Keeping the spark alive

[BoredAsianWifey]

Being married 20 years, 2 kids, and him working 7 days a week (12+ hours days), I work 4 days a week. Its getting hard to keep the spark alive.

How does everything keep there sex life active?

 

[muycurioso]

I am soon to be single

I tried but wife wasn't interested. We used to have a lot of fun.

 

[BoredAsianWifey]

I tried but wife wasn't interested. We used to have a lot of fun.

Know how you feel. Hubby been busy with work and kids. Last year I could count the number of times by a single hand.

 

[Grey Shadow]

It can be hard. Especially because nothing kills sex drive like physical exhaustion. One tip I have is if you have gotten out of the habit of having sex is that you can't be subtle or elaborate. As nice as romance is I find that its much more practical to be direct. Conversations like this work well.

"I want to eat your pussy."
"Are you kidding? I haven't had time for a shower in three days."
"Make time for a shower."
"Tonight then."
Later that night.
"God that shower felt good. What were you saying about my pussy?"

 

[magicalmoments]

You have not said anything about your current level of sexual activity so it is difficult to know what to suggest.
But for what it's worth: discuss the problem, find out if you both want to solve the problem or call it quits.
If you want to solve the problem start discussing your sexual fantasies, be blunt be totally honest and be respectful. Act out some of those fantasies in role play, or if you agree in real life. Watch porn together, have a joint profile on Lit or other erotic websites. Get some on line sex talk with similar couples.
Make time to do it, but do it.

 

[tjernst]

Talk about it

Ask if he minds you being happy while he works. When he asks what do you mean say do you mind if I watch porn and use visions of other men to bring me pleasure. See what his reaction is

 

[nakdraven]

Being married 20 years, 2 kids, and him working 7 days a week (12+ hours days), I work 4 days a week. Its getting hard to keep the spark alive.

How does everything keep there sex life active?

Making your relationship/sex a priority. At the moment, work seems the priority, unless your intentional, it won't happen. Try doing something different, shave or not shave, wear sexy clothes/underwear, or no underwear. Masturbate in front of him. Be suggestive and fun in public. Send him a naughty picture or text. Ring him up and telling how you are masturbating right now and want him badly. Tell him to do something to you or do something to him that you know is edgy.

Don't be easily discouraged or bitter - but really make a really big effort to create time, intimacy, desire and hopefully fun with sex.

 

[BoredAsianWifey]

Making your relationship/sex a priority. At the moment, work seems the priority, unless your intentional, it won't happen. Try doing something different, shave or not shave, wear sexy clothes/underwear, or no underwear. Masturbate in front of him. Be suggestive and fun in public. Send him a naughty picture or text. Ring him up and telling how you are masturbating right now and want him badly. Tell him to do something to you or do something to him that you know is edgy.

Don't be easily discouraged or bitter - but really make a really big effort to create time, intimacy, desire and hopefully fun with sex.

Time, energy, and drive seem to be the main problem. There is only a limited hours in the day and don't have as much energy as before.

 

[magicalmoments]

The drive is something you can only work out by talking about it.
The time and energy you can adapt too. Not every sex session has to be a marathon with both you ending with an orgasm. Have quickies, touch him intimately as you pass by, let him touch you,

 

[UK_Jill45]

We hit a dip in our marriage and when I did start to feel the need for sex I had a brief affair which I admitted and he told me about various times he had strayed. We talked it out and I found that he enjoyed the thought of me with another man. We involved one of my friends in our marriage as hubby had a stronger sex drive than me and I some how felt I owed him more. This led to us opening up to a 3 way relationship for a while, it helped a lot and we started to experiment more and that led us in to a different way to explore our sex life.

 

[nakdraven]

Time, energy, and drive seem to be the main problem. There is only a limited hours in the day and don't have as much energy as before.

Sorry to hear that.
I guess you both have to put a value on your sexual relationship. Hope things improve for you both.

 

[GD88]

Being married 20 years, 2 kids, and him working 7 days a week (12+ hours days), I work 4 days a week. Its getting hard to keep the spark alive.

How does everything keep there sex life active?

What do you think your husband can do and have you communicated that to him?

What do you think you can do and have you done it?

Just to answer the question, as a husband, I've found that being interested in her for reasons other than sex helps. And she did communicate to me about wanting me to be interested in her "for things other than sex".

My wife likes to cook, I help her around the kitchen, we invariably talk about what's going on in our lives. We exchange opinions, we joke. I help clean up afterwards. I flirt about I don't otherwise show physical affection under than brief pecks. And what do you know, it wasn't long before she started to wear dresses that show off her body when she's cooking and brushing her tits against hand again.

 

[JoeBeans2751]

Take some time OFF from work! Can you get someone to watch the kids???? All work and NO play its a BIG cause off divorce and other things.....

 

[Hipshot1554]

It all begins with communication, and making time together a priority. It takes two to make that work.

 

[EdEc]

Being married 20 years, 2 kids, and him working 7 days a week (12+ hours days), I work 4 days a week. Its getting hard to keep the spark alive.

How does everything keep there sex life active?

12 hrs x 7 days is a rough schedule. I understand that he needs time to shower, eat, sleep and change clothes. Is there a chance you can meet him for a "nooner" in the car? Maybe a blow job or some muff diving? It's better than nothig.

 

[OldFred65]

Being married 20 years, 2 kids, and him working 7 days a week (12+ hours days), I work 4 days a week. Its getting hard to keep the spark alive.

How does everything keep there sex life active?

The spark has never died in our family and my Asian wife is almost 72.

 

[Dorc]

Tough one

Having both parents work, several kids, sports, activities, cook dinner... who the heck has time for sex? It takes effort.... now, after 32 years we are empty nesters, sex has never been better, she’s my gf and honestly, God has been the center of our marriage since day one..... I’m not perfect by any stretch but it’s nice to share new experiences together including our first grand child. Both our kids have told us what good role models we are for them. Marriage ain’t easy. She reads trashy novels I like porn, occasionally, but neither rules our lives.

 

[SharesMe]

You just have to make up the time somehow somewhere. Doesn’t have to be an all out fantasy an hours on end in the bedroom, sometimes just a quickie to let each other know you guys are very much into each other. And if that means it’s in the back room, shower, car, wherever it needs to be. And that’s how things are kept exciting.

 

[BoredAsianWifey]

Spice thing up

Try to spice things up last night. Went to dinner with hubby and another girl. But hubby got call back to work since it got busy because people got scared of the incoming snow storm.

 

[KinkyLaughs]

Try to spice things up last night. Went to dinner with hubby and another girl. But hubby got call back to work since it got busy because people got scared of the incoming snow storm.

I would've Risked it for you two! Haha.

 

[tjernst]

Beautiful

You are absolutely gorgeous! Is that your daughter?

 

[Escierto]

I practiced law for a number of years and I probably handled over 500 divorces. Here is what I can tell you based on that experience. If a couple is still having sex no matter what else is wrong in their marriage, there is hope. When a couple is no longer having sex, their marriage is finished. They may continue to live together as friends but the marriage is over.

 

[Justfantasies]

Try to spice things up last night. Went to dinner with hubby and another girl. But hubby got call back to work since it got busy because people got scared of the incoming snow storm.

You and the other girl? You both are so hot.

 

[Mtnmike]

Try to spice things up last night. Went to dinner with hubby and another girl. But hubby got call back to work since it got busy because people got scared of the incoming snow storm.

Tell me he didn't? Hate to say it but having been through same thing, your marriage is in big trouble, if not over.
You two ladies are Absolutely Gorgeous!!!

 

[luverof69]

Try to spice things up last night. Went to dinner with hubby and another girl. But hubby got call back to work since it got busy because people got scared of the incoming snow storm.

We have been married for 35 years and have found that good communication is the key. For a time, I was working 11+ hours/day, 6 or7 days/week. There were nights where I was so tired I could hardly eat dinner, let alone think about sex. We both understood the situation and did the best we could by talking things out and understanding each-other. We made it through.
I hope everything works out for you.

P.S. -Wow, both of you ladies are extremely attractive.