Ladies, what's the thing about being a man's *first*?

[biomass9120]

In general, most women I've known don't find the idea of taking a man's boyhood/being his first sexual experience in that department appealing at all, some of them understandably considered it even as a major turn-off.

But then there is that small marginal group of women I've met who not only like the idea of being a man's *first*, but find it exiting and fantasize about such on a daily basis.

So what is the forum's take on the matter? What do you think is sexy about having sex with an inexperienced man?

I've only heard a few interesting reasons and explanations from women IRL about the matter and would appreciate any answers from ladies from the forum, who have such a (I guess you could call it) fetish.

By the way, this is my first thread on LitEro and I don't know what I'm doing...

 

[SexyKitten1974]

In general, most women I've known don't find the idea of taking a man's boyhood/being his first sexual experience in that department appealing at all, some of them understandably considered it even as a major turn-off.

But then there is that small marginal group of women I've met who not only like the idea of being a man's *first*, but find it exiting and fantasize about such on a daily basis.

So what is the forum's take on the matter? What do you think is sexy about having sex with an inexperienced man?

I've only heard a few interesting reasons and explanations from women IRL about the matter and would appreciate any answers from ladies from the forum, who have such a (I guess you could call it) fetish.

By the way, this is my first thread on LitEro and I don't know what I'm doing...

I'm not into the idea at all, but happen to have some experience. I am my husband's (soon to be ex) first and only. I also am responsible for two others in college, losing theirs.

There are some appeals--they think you're f'ing incredible, less worry about disease, and there's just something sweet about it.

But in all honesty, first-time sex sucks for everyone. Just sayin'. I don't care for screwing people who don't know what they're doing.

 

[desertslave]

I was one guy's "first" many years ago. In general, it's not something that does anything for me, but at the time is was somewhere between sweet and hot. The idea that I was the one he'd been waiting for was exiting and honoring. The fact that he just didn't want to wait anymore was quite sexy (we were engaged and he'd intended to wait til we were married, even though he knew I was already experienced).

 

[JayJ42]

I'm not into the idea at all, but happen to have some experience. I am my husband's (soon to be ex) first and only. I also am responsible for two others in college, losing theirs.

There are some appeals--they think you're f'ing incredible, less worry about disease, and there's just something sweet about it.

But in all honesty, first-time sex sucks for everyone. Just sayin'. I don't care for screwing people who don't know what they're doing.

I must be a rarity then... my first time, I lasted about 5 hours before my first orgasm... there were breaks, but there were long segments of time where I let my girl have her way with me, and I just reveled in the fact that she wanted me to experience it my first time in so many different ways, like a buffet, I guess.... definitely no one-pump-chump-ery.

Of course, I had watched and read erotic materials for years, so I had an idea of how to work my way around things... but my first time was awesome in ways that sex afterwards has rarely been.

on the other hand, had an ex-friend who described herself as a "virgin hunter"... in her particular case, I just figured it was because the poor virgin wouldn't know any better :/

 

[DarkPleasures]

"Boyhood" sure is a creepy thought.

 

[sunandshadow]

I enjoy teaching, helping, showing people cool places and objects I've discovered and watching their pleased surprise, and having others feel grateful toward me. I think relieving someone of their unwanted virginity would be satisfying because it's a little bit of all of those.

 

[lothwen]

In general, most women I've known don't find the idea of taking a man's boyhood/being his first sexual experience in that department appealing at all, some of them understandably considered it even as a major turn-off.

But then there is that small marginal group of women I've met who not only like the idea of being a man's *first*, but find it exiting and fantasize about such on a daily basis.

So what is the forum's take on the matter? What do you think is sexy about having sex with an inexperienced man?

I've only heard a few interesting reasons and explanations from women IRL about the matter and would appreciate any answers from ladies from the forum, who have such a (I guess you could call it) fetish.

By the way, this is my first thread on LitEro and I don't know what I'm doing...

First of all, welcome to Lit!


I was my ex's first, and he was mine, so in our case, neither one of us knew what we were doing LOL.

Personally I don't see the appeal of being the expereinced one who "teaches" the young virgin the ways of carnal pleasure, and it's just because I myself don't particuarly see myself as being this great sexual goddess, so I wouldn't feel like I was doing him any good.

 

[rexhame317]

I deflowered 2 guys, one being my ex husband. (at18) it wasn't that there was appeal, it kind of happened.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I know this question was asked from the female perspective. I dig all of the answers.

When my first gf and I took each other's virginity it was a very mechanical, "get it over with" experience. We later had some pretty good sex.

Ignorance and inexperience are rarely keys to success. In our case, she was very dry. I think she had a lifelong issue in that area, not just with me. So she always needed lube that she didn't have that first time. Ouch.

From a male perspective, I dreamed about a kind (even loving) older girl or woman teaching me how to be a good lover when I was young. But I would think that not every woman would want the responsibility and emotional baggage that could go with that.

In my limited experience many younger ladies (at least back in the day) just wanted to lay back and enjoy, not teach. Others were more active and might have gotten off on teaching.

 

[rbone04]

I must be a rarity then... my first time, I lasted about 5 hours before my first orgasm... there were breaks, but there were long segments of time where I let my girl have her way with me, and I just reveled in the fact that she wanted me to experience it my first time in so many different ways, like a buffet, I guess.... definitely no one-pump-chump-ery.

Of course, I had watched and read erotic materials for years, so I had an idea of how to work my way around things... but my first time was awesome in ways that sex afterwards has rarely been.

on the other hand, had an ex-friend who described herself as a "virgin hunter"... in her particular case, I just figured it was because the poor virgin wouldn't know any better :/

5 hours? Really? Come on dude.

 

[andyomama66]

Really. I'm with rbone... first time 5 hrs? My first time was a matter of minutes -- and I conducted plenty of 'erotic research' in years prior. I think if you polled most men (and that can be painful), their first time would be somewhere between "just barely out of my pants" and "right after she shoved it into her."

 

[lynn-23]

I think the idea of giving a young man his first time is very sexy and beautiful. I was only with one virgin and that was my first time too, so neither one of us knew what to do and consequently it wasn't that good of an experience. So I always had wished my first time had been with some one experienced and more loving. Then I thought about it the other way, what if I was the experienced one to help a guy. I think there is something very beautiful and erotic,and exciting about it.

 

[SexyKitten1974]

Really. I'm with rbone... first time 5 hrs? My first time was a matter of minutes -- and I conducted plenty of 'erotic research' in years prior. I think if you polled most men (and that can be painful), their first time would be somewhere between "just barely out of my pants" and "right after she shoved it into her."

LOL!

So true. But honestly, the speed isn't what makes it "not good" (I hesitate to say "bad"). It's more the nerves.

In my case, when I deflowered by husband, he was very nervous (raised Mormon and all that) and it just wasn't about simple lust. It was a big step for him. Of course, I unleashed a demon, but that's a whole different thing...

 

[biomass9120]

Okey, so far the replies from the ladies seem to establish a notion that being the first experience for a man is ''cute, sweet, beautiful etc.'' (which in my opinion is a far more better explanation than the reply of one girl who ansered to my question simply: ''I don't want any c#nt juices from other women on my lover's face and cock.'')

Also, the teaching element seems to be a key factor with the women who are into the topic at hand, but I'm still curious to know if there's more to this than what we've already posted here?

 

[Scentofawoman]

I would say I have 2 vastly different take On this question.

1) if we are saying that the man is virgin to the act of sex, then at my currant age of late 30's this would not appeal to me to be his first sexual partner. Back in my early 20's I was just a naive and willing to explore so at that time it wouldn't bother me.

2) if this was a man who is starting to explore his sexuality like have a MMF experience, play with anal toys, think about bondage or anything of a fetish then I count it a privilege that men would open up and talk to me about it regardless of his age or mine.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

There are some appeals--they think you're f'ing incredible, less worry about disease, and there's just something sweet about it.

Yep. I can see the appeal there.

Okey, so far the replies from the ladies seem to establish a notion that being the first experience for a man is ''cute, sweet, beautiful etc.'' (which in my opinion is a far more better explanation than the reply of one girl who ansered to my question simply: ''I don't want any c#nt juices from other women on my lover's face and cock.'')

Also, the teaching element seems to be a key factor with the women who are into the topic at hand, but I'm still curious to know if there's more to this than what we've already posted here?

What kind of input are you hoping to get but aren't seeing so far?