Last Longer

[Jereme]

How can I last longer when I'm with my girlfriend.. it usually takes me 5-15 minutes to come even when I'm using a condom.. and it dissapoints here. Sometimes I can go after I cum and keep going but sometimes I cant.

The posistion we usually use is when I'm on top and shes on bottom.

Any help?

 

[CWatson]

First off, this is all hearsay, since I'm a virgin, but this is what I've heard from others and what comes to mind.

1) Put her on top, which some men report increases their stamina.

2) Practice the stop-start method. With every orgasm there's a "point of no return", so do it until you're about to hit that point... and then slow down, or stop, or at least vary the tempo somewhat. Change the style of stimulation. It also increases your stamina (gradually) by giving you more experience with being close to orgasm but holding it off.

3) 5-15 minutes may actually be a fair long time when it comes to intercourse.

4) Why does she want you to last longer? To enjoy the sensations of sex, or so that she hits her own climax? 'cuz the way to do that does not necessarily involve lasting longer.

 

[SweetErika]

While I question whether you're old/mature enough to be having sex, I'll hope for the best and give you this link to many of the threads on lasting longer.

If 15 minutes of penetration isn't enough, you may want to consider upping/improving the foreplay, though. You could also please her after you come with something other than your cock (e.g. toys, hands, mouth) if she's not satisfied when you finish.

 

[southernsky]

I question whether SHE is mature/old enough to be having sex. Tell her to quit obsessing over porn-star-style ideals of how long sex should last and take charge of her own sexual pleasure. She wants you to pleasure her more? She needs to tell you how, and she needs to realize that men and penises are human, and telling someone to change how they are is offensive. Bet she can't control how quickly she cums either. If she came quicker, it wouldn't matter how long you lasted, now would it? Tell her she's the one who should be working on cumming quicker, not making you last longer.

 

[ScottyS]

Learn how to use your PC muscle. There are many effective exercises for this. One system, for instance, is called Kegel exercises.

Beyond that, deep breathing and learning to relax are important. A lot of guys try to hold off ejaculation by trying to decreases sensitivity, e.g, thinking of something asexual. Increased sensitivity, being in tune with your own sexual response, is probably more effective. The more familiar you are with it, the easier it is to know when to use your PC muscle, breathe deeply, etc.

But I would also like to second what Southernsky said.

 

[shiny5437]

While I question whether you're old/mature enough to be having sex, I'll hope for the best and give you this link to many of the threads on lasting longer.

Whether or not he's mature or not I think that life would be a lot easier for everyone if they actually taught this stuff in schools (not in a practical sense though). We learn about the biological aspects of sex but this sort of stuff is actually really useful for young people to know about as they're setting off on the sexual aspect of their lives. It's this void of knowledge plus lack of framework for talking about sexuality that gets filled with porn-star conceptualisations of what 'good' sex is. This ultimately ends up with a lot of unhappy people as evident by the questions that frequently get asked on this site.

Although I hope that's not his sister he's with...

 

[Eilan]

Although I hope that's not his sister he's with...

Maybe it's his mom's friend.

 

[Jereme]

You guys are weird if you think I'm fucking my sister.. or my moms friend.. No im 19 and shes 18 and we just started going out and shit you know.. its been a month and 2 weeks or some odd shit.. but yea I just need to learn how to control it thats all.

 

[SweetErika]

You guys are weird if you think I'm fucking my sister.. or my moms friend..

You're the one who started threads asking for advice on seducing your own sister and mom's friend less than six months ago.

How does bringing up facts make us weird?

 

[Eilan]

You're the one who started threads asking for advice on seducing your own sister and mom's friend less than six months ago.

How does bringing up facts make us weird?

Oh, snap!

 

[xander1083]

Based on my experience I'd love to be on top. Pleasure on both parties. No regrets! Put her on your top on your intercourse.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Edited.

 

[Eilan]

Edited.

Damn. Now I'm curious.

 

[satindesire]

You're the one who started threads asking for advice on seducing your own sister and mom's friend less than six months ago.

How does bringing up facts make us weird?

Red handed.

Now watch as he never comes back to this thread EVER AGAIN.

 

[rosco rathbone]

First off, this is all hearsay, since I'm a virgin, but this is what I've heard from others and what comes to mind.

1) Put her on top, which some men report increases their stamina....

I had to laugh.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Damn. Now I'm curious.

I was just having a little rant about how many threads there are littering HT about cock size, stamina, erections and all manner of male paranoia. How HARD is it for idiots like the OP to do a thread search before kicking off yet another poxy thread devoted to their paranoia, because they're so fucking special they can't possibly glean the same damn advice from everywhere else?

We should just have a bloody 'insecure, under-endowed, clueless fuckwits sign in here' thread to avoid all this shit.

Do we have squillions of threads entitled 'My tits/cunt/ass/throat are inadequate, whatever shall I do?' threads?

No we don't.

Men.

 

[Eilan]

Thanks for clarifying, Velvet.

Do we have squillions of threads entitled 'My tits/cunt/ass/throat are inadequate, whatever shall I do?' threads?

Well, there is this thread, though it's amazing how many people didn't get that it was a parody.

 

[satindesire]

/random/

Squillions.

Squillions squillions squillions.

I love that word.

Squillions squillions squillions squillions squillions squillions squillions squillions squillions.....




/end random/

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Hahaha

I think it's Brit for Gazillions or something.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Thanks for clarifying, Velvet. Well, there is this thread, though it's amazing how many people didn't get that it was a parody.

I know. Good thread that.

 

[shiny5437]

How HARD is it for idiots like the OP to do a thread search before kicking off yet another poxy thread devoted to their paranoia, because they're so fucking special they can't possibly glean the same damn advice from everywhere else?

Just to play devils' advocate, when you go through the thread list you see a situation where it's the less 'experienced' members of the board who tend to ask question whereas the regulars don't.

So we kinda leave ourselves open to having a relative large proportion of poorer OPs which are then answered by more experienced posters.

This is a little sad as surely it's the questions that are asked by the more experienced posters which would be the more challenging and engaging as they would presumably be based on a bit more life experience.

Also, it gives the impression that the board regulars don't have any questions to begin with possibly because they've stopped pushing their own boundaries and are within their comfort zones.

What do you guys think?
*hides under table*

 

[sugaredwalls]

I was just having a little rant about how many threads there are littering HT about cock size, stamina, erections and all manner of male paranoia. How HARD is it for idiots like the OP to do a thread search before kicking off yet another poxy thread devoted to their paranoia, because they're so fucking special they can't possibly glean the same damn advice from everywhere else?

We should just have a bloody 'insecure, under-endowed, clueless fuckwits sign in here' thread to avoid all this shit.

Do we have squillions of threads entitled 'My tits/cunt/ass/throat are inadequate, whatever shall I do?' threads?

No we don't.

Men.

LMAO, you shouldn't of edited, truly funny!

Also, don't forget about threads asking if it's alright to fuck co-workers, mothers, sister's, brothers aunts uncles, cousins....and the dude with a herpe lip down at the mini-mart.

lol I didn't see this for real but some threads are so asinine they may as well say these things: (parodies)

Will a baggie and a rubber band work as well as a condom?
I shot my load in my girlfriend's ear, will she get pregnant?
My 12 inch dick it too big for my wife's pussy, should I divorce her?

And the eternal favorite Lit question: Shaved or hairy pussy.

Sorry, couldn't help myself!

 

[Eilan]

Will a baggie and a rubber band work as well as a condom? Only when paired with a Coca-Cola douche.

I shot my load in my girlfriend's ear, will she get pregnant? Depends. Was she wearing earrings?

My 12 inch dick it too big for my wife's pussy, should I divorce her? Of course not. You should put it in her ass.

Shaved or hairy pussy. Yes. Beggars can't be choosers.

I couldn't resist.

 

[sugaredwalls]

I couldn't resist.

LMAO, you can't accuse us of wasting this space by adding comedic value to it!

 

[timy756]

take all the focus off your own pleasure and how your cock is feeling and go in with the complete mindset that every little thing you are doing is for her. Or get viagra. Wouldn't much know, never had the problem, just my opinion on what would be the case. And if you ask me, 5-15 minutes isn't even warmup time for foreplay, let alone intercourse.