Laugh while recieving a bj?

[AgonySceneGirl]

For woman - what would you do if someone started laughing when you were giving them a bj?

Men - would you do laugh while recieving a bj?


My honest opinion on this - he's lucky he didnt get his dick biten off.

The reason i ask - last night i was giving my boyfriend a blow job. Giving oral is one of my biggest turn ons. While giving oral i rarely glance up at him. Well i did last night and he started laughing at me. Pissed me off. I was going to stop but i didnt want to listen to the bitching n begging to finish. But seriously - what the heck is up with this? What could have been going through his mind to make him laugh at me while giving him a blowjob?
First and foremost - dont laugh at someone when they have your dick between teeth - - very bad idea. The thought of biting very hard came into my mind a few times.

Any ideas?

 

[JamieB]

I've never laughed while getting a BJ.

That said, you should probably be asking him this question instead of posting it on Lit.

J

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

i did ask him this same question - but all i got was a weird look.
So - i'm asking others what would have been their reaction or why they would have laughed.

 

[PatchIsMe]

The only time I laughed while being intimate with my man was when I was under the influence of some Vicoden. It usually makes me so very sleepy and we can pretend that I am his drugged slave girl but on this night it totally went the other way ! For what ever reason I had fits of uncontrolled laughter ! This was while I was going down on him and while he was inside me. I felt bad the next day but he knew it wasn't anything personal. we have a good laugh over it now.

 

[Duvet_Thief]

I think sex can sometimes be quite funny - or fun, rather, and it can be fun being silly and joking, and not taking it too seriously sometimes. But it depends on the context. There's a difference between sharing a joke while having sex, and one person feeling the other person is laughing AT them. And to be honest when receiving a blow job I think my mind would be on other things...

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

there was no alcohol or drugs or anything involved.
neither of us do drugs or even take prescription meds. We dont go out to the bars on mondays either lol so no influence of anything. He just started laughin at me.

 

[mynameiskate]

It could really be anything, including something that has absolutely nothing to do with the situation at hand. I've been known to start cracking up at the wrong times, and I was really quiet in high school, so imagine "the shy girl" suddenly bursting into laughter in the middle of class. lol. Some people just have minds that will not rest. Try not to worry about it.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

I'm a giggler. I giggle when I'm enjoying myself, so occasionally (okay, regularly) I giggle while we are having sex or enjoying oral.
I was with a guy once who thought I was laughing at him and he got all mad and yelled at me. I never saw him again.
Is it possible that right at that moment when you looked up, you had a funny look on your face? Or maybe something just popped into his head that had nothing to do with you? Or, maybe it was just a giggle of enjoyment?
The best thing to do would be to tell him, I feel like you were laughing at me, and it hurt my feelings. Then see what his explaination is. If he says it was nothing however, you should believe him. Especially if it's an isolated incident.

 

[gloriann]

god, one of my favorite things is to share a laugh with my partner during sex... it's supposed to be fun, remember? Not that the whole thing is a laughing matter, but a laugh, a smile, the enjoyment of each other... lovely...

 

[rthnck]

He's the only one that can tell you why he was laughing but it could any one of a thousand things

1. I've been known to think of other things just to prolong a good bj. It could be funny.

2. Could be just the way you looked at that precise moment that triggered a laugh

3. I know i've laughed when I catch sight of my cats acting silly during sex

4. I even find it funny when my partner overreacts to something (like laughing during a bj). I am usually trying to defuse the situation but it usually makes it worse and I never seem to learn that lesson. Sigh!

The list goes on and on....Get an answer out of him and/or move on.

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

dont respond to this like it was a mutual laughter. He flat out started laughing when i was giving him a bj then refused to give me any kind of answer. you guys are really something thinkin "hey it was just a mutual thing, she's over reacting" . I still cant get a fuckin responce out of him and all i'm getting on here is the same bs. If it was a mutual thing - you honestly think i'd be sitting here posting tryin to figure it out? probably not.
YES i know Sharing a laugh during sex is one thing - this was completely different....It was him flat out laughing at me - he already admitted that part, just wont admit to what it was he was laughing about.

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

forget it.
sick of asking questions to anyone and getting "your just over reacting" as my fuckin answer.

 

[Colton_White]

1. no i won't laugh, but smile.

2.why don't you return the favor, laugh at him, next time while giving him b/j. then he'll understand how it feels?

 

[littlebitshe]

forget it.
sick of asking questions to anyone and getting "your just over reacting" as my fuckin answer.

Some one needs to RELAX! I agree with the "Sex is supposed to be fun" comment! I doubt he was laughing at you. It could have been anything! Try not to be so uptight and just relax and enjoy the moment together.... whether your laughing or being serious. the reason he doesn't have an answer for why he was laughing is probably because it was just part of him enjoying an intimate moment with you.

Also, people responded to your question/situation with their opinions and ways that they think they can help you. Don't be so rude when they are only trying to help!

 

[Down_UnderKid]

im with littlebitshe

calm the fuck down

he could have been laughing for any number of reasons. maybe it was the face u pulled when u looked at him

maybe it was something he saw on tv/net/in a mag about recieving head/giving head

just put it down to one of those minor things

or next time just dont look at him. seems the only reason he laughed was when u looked at him...

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

i'm sure if someone started laughing at you when you were doing something to pleasure them - that it would bug the hell out of you guys too.
I already asked him about why he was laughing - and he said he was laughing at me...Wouldnt tell me anymore than that - just that he was laughing at me.

You cannot tell me it wouldnt bug you - your human, you have feelings as well...
the way i see it - if he stood up with a hard on and i just randomly started laughing - it would royally piss him off...thats how this bs made me feel.

 

[Colton_White]

i'm sure if someone started laughing at you when you were doing something to pleasure them - that it would bug the hell out of you guys too.
I already asked him about why he was laughing - and he said he was laughing at me...Wouldnt tell me anymore than that - just that he was laughing at me.

You cannot tell me it wouldnt bug you - your human, you have feelings as well...
the way i see it - if he stood up with a hard on and i just randomly started laughing - it would royally piss him off...thats how this bs made me feel.

that's why i said 'tit for tat'

that only can make him feel the pain.

don't give him b/j again until he says sorry,
and next time he shows his pecker..laugh away [nothing can make a man more bugging feeling then a woman laughing at his willy.]

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

that's why i said 'tit for tat'

that only can make him feel the pain.

don't give him b/j again until he says sorry,
and next time he shows his pecker..laugh away [nothing can make a man more bugging feeling then a woman laughing at his willy.]

yeah but if i did that - i'd probably be single within a few hours lol

 

[Colton_White]

yeah but if i did that - i'd probably be single within a few hours lol

i don't think so
there is always single males around [online/offline]

and what is more important to you? your self esteem or being single?

 

[Colton_White]

never think his violence is your fault,
domestic violence is a crime.

well i think what he did was mental-bedroom violence on you?

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

he's never done anything violent or demeaning to me.
just this one incident. - - i guess thats why it bugs me so much.

 

[throughfiction]

I have never laughed while getting a blowjob,
nor would I even think to! However, with that said,
try not to think of it as the worst thing in the world.

Yes, it was definitely disrespectful to you,
but maybe he didn't really mean it to insult you.
If you're having this much trouble with such a tiny moment in your sexlife,
then maybe it's the relationship that's at stake here.

Try to talk it out, and if he doesn't want to,
then just leave it alone.

It basically comes down to this...
Forget about it for now, and the next time you're giving him a blowjob,
see if he laughs at you again. If he does, then it's time to put a stop to it.
Just explain to him that you really don't feel comfortable with him laughing
while you're waxing his carrot, and it seems disrespectful. See what he says,
and if he doesn't come to the conclusion that he should stop laughing,
then just tell him you won't give him blowjobs anymore,
because you're tired of being ridiculed.

I, personally, don't think he is ridiculing you,
I think he probably just found some irony in the situation or something
and laughed about it. But, if he keeps doing it, and it gets to you,
then it's definitely time to put on the pants and let him know what's what.

=)

 

[Colton_White]

he's never done anything violent or demeaning to me.
just this one incident. - - i guess thats why it bugs me so much.

you should talk it out with him, say it on his face straight "don't you fucking ever laugh at me again while I'm giving you b/j."


if you don't sort out this mess right now, and just keep complaining here on Lit.. it'll keep acting as a slow-poison inside your mind..in the long term creating a big fight over some other petty issue with him.



its not worth it keeping this thread alive anymore,
cause more people post their opinions more bugging -it'll give to you. [myself included in that 'more people']
so either sort it out with him, or just forget it.

my good wishes be with you.

 

[notalwaysweak]

That would piss me off, especially since he wouldn't give a reason when you asked. I hope he will tell you what was going on soon.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

you should talk it out with him, say it on his face straight "don't you fucking ever laugh at me again while I'm giving you b/j."


if you don't sort out this mess right now, and just keep complaining here on Lit.. it'll keep acting as a slow-poison inside your mind..in the long term creating a big fight over some other petty issue with him.

...

Exactly. Be straight up 100% honest with him about how it makes you feel. Then there are three possible outcomes: 1) he explains and then you're okay 2) he promises to never do it again (and actually doesn't) or 3) you realize that your own self-confidence it what matters and you kick him to the curb
The only way to determine whether or not your relationship will survive is communication. This is obviously VERY important to you, so explain to him what you are saying to us.