SweetErika
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My guy has laughed spontaneously during sex for two reasons:
- Something strikes him as a tickle - he's ticklish and sometimes it's a fine line between sexual pleasure and tickling
- He's happy - sometimes sexual pleasure and intimacy make him giggle
He's either purposely trying to make you feel bad by letting you wonder, and/or he looks down on you enough to laugh at you, or he's too stupid to make up a reasonable excuse for the laughter to spare your feelings if it was something that was cute and funny, but you'd likely be self-conscious about.
For your part, continuing with the blowjob so he wouldn't bitch and not imposing consequences when he wouldn't explain were bad ideas. That told him that you believe it's alright to laugh at you and not communicate, and he might as well keep doing it in the future, because you're unlikely to do anything about it.
You *might* be able to repair some of the damage by telling him your feelings are hurt and you feel poorly treated VERY clearly. If he doesn't try to fix it right then, tell him you're going to take some time to think about whether or not you want to risk being laughed at again by giving him another blowjob, then follow through on that for a few weeks (and don't make up for it by giving more sex, handjobs, etc.). He's not going to die without oral, even if he's one of those jerks who claims he will and tries to manipulate you into doing it. You have to show him you're not a doormat and you need to feel emotionally safe to have a full, healthy sex life.
And while it's clear you're hurt and frustrated, you do need to chill out with *US*. We don't know why your bf acted like a complete asshole; we can only throw out wild guesses. Most of us would NEVER laugh AT our partners in a mean spirit, without explanation, so it's a tall order to ask us to come up with plausible reasons why he might do that to you. Remember your bf is the one you have the problem with, not those who did their best to help by giving their honest opinions (right or wrong).
- Something strikes him as a tickle - he's ticklish and sometimes it's a fine line between sexual pleasure and tickling
- He's happy - sometimes sexual pleasure and intimacy make him giggle
If he was laughing AT you, and provided no explanation, even though you were clearly upset and/or asked for one, he DID demean you. The laughing could be demeaning. The letting you think you're being made a fool of is definitely demeaning, from what you've said.
He's either purposely trying to make you feel bad by letting you wonder, and/or he looks down on you enough to laugh at you, or he's too stupid to make up a reasonable excuse for the laughter to spare your feelings if it was something that was cute and funny, but you'd likely be self-conscious about.
For your part, continuing with the blowjob so he wouldn't bitch and not imposing consequences when he wouldn't explain were bad ideas. That told him that you believe it's alright to laugh at you and not communicate, and he might as well keep doing it in the future, because you're unlikely to do anything about it.
You *might* be able to repair some of the damage by telling him your feelings are hurt and you feel poorly treated VERY clearly. If he doesn't try to fix it right then, tell him you're going to take some time to think about whether or not you want to risk being laughed at again by giving him another blowjob, then follow through on that for a few weeks (and don't make up for it by giving more sex, handjobs, etc.). He's not going to die without oral, even if he's one of those jerks who claims he will and tries to manipulate you into doing it. You have to show him you're not a doormat and you need to feel emotionally safe to have a full, healthy sex life.
And while it's clear you're hurt and frustrated, you do need to chill out with *US*. We don't know why your bf acted like a complete asshole; we can only throw out wild guesses. Most of us would NEVER laugh AT our partners in a mean spirit, without explanation, so it's a tall order to ask us to come up with plausible reasons why he might do that to you. Remember your bf is the one you have the problem with, not those who did their best to help by giving their honest opinions (right or wrong).
