"Kitten"

[KillerMuffin]

If I ever actually meet a woman named Kitten, I'll probably slap her for GP.

There's a few things in the romantical BDSM porno that just completely drives me insane. The words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" are right up at the top.

So I have a question.

How many of you kinksters actually use the words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" during your normal BDSM activities? Is this a normal thing? Maybe the porn I've been reading has just been particularly revolting sugar fantasy, but it seems to me that these three words have been used so frequently that they're cliched and vaguely impersonal. Maybe it's just my low tolerance for sugar fantasy.

Of course, now that I think on it, nearly all of these stories are written by the adoring submissive who worships her master and her master has all of the character development of drywall.

Maybe that's the problem. The sub is like one of the kids from Charlie Brown and the masters are like the adults. "Blah blah blah, Kitten."

 

[Never]

Eh.. what's wrong with calling someone Kitten?

 

[DustyWolfe]

Jen will sometimes refer to me as being her "cherished pet" when talking to others or she will tell me that I am such when I am feeling down. But most of the time when you are doing anything D/s she calls me "little love" or her "sweet one"

 

[artful]

If I ever actually meet a woman named Kitten, I'll probably slap her for GP.

There's a few things in the romantical BDSM porno that just completely drives me insane. The words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" are right up at the top.

So I have a question.

How many of you kinksters actually use the words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" during your normal BDSM activities? Is this a normal thing? Maybe the porn I've been reading has just been particularly revolting sugar fantasy, but it seems to me that these three words have been used so frequently that they're cliched and vaguely impersonal. Maybe it's just my low tolerance for sugar fantasy.

Of course, now that I think on it, nearly all of these stories are written by the adoring submissive who worships her master and her master has all of the character development of drywall.

Maybe that's the problem. The sub is like one of the kids from Charlie Brown and the masters are like the adults. "Blah blah blah, Kitten."

There are many words or names that I use as a *special* addressment for my sub. Each of them are used SPARINGLY, but all that you have presented and MORE,...I have used at one time or another. I tend to more frequently use the word or name of addressment that PLEASES my sub,...more than any other. I hope this answers your query.

 

[Shadowsdream]

words words words...

I occassionally refer to my slave ( also an unpopular word) as My pet...maybe twice a month....I prefer to call him My slut!

Every night as he lays his head on my breast he thanks Me for allowing him to be My pet..amongst other things. Words are subjective... they need to be taken in the spirit of the moment by the people they effect.

 

[WriterDom]

I've used pet. Sometimes it can give a potential or new submissive the warm fuzzies. But everyone is different. Slut was hard for me. Along with hair pulling, one of those things that worked against my southern upbringing. And not all submissives are sluts. But some get off on it.

But kitten? no, never crossed my mind.

 

[Lancecastor]

Hey Muffin...

...when I saw your thread I thought maybe you were referring to a friend of mine I call Kitten when her drrtygrrl side has control.

In fact, K-Muff, I've known a few young ladies who really dig being called Kitten.

I think Kitten ranks with Princess, Pet and Doll that way.

They reek of Barbie's Bondage Bedroom and the Kinky Ken Activity Set in terms of their patriarchical syrup content....but I find chixdigit and the under 30 set in particular seems to get a retro turn on from it.

And as it happens, MuffyK, I kinda like it too.

Some like sugar coatings, some like sours, some like sweet & sour.

Go figure.

Lance "Pookie" Castor

 

[cellis]

Himself refers to me from time to time as "pet". I like it. Only one other person has ever called me that...

a Domme whom I have the biggest crush on (Himself knows about it of course!).

KM I know you don't get it, the pet names I mean. But the first time he called me "pet", it just made me go all gooey inside. I cannot tell you why.

He doesn't call me that all time, usually when we play. The only other time he has referred to me as "pet" is when we were meeting people in the scene and he introduced me as his "pet". I don't feel that this diminishes me or demeans me in anyway.

He does on occassion refer to our third as "our treasure". It makes her feel good when he does this and it costs neither of us anything to do so.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Nope, we don't use the cutesy names. I'm right there with ya KM, I personally don't like to be called kitten or anything close to it. I'm addressed as either slave or slut, most times during play.

dixi

 

["angel" eve]

i need a sugar rush, how about looking in Hallmark.

Killer Muffin, i have to agree that the sugary stuph is well... shite.

but i have to be fair to the rest and admit that i do tollerate being called "my princess" by my girl when she's in control. same with "my love"as a bit of a concelation when i'm feeling sad. i don't much like either name, but i like her tone. i like her voice.
those are what make it special.

at the same time i don't like being called slave, slut, bitch or anything of that vein either.

i melt when she calls me "miss zacharym" though. i just want to hug her. or when she calls me "angel".

but whatever she calls me, it's the way she says it that matters most.

 

[Kuurspet]

He will call me pet in some of our warmer, fuzzier moments, and he sometimes addresses me that way in email or cards. But in a scene, he uses either my name or calls me girl. I like being called pet, I find it kind of objectifying. For me it ranks on the same level as being called slave.

K (which stands for Kuurspet)

 

[Quint]

Haven't been called "pet" but would enjoy it if the right person said it. Prefer the crueler, more demeaning ones everyone else has mentioned. If it's simple D/s, no humiliation, I like "girl." "Slave" I generally avoid because the situation hasn't been right for that yet.

I've called a good friend Kitten, but if there was a sexual undertone, it definitely was not BDSM.

 

[SexySusan]

A short excursion into international nicknames

I have to admit I like "pet". It's so much nicer than most German nicknames. Here, people say Mausi ("mousy") or Schneckie ("snaily"). Alright, these may be 'nilla nicknames. But still ... yuk! They're just for men who can't remember their girlfriends' first names because they change so often.

But "pet" ... It's short. It's simple. It's nice and demeaning at the same time. As I said, I like it ...

 

[KillerMuffin]

Cellis, believe it or not, I use pet names, too. I really do understand the use of pet names between real people. I get the point. Pet names are terms of affection and love.

However, I'm not talking about reality. I'm talking about fantasy lives, specifically the posted fantasy lives you'll find frequenting the BDSM story category.

These strike me as being completely, well, unrealistic. At what was it, two? three in the morning? I wasn't very coherent and the only things that I noted about these "sugar fantasies" was the repeated use of "kitten."

I call them sugar fantasies because they were syrupy in their romantization of the genre. They're like a leather version of Disney. Master is Prince Charming who loves and adores and knows exactly what's needed without being told. subbie is shy and fearful at first, then blossoms into a beautiful treasure under the careful, loving tutelage of Master Perfect. Suddenly, she's the uninhibited, wild, and loving submissive. It's not that I think a relationship like this can't happen, it's that I think it can't happen in three hours in a motel room with a man you've only met online/just met/or never had a relationship with.

The problem, now that I've gone back and read them again, with caffiene even, isn't the sugar or the fantasy. It's not kitten, either. It's the dom. The dom is total onion paper. There's no humanity there. There's nothing to this person at all. He's like a paper doll with a flogger. The sub isn't much better either. Nothing in her life changes until he changes it for her.

Thankfully, a lot of these are written in second person--automatic back click--so I can avoid them easily enough.

Then again, who'm I to talk. I wanted to be a horse when I grew up.

 

[Shadowsdream]

KillerMuffin

lol....I so agree with the chat room full of flower petals for subs to dance through blissfully while the Dominant creates the perfect treasure to be offensive..silly and pathetic...so well put...

BUT

My favourite part of the last text was the disclosure about your lifetime dream of growing up to be a horse!

 

[cellis]

I think that you have to be a really good writer, KM, to even begin to transfer all of what happens with us to paper. I don't know that I could ever be that kind of writer.

Too, I think that people just sometimes write from a perspective of what an audience expects, not what is real.

 

[cellis]

Oh and by the way, KM, I wanted to own a horse when I grew up.

I had fantasies of being Alex in the Black Stallion!

 

[sexy-girl]

i call her cow sometimes does that count

i have to say something serious now on this post or i will be in trouble so what i will say is that i've learned from reading this forum that most of the people here are very very real ... and not at all like the stereotypical master or submissive ... it makes me happy when i see some of the submissive's on this board are very independent and strong willed ... nothing like the stereotypical "kitten" image for a submissive

 

[monster666]

KM, you know that this sounds pretty silly coming from someone nicknamed "Muffin" don't you? God, I love ya for this one.

If I ever actually meet a woman named Kitten, I'll probably slap her for GP.

There's a few things in the romantical BDSM porno that just completely drives me insane. The words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" are right up at the top.

So I have a question.

How many of you kinksters actually use the words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" during your normal BDSM activities? Is this a normal thing? Maybe the porn I've been reading has just been particularly revolting sugar fantasy, but it seems to me that these three words have been used so frequently that they're cliched and vaguely impersonal. Maybe it's just my low tolerance for sugar fantasy.

Of course, now that I think on it, nearly all of these stories are written by the adoring submissive who worships her master and her master has all of the character development of drywall.

Maybe that's the problem. The sub is like one of the kids from Charlie Brown and the masters are like the adults. "Blah blah blah, Kitten."

 

[Never]

Yes but, KillerKitten isn't a paper doll.

 

[monster666]

KillerKitten? LOL, reminds me of the killer rabbits in Monty Python's "Holy Grail" movie.

And something about "holy handgrenades".

Yes but, KillerKitten isn't a paper doll.

 

[Silverlily]

My husband's called me Kitten for years and believe me, there's nothing sugary, romantic, or submissive about it.


whatever...

 

[Never]

Now that I think about it.. I have seen Killer bite a few people's heads off in my lifetime.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Having male subs, I prefer boy, toy, slut, pussyboy, worm, and sissy.

Ebony <cause it's the truth, they are all that and more>

If I ever actually meet a woman named Kitten, I'll probably slap her for GP.

There's a few things in the romantical BDSM porno that just completely drives me insane. The words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" are right up at the top.

So I have a question.

How many of you kinksters actually use the words "Kitten," "treasure," and "pet" during your normal BDSM activities? Is this a normal thing? Maybe the porn I've been reading has just been particularly revolting sugar fantasy, but it seems to me that these three words have been used so frequently that they're cliched and vaguely impersonal. Maybe it's just my low tolerance for sugar fantasy.

Of course, now that I think on it, nearly all of these stories are written by the adoring submissive who worships her master and her master has all of the character development of drywall.

Maybe that's the problem. The sub is like one of the kids from Charlie Brown and the masters are like the adults. "Blah blah blah, Kitten."

 

[MzChrista]

Sometimes with male subs who like humiliation you gotta watch it or you get silly and start making yourself laugh thinking up names for them. I was doing a scene with a friend of mine and her sub and she called him sperm burper and it sounded so stupid we couldnt stop laughing.
Then he started making jokes about it and we had to beat the fucking snot out of him.