Just wondering....

[Guest]

Any of you ever feel just amazingly invisible on this site?

Let me clarify a little bit: I don't do the "pity" thing well, nor am I looking for sympathy at all. (hence the unregistered status for this post) I just lately seem to be finding myself wondering what the heck I must be doing wrong.

I interact with all types of people from all walks of life.

I interject my opinions and thoughts in a wide variety of threads.

I have even gone so far as to PM people in an attempt to become more personable.

In the meantime my posts seem to go unanswered, my threads simply die off, and on occasion even my PM's are ignored or flat out denied.

I'm not a newbie. I'm not sitting on 5,000 posts either. So I have to wonder if it's just me being over-dramatic, if perhaps I'm just an ass, or if it's not just me.

This is sort of a rant thread, I guess. And, I'll apologize for the use of the unregistered name. (Since I typically hate when people do it)

Anyhow, back to the boards.

 

[Parkay]

I have seen this happen to people. I don't like seeing a post someone has taken the time to share go unanswered. Especially if it is interesting. You can PM me and I'll answer if that helps.

 

[riff]

Don't worry about it. Yes. I have felt ignored.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Just give it more time and find your niche. Lit is massive and so fast moving that many posts go over looked.

I hope you don't continue to feel that way.

 

[Tantanah]

I've felt invisible at times, but just remember this isn't your life.

 

[estevie]

I think everyone feels like that at one time or another.

If I knew who you were I could be more specific on why I do/don't post to your threads or why I do/don't like you.

 

[JerseyBoy]

Lovely Intruiged recently had a very similar thread, you may want to search and read through that...she was about to give up on this whole place.

We all (well, me) go back to our posts to see if someone commented on it and are bummed when the conversation continues on as if no one even heard you.

Just keep being you...you have much to say...and we are listening

-ws

p.s. now someone quote me!

 

[morninggirl5]

We've all felt that way. I was gone for almost two weeks and i think one person here noticed.

Of course that may be because i've been spending more of my time over there than here recently.

 

[Bindii]

I think we all feel ignored here sometime or other...I myself often have thought that I must be the biggest 'thread killer' around as so many of my replies to posts seem to be the ending ones.

But I try to liken it to being in a crowded room with everyone trying to be heard. Its not possible to answer everyone all the time, nor is it possible to keep up with all that is happening here....not if you actually have a life that is.

Also the shoe fits on the other foot too, I'm sure that I have failed to answer someones reply in a thread without being aware that they had even replied.....

Don't feel ignored, someone always knows that your here and someone always notices when your not.

 

[lobito]

p.s. now someone quote me!

I agree with Ruby, this place has such HIGH turnover, that getting overlooked isn't out of the normal, even for some of the "bigger names" here.

That having been said, yes there are times I feel downright ignored, but few like to hear me complain, so it's not worth my time and effort to piss and moan about it.

I get more attention over my av sometimes, than an important post might get. There's something wrong with that in my opinion.

 

[Tantanah]

Lovely Intruiged recently had a very similar thread, you may want to search and read through that...she was about to give up on this whole place.

We all (well, me) go back to our posts to see if someone commented on it and are bummed when the conversation continues on as if no one even heard you.

Just keep being you...you have much to say...and we are listening

-ws

p.s. now someone quote me!

Ok I'm quoting you. Happy now??

 

[Guest]

I've felt invisible at times, but just remember this isn't your life.

For those without a real life, Lit can seem like one. Albeit an abstract one, but a life nonetheless.

For those of you who answered, thank you.

For those who understand and don't think I'm crazy - thank you all the more.

And for riff - If you'd of answered any other way I'd of been shocked.

Thank you all.

 

[Debbie]

Lit is a big community with a huge amount of people frequenting it. It happens to all of us, at some time or another. You are not being ignored.
Each thread may be read but not always commented on.
We all have our place at lit. Don't feel ignored, just remember you are in a big community.
Not everyone can read all the threads that are posted at lit.
People read but may not comment on every thread.
Everybody brings something unique to lit.
I am sorry if people you PM do not answer your PM's.
Be patient. Some people are busy in r/l and do not answer immediately. Or are only at lit, infrequently.
My pop up message at lit is not always a reliable source of PM's received. (In fact? I think my PM message pop up is semi permanently on a coffee break )

 

[JerseyBoy]

Ok I'm quoting you. Happy now??

I won't be until you show the top half of your AV

but I digress...sorry

 

[phrodeau]

Any of you ever feel just amazingly invisible on this site?

Let me clarify a little bit: I don't do the "pity" thing well, nor am I looking for sympathy at all. (hence the unregistered status for this post) I just lately seem to be finding myself wondering what the heck I must be doing wrong.

I interact with all types of people from all walks of life.

I interject my opinions and thoughts in a wide variety of threads.

I have even gone so far as to PM people in an attempt to become more personable.

In the meantime my posts seem to go unanswered, my threads simply die off, and on occasion even my PM's are ignored or flat out denied.

I'm not a newbie. I'm not sitting on 5,000 posts either. So I have to wonder if it's just me being over-dramatic, if perhaps I'm just an ass, or if it's not just me.

This is sort of a rant thread, I guess. And, I'll apologize for the use of the unregistered name. (Since I typically hate when people do it)

Anyhow, back to the boards.

Posting unregistered is bad news. I know it can happen by accident, but most that it happens to will follow up with a registered claim. Since you wilfully post unregistered, you are on the shit list.

I don't buy that you're not trying to garner sympathy. What you do gains sympathy for Unregistered. It encourages others to post as Unregistered. The posts on this thread give sympathy directly to you, whether anyone knows who you are or not.

This board would be much improved if unregistered posts were "invisible". Please don't do it again.

 

[Gord]

what do you want - do you just want to be recognised ,make friends , or get loads of responses to your threads

the easy way to get recognised is to post loads of argumentative threads - insult a few of the great and the good of the board - and generally make a pain in the ass of yourself !! Soon everyone will know your name


It is a funny thing this alter world which is lit - It seems life and death to some , some take it with a pinch of salt,

 

[lobito]

Re: Re: Just wondering....

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This board would be much improved if unregistered posts were "invisible". Please don't do it again.

Get over yourself.

Not everyone who posts as unregged is bad, or good for that matter. Not everyone with names are bad or good either. Think about it. You're not the Lit police, so don't worry about it.

 

[bluespoke]

Re: Re: Re: Just wondering....

Get over yourself.

Not everyone who posts as unregged is bad, or good for that matter. Not everyone with names are bad or good either. Think about it. You're not the Lit police, so don't worry about it.

Well said!

 

[phrodeau]

Re: Re: Re: Just wondering....

Get over yourself.

Not everyone who posts as unregged is bad, or good for that matter. Not everyone with names are bad or good either. Think about it. You're not the Lit police, so don't worry about it.

You are correct. The Lit police don't say "please".

This poster feels alienated. I have offered a possible reason why. I have also tried to explain why I think all unregistered posting is bad.

 

[SilverVeil]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Just wondering....

You are correct. The Lit police don't say "please".

This poster feels alienated. I have offered a possible reason why. I have also tried to explain why I think all unregistered posting is bad.

I disagree. I have posted as Unregistered a couple of times. In my case it was because I really REALLY needed to talk to someone about something, yet I was ashamed to have it known it was me. I have since discovered that the outpouring of caring I have received from people here has made me more willing to open up to people. But that first time was uncomfortable for me to talk about. Even though I may never meet anyone here in real life. I now know someone on the BB in real life, I introduced him to Lit. If there is something I want advice on, yet do not want this person to know it is me, then I very well may post as Unregistered. I don't like alter-egos unless there is a good reason to have one, so Unregistered works for me when I need anonymity.

Unregistered trolling is bad.

I too feel like I am ignored sometimes. I just keep posting away at whatever catches my fancy to post to or about. Yeah, it bothers me sometimes. But you suck it up and move on. Dwelling on it just depresses me.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I don't think this unregistered is a troll at all. I think it's a legitimate poster and has a legitimate post.

Believe it or not, we all feel that way at some point. My threads drop off the face of the earth, too. People don't go out of their way to PM all the time--I'm a bad correspondant anyway--and I'm never featured in those "You got mail" or "clean out your PM box!" threads.

Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to find your style of posting interesting. But rest assured there are those out there who do. It's possible they're just shy.