got those when my Domme pegged me.
I wanted to reply to this when I first read it, but I needed some time to build up the courage to discuss this topic. Please don't laugh at me or judge me harshly. A lot of what I am about to discuss is about fantasy and feelings, and I can't help what my fantasies and feelings are. They just are.
First I should point out that Robbie usually cums even faster if I try to give him oral sex. On more than one occasion he ejaculated just as I was about to put my mouth on him. I guess I don't have to tell you what a startling mess that was. He had a hundred excuses, which always boil down to him essentially telling me, "You're too hot." I wish that were true, but even if it were, it's not my fault that he cums too easily.
But the part that I feel guilty about is that I don't really want to give Robbie oral sex. It's not that I am not interested in oral sex. I'm just not interested in oral sex with Robbie. I know that is an awful way to feel, but I can't help it, and I can't seem to make myself feel differently. What is even worse is that, in my head, with the right guy, giving him oral sex, feeling him looking down at me, hearing him say, "That's my good girl," is very, very arousing. It may be my top fantasy. And for some strange reason, I like it best if I imagine it happening in the back of a car. And I would like it even better if Robbie knew or even if he was there, just watching. God, how that arouses me!
So there you have it. This is something I could only tell strangers. Although many of you are feeling less and less like strangers and more like my most trusted confidants.
I am really weird, I know.
I had to look up prostatectomy. Oh gosh! I am so sorry to hear! I hope things are much better now, considering the situation. It is not good that you had to go through all that, but I hope the situation has turned out as good as can be expected.
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No need to feel bad. I was only thinking of a reward system for him to learn control. "If you can stroke yourself for 5 minutes without cumming, I'll let you cum in my mouth".
Rewards work better for orgasm training then punishment. So it comes down to finding something that he really wants and you are willing to do.
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You're in control, make round two a requirement. You can find ways to make sure he stays awake. You could also make him jerk off for you before you let him enter you, or maybe maybe a ruined orgasm or two first. I believe in you, you've got this
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Saw this and thought you'd like it Leah.
Seems like a perfect synopsis of what you are doing with Robbie.
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Another pretty key idea.
Not that I am necessarily suggesting you should wear garters all the time so you can wrap the key to his cage around it... but it made me think of other under clothes options... a belly chain? An ankle bracelet? Safety pinned to your panties? Stitch a pocket in your bra and slip it in there? I'm sure you can think of other fun and practical ideas.
Another pretty key idea.
Not that I am necessarily suggesting you should wear garters all the time so you can wrap the key to his cage around it... but it made me think of other under clothes options... a belly chain? An ankle bracelet? Safety pinned to your panties? Stitch a pocket in your bra and slip it in there? I'm sure you can think of other fun and practical ideas.
So much has happened since the last time I talked to you all, and I have been so busy because of it, I have not had time to update my thread.
First of all, our current political climate has made my job very busy and very unpleasant. People are beginning to get really bad anxiety about their investments/"nest eggs." I will leave it at that.
On the good side of things, our life has gotten so much easier since Robbie quit work. I never imagined how much nicer life would be! We no longer have to rush around on the weekends trying to get everything done, and our evenings are relaxed. We both love it, especially the part where Robbie serves at my pleasure. He has been such a wonderfully obedient and dutiful boy. I LOVE it! If only we had known to do this from the beginning! And Robbie has admitted that the quality of his orgasms has gotten WAY better, since I don't allow him to jerk off every day. And he says he likes the "burn" as he calls it. The time in between, when he is constantly buzzing with arousal (and often begging me to let him cum). There is so much more to talk about here, but I have to tell you the latest big news.
We have a guy living with us. Shocker, huh? It is not what you people are thinking (you people out here on Literotica, that is), and it is only temporary. I will call him Travis, since he has one of those "cowboy" names. He is the son of one of my mom's best friends, and he has come to stay with us to try to find a job. (There are no jobs back home, and there never will be, unless you are a farmer.) I used to babysit him when I was in high school. Back then, I thought he was an obnoxious kid, but he has changed a lot! He is very tall, and he is funny, and he is even kind of cute! Best of all, he calls me "Ma'am." LMAO!!
"Travis would you unload the dishwasher for me, please?"
"Yes, Ma'am."
LMAO!! I am only like 9 years older than him! I LOVE it!!
He moved in this past Sunday, and he and Robbie hit it off quickly. They both like working on cars, and Robbie has a "project" car. This is probably his third. When I was away at college, he bought this old (like really old), junk truck to rebuild. When I saw pictures of it, I thought he had lost his mind. He rebuilt it, repainted it, everything. When he was done, I was completely blown away. It was absolutely beautiful! When he put it up for sale, it ended up in a bidding war. He made a nice profit off all that work, and he enjoyed doing it too.
Anyway, back to Travis, and a few cons of having him here. First of all, he eats a week's worth of groceries at one meal! I am not sure if we can afford to feed this kid! Secondly, it means we have had to move all our "fun" to the bedroom. Most of it used to happen in the family room. Can't do that anymore! But Travis stays in our guest bedroom which is right next to my home office. Both of these rooms are on the front right side of the house, away from the master bedroom, which is on the left back side of our house. That is a good thing, because sometimes I get a little loud when Robbie is doing his oral duties, which he has gotten VERY good at. It would be so embarrassing if Travis were to hear that!
Ok, I have to get ready to go. I see I have dm's. I will get to them as soon as I can, probably today. I will not be in any calls today, so I will have some breaks here and there.
Oh, gosh, I almost forgot! I have started to train Robbie to try to learn not to cum so fast. It is a brand new "thing" for us, but it is fun, although I laugh a lot (sorry! I can't help it!). I will write more about all that later. All that aside, Robbie is so much more affectionate these days. Our marriage is so much better than it was, and we both look forward to spending time together. Robbie knows that if he is a good boy, in due time, i will let him cum. In the meantime, he services my pleasure whenever I tell him to.
Life is good.
First of all, our current political climate has made my job very busy and very unpleasant. People are beginning to get really bad anxiety about their investments/"nest eggs." I will leave it at that.
On the good side of things, our life has gotten so much easier since Robbie quit work. I never imagined how much nicer life would be! We no longer have to rush around on the weekends trying to get everything done, and our evenings are relaxed. We both love it, especially the part where Robbie serves at my pleasure. He has been such a wonderfully obedient and dutiful boy. I LOVE it! If only we had known to do this from the beginning! And Robbie has admitted that the quality of his orgasms has gotten WAY better, since I don't allow him to jerk off every day. And he says he likes the "burn" as he calls it. The time in between, when he is constantly buzzing with arousal (and often begging me to let him cum). There is so much more to talk about here, but I have to tell you the latest big news.
We have a guy living with us. Shocker, huh? It is not what you people are thinking (you people out here on Literotica, that is), and it is only temporary. I will call him Travis, since he has one of those "cowboy" names. He is the son of one of my mom's best friends, and he has come to stay with us to try to find a job. (There are no jobs back home, and there never will be, unless you are a farmer.) I used to babysit him when I was in high school. Back then, I thought he was an obnoxious kid, but he has changed a lot! He is very tall, and he is funny, and he is even kind of cute! Best of all, he calls me "Ma'am." LMAO!!
"Travis would you unload the dishwasher for me, please?"
"Yes, Ma'am."
LMAO!! I am only like 9 years older than him! I LOVE it!!
He moved in this past Sunday, and he and Robbie hit it off quickly. They both like working on cars, and Robbie has a "project" car. This is probably his third. When I was away at college, he bought this old (like really old), junk truck to rebuild. When I saw pictures of it, I thought he had lost his mind. He rebuilt it, repainted it, everything. When he was done, I was completely blown away. It was absolutely beautiful! When he put it up for sale, it ended up in a bidding war. He made a nice profit off all that work, and he enjoyed doing it too.
Anyway, back to Travis, and a few cons of having him here. First of all, he eats a week's worth of groceries at one meal! I am not sure if we can afford to feed this kid! Secondly, it means we have had to move all our "fun" to the bedroom. Most of it used to happen in the family room. Can't do that anymore! But Travis stays in our guest bedroom which is right next to my home office. Both of these rooms are on the front right side of the house, away from the master bedroom, which is on the left back side of our house. That is a good thing, because sometimes I get a little loud when Robbie is doing his oral duties, which he has gotten VERY good at. It would be so embarrassing if Travis were to hear that!
Ok, I have to get ready to go. I see I have dm's. I will get to them as soon as I can, probably today. I will not be in any calls today, so I will have some breaks here and there.
Oh, gosh, I almost forgot! I have started to train Robbie to try to learn not to cum so fast. It is a brand new "thing" for us, but it is fun, although I laugh a lot (sorry! I can't help it!). I will write more about all that later. All that aside, Robbie is so much more affectionate these days. Our marriage is so much better than it was, and we both look forward to spending time together. Robbie knows that if he is a good boy, in due time, i will let him cum. In the meantime, he services my pleasure whenever I tell him to.
Life is good.
From what I have seen so far, this seems to be completely true!
These are great ideas! Ty!!
I just got home from work, and the boys are not here. The house is empty, and all the lights are off. Robbie's car is gone, but Travis' car is still here, so I guess they have gone off together. I was just about to text Robbie and ask him where he is, but then I realized that is not the question I want answered. The question I sent him...the one I want answered is this:
"Where's my dinner?"
"Where's my dinner?"
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Good.. that is the right question
Robbie and Travis were supposedly "looking for car parts" last night. I could tell they were lying, but I didn't say anything until Robbie and I got in bed. I told him he should not be "looking for car parts" when he should be cooking dinner. When I got up this morning, I found out the truth. In the kitchen, there was a Valentines themed teddy bear and two cards on the counter. "Oh," I thought, "so that's where they were." I suspect that at the last minute, Travis reminded Robbie that the next day is Valentines Day. In fact, I am sure of it. I'm sure Robbie drove off in a panic with Travis in tow.
There were two cards because Travis gave me a card, too. Inside it said, "Thank you for letting me stay here. I hope I didn't pester your mom [too] much." I did not know what he meant about pestering my mom, so I about 15 minutes ago, I asked him. As it turns out, Travis called my mom in November as asked for my phone number so he could ask about staying with us. He said that she said she would check with me, but she never got back to him. So he called my mom again, sometime in December, and got the same run-around. So he called again. My mom didn't say anything to me about Travis staying with us until like two weeks ago. And she never told me that Travis called her. She said Travis' mom called her. I am completely baffled.
I asked Travis if my mom ever gave him my number, and he said no. WTF? I just gave him my number. I can't wait to talk to my mom. This is so weird.
There were two cards because Travis gave me a card, too. Inside it said, "Thank you for letting me stay here. I hope I didn't pester your mom [too] much." I did not know what he meant about pestering my mom, so I about 15 minutes ago, I asked him. As it turns out, Travis called my mom in November as asked for my phone number so he could ask about staying with us. He said that she said she would check with me, but she never got back to him. So he called my mom again, sometime in December, and got the same run-around. So he called again. My mom didn't say anything to me about Travis staying with us until like two weeks ago. And she never told me that Travis called her. She said Travis' mom called her. I am completely baffled.
I asked Travis if my mom ever gave him my number, and he said no. WTF? I just gave him my number. I can't wait to talk to my mom. This is so weird.
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I think your mom has had a perception of something about Travis that you are still unaware of, consciously at least
I am always thinking about that, but I am waiting for "good opportunities." I am also trying to keep from locking him up all the time. It is so arousing, it's addictive. I am trying to pace myself, but I am not sure how successful I will be.
I don't think he meant anything by it. I think he went with the theme of the current moment.
Actually, I just got off the phone with her. She said she felt it was inappropriate to give "another man" my number. I said, "Why didn't you just ask me?" She said, "Because I knew you would say it was ok." **eyeroll**
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I just caught up to your reply. Thanks for the good wishes and I am doing good. The bigest down side of the surgery was that there is not ejaculate but I still have an orgasm. I am lucky.
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