Ladies, a moment of your time please

[MunchinMark]

Whilst wandering through the Byzantine paths of my thoughts, I began to wonder about something. I realise that one person's answer is not the whole story. So as many of you as possible please answer this quandry.

Does a woman derive personal pleasure from giving oral sex, and from what aspect of the act?

My present SO considers it to be something that you just have to do. Is this common? Come along, ladies, don't be shy.

 

[Sammyjo]

No one HAS to do anything...and if you don't enjoy it, don't do it...

Personally, it depends on who I am with. I know, most people think one dick is the same as any other dick...no, it isn't. There is only one man who I have truly enjoyed sucking off...the rest? I may have done it on occasion, but I've only derived exquisite pleasure from doing it for this one person. Why only him? I don't know.

I would imagine you could ask the men the same question about giving oral sex to women. Some don't do it at all. Some LOVE it. Some do it infrequently. Some will do it with one woman, but not another.

 

[Hecate]

I think what turns me on most when giving oral sex is to know it turns my partner on. The feeling of power to be able to make the other person feel that good *S*... and it is a very direct and intimate form of pleasuring (imho).

For me it still is a lot "easier" to let someone touch me intimately than to lay back and spread my legs for that close an "examination" (well as a matter of fact oral attention doesn't only bring the lips and tongue close to "down there" but as well the nose and eyes) and then to even feel good enough to actually relax to enjoy it. So I would assume that it is about the same with a guy letting me suck his precious jewel ... quite a bit of trust involved in my eyes to let something dangerous as my teeth get that close to it *winks*

So what do I get out of it? The feeling of intimacy, the confirmation that I am trusted and the knowledge that I could do something as wonderful as give sexual pleasure in that very intimate way to a person I care for.

Real turn off for giving oral attention though is smell or the feeling a thorough shower would be in place first... yuck!!!!!

 

[CreamyLady]

I just love making him feel good; a lot of my pleasure comes from that.

That and the fact that he's a very reciprocal person.

 

[Jade]

I have talked with several friends about this actually, so perhaps I can offer some assistance.

There are several factors that go into making ANY sexual experience pleasurable or unenjoyable as the case may be.

I mean, imagine intercourse with an unresponsive partner.... someone who just lies there, bored... how would you feel?

Giving oral sex to a man, admittedly, is very tiring (as I am sure giving it to a woman is as well) ... it strains the neck muscles, so it has to be worth it. If the guy takes 10 minutes to come to orgasm, and her neck is practically unable to hold itself up for the next day or so, then she must really like the guy! However, if he doesn't take so long, then it allows the woman to be more creative and active, b/c she knows she won't have to do it for too long.

Also, not just "quantity" (of time) but "quality." IF the guy is unresponsive, or wants her to be in a position that is extra uncomfortable... then how can she enjoy it? However, if he touches her body and moans and is obviously enjoying himself, then she can get some pleasure out of it.

Finally, the sperm factor... haha.
If he had onions for dinner and she is a swallower... do ya think she is gonna enjoy a load of that?

 

[Expertise]

Jade I know it wasn't your intent but your little diatribe really turned me on.

BTW I hate onions.

 

[Patryn]

Oral sex isn't my favorite act, but I don't loathe it either. For me, it's kind of a power thing, knowing that I control his pleasure. I've talked to some of the guys I've been with, and they say the same thing about performing oral on a lady.

 

[Ezzie]

I personally don't like giving oral sex. I chalk it up to bad experiences and don't do it often. But before all the bad things, I didn't mind doing it. It's a power trip for me. Not big on the taste though, however, I've heard that drinking lots of Mountain Dew will sweeten it up a bit. hehe

 

[Jade]

Jade I know it wasn't your intent but your little diatribe really turned me on.

BTW I hate onions.

Expertise... wow that was so easy! Did I really turn you on?

AHHHHh a man who hates onions, how sexy is that!

 

[Expertise]

There is just something about you that lowers my excitement threshhold Jade.

And I didn't hate onions until you wrote that....

 

[Whispersecret]

I used to not be crazy about giving oral sex, but it's grown on me. I like that feeling of power, which I didn't really feel before. Up until about a year ago it felt like a compulsory reciprocal act. If I wanted oral, I had to be willing to give it. But now, I like it and I've noticed that my husband is much more vocal in his response as I'm doing it which is very encouraging.

However, I really really really appreciate it when it's clean. That first taste, if it's reminiscent of old urine...<shudders>

On the other hand, giving head in the tub, the shower, or the jacuzzi...mmmmm. Very nice.

 

[Jade]

There is just something about you that lowers my excitement threshhold Jade.

And I didn't hate onions until you wrote that....

I sure hope I get to be the one to raise you to "guru" status Expertise

 

[Expertise]

That would be right as rain Jade.

Can you fit me for the cool hat and teach me the secret handshake too?

Or if there is some other ancient and arcane ceremony where the Guru "annoints" the initiate with oil etc. I can imagine no one I would rather have doing the annointing (is that a word?).

Have a good day cutie.

 

[Jade]

Expertise... um actually yes it is a very ritualistic ceremony... a right of passage sort of thing really.

And no special hat...but special "pants." I am not much of a seamstress (again, one less womanly quality for me) but I would be willing to um.. measure you for those.

And yes... you see, you have to drip oil onto someone who is already a guru and rub it into their body... to show that you respect the guru status and all that it is... yea uh yea that's it and um...
then you have to um...
well, I am sure I will think of more... gimme some time!


Ack, late for work again.. see where flirting gets me?

 

[Expertise]

Just make sure to measure both inseams. And use the old carpenters addage "measure twice cut (frightening word considering the context) only once"

Which type of oil does my esteemed Guru mentor prefer Almond or Vanilla?

 

[April]

Expertise don't forget the requisite backrub!

 

[Expertise]

Your wish is my command April ... should you arrive first...if not... YOU remember the back rub

 

[Isabella Thorne]

Giving head

oh marky mark hon .. something she "has" to do??? oh man that poor woman .. she is not getting off i tell you ..

well i never used to like it .. and just look at me now lol ..

ummm i love it now cause it makes me feel so slutty .. and the sluttier i feel the more turned on i get .. also i love turning my partner on BIG time .. that turns me on more .. it is like a circle where we feed off eachother's highs .. getting more and more turned on from eachother's "turned-on-ness" lol ..

and another thing too i want to say please .. a big turn on while i am going down on my b/f .. when i am on my knees and he is sitting down .. he will tell me to spread my legs and play with myself while i am sucking him ... that turns us both on big time .. and he talks to me constantly .. calling me his slut .. and i love to deep-throat cause that makes him hotter and then he tells me what a slut i am to deep throat him ..

OMG .. k now i am getting hot ..

 

[dancinvixen]

Yanno, I love to give oral, my only problem is that with my husband (and his damned mental control over himself) it takes A LOT to get him off. Also, no matter what, (and please don't tell me it takes a lot of practice) but I am completely unable to deep throat. God knows, I wish I could, but for some reason, even when I am completely relaxed, my gag reflex is there and in force (major force). I have tried using everyone's suggestions of practice, and yet nothing works. SO i guess I am one of a few women, who cannot deep throat. <pout> But I still enjoy being able to give my partner exquisite pleasure with my mouth.

 

[Thumper]

Why deep throat?

I do not understand this fascination with the deep throat technique...I have had it done once and I didn't particularly enjoy it...most of the sensation is in the first couple of inches anyway...

I have also been with women who only did it out of some sense of obligation and my thoughts were...don't bother.
Attitude is the biggest factor in whether I enjoy it or not....If I have to ask for it then never mind...

Asking for it falls in there with paying for sex...It doesn't work for me. However, I am Very appreciative when I am blessed with that exquisite attention because I don't expect it and view it as a gift...

As for the reciprocal...I LOVE pleasing a lady and will do it without hesitation...I love driving a woman to the absolute edge...where she actually physically pushes me away....That's what makes my world go round!

 

[Hecate]

Asking for it ??

Uhmmm .... how about a heartfelt:

"Get down on your knees slut and suck me off! NOW !!! and you better do a good and thorough job without spilling a drop!"
*insert stern gaze and a firm hand in hair here*


Oooops - now where the hell did THAT come from??

 

[Isabella Thorne]

Over the rainbow ...

Originally posted by Thumper As for the reciprocal...I LOVE pleasing a lady and will do it without hesitation...I love driving a woman to the absolute edge...where she actually physically pushes me away.... That's what makes my world go round!

ooooo god Timmy .. that is so fucking amazing .. that is what my lover does to me .. drives me over the edge ... to where i have to push him away because i cum so hard that it feels like my body, soul and mind will explode .. that never happened to me before him and he says that never happened before with a partner of his ...

so again wow ...

and bout deep-throating .. i just want to add please vixen that yes i do gag, too .. that is when i stop deep-throating and continue with licks, etc. lol

 

[Savage Kitten]

actually... I am posting this before i read any other comments .. sometimes i tend to let my opinion sway according to what others have said.

The only way i know how to explain how i feel about 'giving head' is that i have an oral fixation.. i love having something in my mouth.. it is soothing and satisfying to me .. i am soooo content....i love the feel of a cock in my mouth.. whether it be full or slender long or short.... my fav is medium to short in length with a nice fat juicy head... i love the kinda guy that leaks a lot of precum i love to start sucking on a guy when he is soft and flaccid... feeling him swell in my mouth is just way too awesome.. the more the man gets into it the hotter i get.. i have been with men who lay back and let me go to town.. and then i have been with those who coax me with their hot words and strong hands.. i love it when a man can tell that i am really getting into it.. i get so wet... and my pussy muscles start grasping at an imaginary cock.... almost everytime i am sucking cock i fantasize someone slipping behind me and fucking me while i suck my guy off

haha hmmmm... perhaps i've gotten a bit carried away here... a little too much info?? *wink*

to answer your question... even IF the guy didn't like it... i would suck his cock off because i love doing it soooo much!

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PS >>>something i wanted to add.. i haven't gone down on every guy i have been with just like i haven't had anal sex with everyone of them... those 2 things to me are special.. and it may sound totally wrong but i feel like the guy has to 'deserve' it before i do it.. .and i really don't feel they 'owe' me the same if i go down on them... although.. having a guy go down on me is rather awesome ~

PSS >>> anyone ever heard of a fruit COCKtail?? hehe my friend told me she had a slice of peach in her mouth once when she went down on her boyfriend.. gawd talk about yummy!! and i can only imagine how that felt for him... i've thought about expierementing with banana pudding .. warm choco syrup... and oh yessss i definitely gotta try the peach thing.. but first.... i gotta find a willing volunteer hehe

[Edited by Savage Kitten on 08-03-2000 at 03:00 PM]

 

[Savage Kitten]

Re: Why deep throat?

I do not understand this fascination with the deep throat technique...

the more i practice the better i get at taking a guy deeper into my mouth/throat. it has suprised me that most guys i have given head to are very very sensitive on the end of their penis... so much so that they didn't want me to do the little nibble and sucky thing i like doing most.. so i suppose its these men that enjoy deep throat i bet its also the ideal of 'fucking' her mouth that drives them crazy too

 

[Thumper]

Goin' into the country and eat a lot of peaches!

Ummm.....I just cleaned the three local grocery stores shelves of all the peaches they had!

Now to truck'em down to Florida!

That Savage Kitten...she's a real "peach" she is!