Ladies, how thick do you like it?

[rustable]

In college, I had a girlfriend who later become my wife that had recently broken up with her previous boyfriend and I had dated her before him. One night while fucking her, I asked if his dick was bigger than mine. She responded no, that mine was bigger. Well, that made me feel good and I must have smiled when she said that. Later, I asked if I had been the best in bed she ever had (she had been with 3 others). She responded that "his name" (previous boyfriend) knows how to fuck. I questioned her further and she said that he was perhaps a little better. Asking how so, she said that he set the mood with lighting, wine ect. and that he moved slowly. She later admitted that he was indeed the best she ever had. Now given that I supposedly have the bigger dick (I'm 6 3/4 long by a little under 6 inches around, average you could say) I have imagined that he was thicker to some degree. I even pressed her further and asked that if it was just my dick or his dick in her with no movement involved, which one felt better. She meekly said his (a little bit).

So....does thickness matter and how thick do you like it? How about the dildos you prefer? Thinking of his thicker dick in her drives me absolutely wild with lust. Wish I could see it for real for myself but this all happened back in 1984.

 

[Nekole]

A bit girthy is nice, it helps hit the spot just right. But, it's definitely possible to be too thick. Especially for anal, there's a limit there for me for sure. It's definitely less about dimension and more about atmosphere/use/angles.

 

[rustable]

A bit girthy is nice, it helps hit the spot just right. But, it's definitely possible to be too thick. Especially for anal, there's a limit there for me for sure. It's definitely less about dimension and more about atmosphere/use/angles.

But I am willing to bet, that skills being the same between two men, the thicker of the two would feel better to the woman. Your point about being too thick is well taken. Of course there are different sizes of vaginas so that has to be taken into account too. Wonder if most women prefer a dildo that is bigger than there man. My wife doesn’t. She is more into the cliteral aspect of her pleasure.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife's favorite was about two inches thick or a little over six inches around. Length doesn't matter to her, but she likes thick.

 

[anniebaby10]

thicker is better.... if it is too long or you thrust too deep it its the cervix and that is not too much fun.

 

[redheadinyourbed]

Thick is good.

 

[LeinadVirgo]

This is my collection. So any thicker than these feel uncomfortable for me.

That is an impressive collection. I'm equal parts aroused and scared seeing it

 

[honestWithWifie]

thickness / length

I found some charts where there is a matrix of length and girth combinations which are preferable. I discovered this info from "BigDickProblems" on reddit. It was an interesting chart. I'll post if I can locate it again.

 

[BongoGal]

I found some charts where there is a matrix of length and girth combinations which are preferable. I discovered this info from "BigDickProblems" on reddit. It was an interesting chart. I'll post if I can locate it again.

I have questions about that chart. Who is doing the measuring? Are women having sex with guys, noting how satisfying or not the length and girth are, and then getting the measurements? Are they asking the guy for the numbers (ha!) or are the women measuring it themselves with a measuring tape while the guy is hard?

 

[Mtnmike]

I found some charts where there is a matrix of length and girth combinations which are preferable. I discovered this info from "BigDickProblems" on reddit. It was an interesting chart. I'll post if I can locate it again.

That just made my day. In the top, middle of the red

 

[CTim]

I have questions about that chart.

Most of the latest research seems to show we've all been doing a little overestimating.

Gives average worldwide bone pressed length at only 5.16" and girth at 4.59". Women gave ideal size at 6.4" length and 5" girth, but preferred slightly smaller for a long-term mate. Most interesting fact that I found was that anything over 6.3" in length was in the 95th percentile!

https://www.healthline.com/health/mens-health/average-penis-size

 

[Asian_Flower]

I'm not sure many women like having their cervix battered so I guess girth wins every time. My husband is very large in both length and girth, the biggest I ever had but it is definitely his thickness I get the most pleasure from.

 

[BBCfan]

My wife would likely say thickness of 6-7 inches is nice. I know she has handled a cock close 8" in circumference. She is a closet size queen i think.

I'm always a bit shocked and a lot turned on when i show her BBC pics and get her to pick her faves...they are almost always huge but especially thick.

Length without thickness is a waste for her..actually a bit of a turn off..she is very picky about cocks she finds visually appealing. I am too but she is more so than i am.

 

[Sheana_V]

Oh boy. Men and their dick anxiety.

I've had plenty of dick. None of the biggest men by any measure were the best lovers I've had.

In fact, none of the horse dicked men I've been with have been particularly good in bad.

To just answer the OP's question my ideal girth is "a little bigger than I can possibly fit my hand around".

However, different girths (and lengths and shaped and hardness) will allow for diffent techniques to feel better or worse. If your so sollen inside me that there's not really room to move you're just not going to be able to rub right against my g-spot as well as someone less endowed. On the other hand if you're skinny-dicked and you just shove your probiscus in and out of me I'm definitely not having a good time.

A dick resting inside you of any girth isn't really going to feel "Good" regardless of its shape and size. The interrogation you gave your wife is really about your own body insecurities and not at all reflective of any reality which you should actually be concerning yourself with. If you want to be good in bed spend more time looking at your partners eyes and lerning to be responsive to the subtle motions of her body. All that inward facing energy about your own body anxiety is wasted effort you could be putting into being a better lover.

 

[Kate_part2]

A bit girthy is nice, it helps hit the spot just right. But, it's definitely possible to be too thick. Especially for anal, there's a limit there for me for sure. It's definitely less about dimension and more about atmosphere/use/angles.

Exactly. There's thick-good, and then there's thick-ouch. Murky line in between.

 

[chame1eon]

A bit girthy is nice, it helps hit the spot just right. But, it's definitely possible to be too thick. Especially for anal, there's a limit there for me for sure. It's definitely less about dimension and more about atmosphere/use/angles.

I agree about the anal. Too thick and it's flat out impossible.

 

[HoldYouDown]

In college, I had a girlfriend who later become my wife that had recently broken up with her previous boyfriend and I had dated her before him. One night while fucking her, I asked if his dick was bigger than mine. She responded no, that mine was bigger. Well, that made me feel good and I must have smiled when she said that. Later, I asked if I had been the best in bed she ever had (she had been with 3 others). She responded that "his name" (previous boyfriend) knows how to fuck. I questioned her further and she said that he was perhaps a little better. Asking how so, she said that he set the mood with lighting, wine ect. and that he moved slowly. She later admitted that he was indeed the best she ever had. Now given that I supposedly have the bigger dick (I'm 6 3/4 long by a little under 6 inches around, average you could say) I have imagined that he was thicker to some degree. I even pressed her further and asked that if it was just my dick or his dick in her with no movement involved, which one felt better. She meekly said his (a little bit).

She told you everything you need to know to have better sex with her, and yet here you are asking about the importance of thickness (to others) even though you know your dick was bigger.

Read the quote at the bottom of my post, my friend. Now do you know why, all things being equal, she gave the edge to him?

 

[jehoram]

I found some charts where there is a matrix of length and girth combinations which are preferable. I discovered this info from "BigDickProblems" on reddit. It was an interesting chart. I'll post if I can locate it again.

Considering that the average erection is less than 6" long and 4" in diameter, according to most of the surveys I've seen, I'd guess that there are armies of unsatisfied women out there.

 

[chame1eon]

She told you everything you need to know to have better sex with her, and yet here you are asking about the importance of thickness (to others) even though you know your dick was bigger.

Read the quote at the bottom of my post, my friend. Now do you know why, all things being equal, she gave the edge to him?

That's a really good point.

 

[BongoGal]

Wonder if most women prefer a dildo that is bigger than their man.

Not I. I have almost always used a dildo that is less girthy than normal. I just like the idea of sex with a real penis feeling more filling than a toy I sometimes use.

 

[naughtymind]

Oh boy. Men and their dick anxiety.

I've had plenty of dick. None of the biggest men by any measure were the best lovers I've had.

In fact, none of the horse dicked men I've been with have been particularly good in bad.

To just answer the OP's question my ideal girth is "a little bigger than I can possibly fit my hand around".

However, different girths (and lengths and shaped and hardness) will allow for diffent techniques to feel better or worse. If your so sollen inside me that there's not really room to move you're just not going to be able to rub right against my g-spot as well as someone less endowed. On the other hand if you're skinny-dicked and you just shove your probiscus in and out of me I'm definitely not having a good time.

A dick resting inside you of any girth isn't really going to feel "Good" regardless of its shape and size. The interrogation you gave your wife is really about your own body insecurities and not at all reflective of any reality which you should actually be concerning yourself with. If you want to be good in bed spend more time looking at your partners eyes and lerning to be responsive to the subtle motions of her body. All that inward facing energy about your own body anxiety is wasted effort you could be putting into being a better lover.

Well said! I was thinking along the same lines. Who the hell asks a woman how their dick compares to previous lovers while actually having sex with her?!?! That would be a huge buzzkill for me. When I’m having sex with someone, I want to focus on each other’s bodies and shared pleasure; not interrogate them about how great I am.