Ladies, Why Do We Allow Men to Fuck with our Minds?

[juicylips]

I am not ranting or pissed.

Just curious as to why we sometimes let men control us. Use us. Take us for granted.

You know. All that fun shit that leaves us in tears.

Tell me why.

JL

 

[Cibo]

Or another question can be: Guys, Why do we allow Women to Fuck with our Minds?

 

[scylis]

guys, why do we let women fuck with our minds, too?

why does anybody let anybody else fuck with their minds? (just to cover all angles)

 

[scylis]

Or another question can be: Guys, Why do we allow Women to Fuck with our Minds?

bastitch!

beat me to it!

 

[Cibo]

Sorry, I hate being bored and not tired...heh

 

[Guest]

Why do we allow PEOPLE to fuck with our minds?

Well, my opinion to this is, we don't want to be alone. When we meet someone that makes our heart throb.....we let things go that should *sound* the alarm, but we ignore it.

Both genders do the same thing.....and we are all guilty of it. Human Nature to want to be coupled with that special human contact.

Nothing wrong with that, IMHO

Moon

 

[juicylips]

Because we're suckers?

Because we really want to believe that they value us, even when they show evidence to the contrary?

I don't know.

You have made three very excellent points. Ones I am sure will be repeated.

JL

 

[Lost Cause]

Fuck with WHOSE minds? Pleez! Being single I can observe better the behaviors of the captive pairs in their natural habitats. Females dragging their male sperm donors to the store to shop, and giving them shit for looking through hot rod magazines. Males dragging their sperm repositories to automotive events, and watching the females try and hide their obvious boredom!
On the matter of gender, my male friends have been good real world examples of the domination of a relationship. My friend, "Steve", was a happy go lucky guy, easy goin'. He rode his hog, had a nice place, and money in the bank. He hooked up with a girlfriend, soon wife, now mother. He is not "allowed" to ride his bike, they moved into a bigger place that HE cannot afford (she quit work when the first rugrat arrived), and he hates his job and life. He used to play guitar in a band. I asked him if he still played, and he told me the music doesn't come to him anymore. He has to wait when she's away to ride hogs with me, and have a beer!
My point is; don't enter into anything if you're not ready for the bullshit that comes with it. Every relationship I've been in has had a female trying to change me to her expectations. Even though I clearly stated my intention of being me, and she be her. That was never enough for any of them, some left with tears, some didn't.
I guess this is another mindfuck, huh?

 

[AusTess]

When a man says i'm worthy,i wanna believe him?

And i wanna give him reason to THINK im worthy?

Needful thing..




I dunno.
*Shrugs*
I wonder,often,though.

 

[foxxxyred]

Re: Why do we allow PEOPLE to fuck with our minds?

Well, my opinion to this is, we don't want to be alone. When we meet someone that makes our heart throb.....we let things go that should *sound* the alarm, but we ignore it.

So very true...

 

[wizbit9]

If i am with a women in a relationship or not i have always treated them with the utmost respect and make them feel like a princess

So when i hear the arguement that all men are bastarsds and the fuck with our heads i dont understand it Women are the most coverted of prizes that this planet has to offer

So the men who do treat women well get sucked into this shite stereotype that all men are bastards

But for the ladies who are out there and do get trearted like shite (and in some cases very badly) i hope you have the strenght to get yourself free and to find someone who will treat you like a princess

 

[MissTaken]

I am not ranting or pissed.

Just curious as to why we sometimes let men control us. Use us. Take us for granted.

You know. All that fun shit that leaves us in tears.

Tell me why.

JL

It is all based on need.
Need for companionship.
Need for affirmation.
Need for attention.
Need for touch.
Need for that "I am special" feeling.
Need for love given and returned.
Need for a hot throbbing cock at our disposal!

 

[LadyG]

Because if we care about someone, we hope they will change and be the perfect, wonderful person that we know is hiding deep inside them.

Doesn't work, but we keep on trying.

 

[Bindii]

Or another question can be: Guys, Why do we allow Women to Fuck with our Minds?

Because we can.

 

[alltherage]

I am not ranting or pissed.

Just curious as to why we sometimes let men control us. Use us. Take us for granted.

You know. All that fun shit that leaves us in tears.

Tell me why.

JL

Now who in the heck would allow that. Not I. There was a time when I did and it was the worst time of my life. I hated me and I thought if only a guy would love me everything else would fall into place. I had a very wide definition of love. Basically if someone paid attention to me sometimes, and didn't set out to hurt me overtly I thought they loved me. Never again.

 

[CarolineOh]

Or another question can be: Guys, Why do we allow Women to Fuck with our Minds?

Because if we don't, you do things like jump into a thread that asks for women's opinions and make it about yours instead.

 

[juicylips]

Because if we don't, you do things like jump into a thread that asks for women's opinions and make it about yours instead.

I was waiting on someone to notice that!!!!

This isn't really a man bashing thread, but a woman one. I am asking why we woman allow these things to come into our lives and cause us pain.

I think alltherage understood perfectly

Thanks, C for posting the obvious!!

JL

 

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[shynsexy]

because its interesting.. always making the other one think about you... its not fun....but sometimes interesting

 

[CarolineOh]

I was waiting on someone to notice that!!!!

This isn't really a man bashing thread, but a woman one. I am asking why we woman allow these things to come into our lives and cause us pain.

I think alltherage understood perfectly

Thanks, C for posting the obvious!!

JL

No problem JL
I'm not a man basher, I just couldn't resist the irony. Seriously, I think so much of our upbringing is to such a large measure geared toward finding and pleasing a man, that it becomes an ingrained part of our self image to the extent that we become vulnerable to manipulation.
Do women fuck with men's heads? Of course, but it's a different phenomenon, and glib comparisons don't really add aything to understanding either.
And as for AllTheRage, seems to me like she always understands perfectly.

 

[juicylips]

Seriously, I think so much of our upbringing is to such a large measure geared toward finding and pleasing a man, that it becomes an ingrained part of our self image to the extent that we become vulnerable to manipulation.
Do women fuck with men's heads? Of course, but it's a different phenomenon, and glib comparisons don't really add aything to understanding either.
And as for AllTheRage, seems to me like she always understands perfectly.

Again, C...you make some very valid points. Some of us never shed the "pleasing the man" syndrome. Makes us easy targets, if that is the right word.

Thanks,
JL

 

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[JazzManJim]

JL, as I see it, there's nothing wrong with holding a "pleasing the man" outlook, just as there's nothing wrong with a man holding a "protect and cherish the woman" worldview. That's the way I truly think things work best.

That being said, though, holding that view doesn't mean that you have to please every man, especially a man which does the same bad things to you over and over again. In the same vein, some women will never appreciate being cherished and protected. Many will take full advantage of it.

I honestly think that women believe, despite every bit of evidence to the contrary, that they can change a man. They can't. Ever. Just because a man's buff, or a good fuck, doesn't mean that he's going to suddenly not be a brutal bastard, or a cruel manipulator, or a lazy layabout. He won't. He'll always revert to type. Fortunately, physical attributes and knowledge about how to be a good lover are things much more easily learned than how to be a good person. I wish more folks would learn that (and for some reason it seems more prevalent among women than men to believe they can change someone).

 

[Wiggles]

It's all about the drama. Sometimes I feel like I'm on a really boring soap opera.

 

[Summery]

JL, as I see it, there's nothing wrong with holding a "pleasing the man" outlook, just as there's nothing wrong with a man holding a "protect and cherish the woman" worldview. That's the way I truly think things work best.

That being said, though, holding that view doesn't mean that you have to please every man, especially a man which does the same bad things to you over and over again. In the same vein, some women will never appreciate being cherished and protected. Many will take full advantage of it.

I honestly think that women believe, despite every bit of evidence to the contrary, that they can change a man. They can't. Ever. Just because a man's buff, or a good fuck, doesn't mean that he's going to suddenly not be a brutal bastard, or a cruel manipulator, or a lazy layabout. He won't. He'll always revert to type. Fortunately, physical attributes and knowledge about how to be a good lover are things much more easily learned than how to be a good person. I wish more folks would learn that (and for some reason it seems more prevalent among women than men to believe they can change someone).

Is it any wonder why I respect you and adore you so much.....
Well said, Jim.