Just curious,

[AusTess]

And i know it's none of my business,

but how many of you here are married?


Okay,okay,i'm bored.
And pissy.
And sleepy.
Amuse me.

 

[Laurel]

Not I.



You?

 

[Bindii]

Been married once but now divorced.

I have been de-facto with my current guy now for nearly 7 years......in my eye's thats married! (will this count???)

 

[AusTess]

Yep.
And while most times i think it was the smartest thing i ever done,on the odd occasion i see him with his throat cut and my fingerprints on the knife.

Ha.

 

[Basia]

I'm not married yet (yet being the key word). We havn't set a date yet, but he proposed two years ago.

 

[sch00lteacher]

I asked my wife, and she said I could tell you that I am married. 17 years and counting.

 

[AusTess]

And yeah,de-facto counts.



The reason i asked is because of another thread that kinda suprised me.
Judgement cast on a person because he hit on chicks that had posted their pics here.
Now i aint one to get all controversial,i'm more the meek,quiet type.
But what suprised me was the reaction to this sleaze when he announced he was married.

Would it have been better had he lied and said he was single?
Cant married men troll for porn?
Is there some new law i dont know about?

I'm just kinda rambling,typing what comes into my head,which can be dangerous.
And which rarely makes sense.

 

[AusTess]

17 years?
My mum always said,You get less for murder.

 

[Debbie]

And i know it's none of my business,

but how many of you here are married?


Okay,okay,i'm bored.
And pissy.
And sleepy.
Amuse me.

I am married. Second time around at 32. Married two years and 8 months. Been together for five years.

Married first time at 19. For five years.

lol second marriage is way better. Not intending to EVER get married again.

 

[SweetCherry]

And yeah,de-facto counts.



The reason i asked is because of another thread that kinda suprised me.
Judgement cast on a person because he hit on chicks that had posted their pics here.
Now i aint one to get all controversial,i'm more the meek,quiet type.
But what suprised me was the reaction to this sleaze when he announced he was married.

Would it have been better had he lied and said he was single?
Cant married men troll for porn?
Is there some new law i dont know about?

I'm just kinda rambling,typing what comes into my head,which can be dangerous.
And which rarely makes sense.

Tess, I more had a problem that he was treating women he didn't even know in such a manner. How woulod he have reacted if some guy who had never even said "Hi" to his wife asked for naked pics of her? I wqas offended to be part of an attepted collection by someone who didn't even take the time to get to know ME. He didn't give one bloody damn that I'm a woman with a 140 IQ who loves to sit at home and play with her kids and am deeply in love with a wonderful man who's 15000 miles away.

I have a problem with ANY man who treats a woman that way, be he married or single. I'm not chattel. Those days went out centuries ago. I'm a true person who has a higher value than the size or shapoe of my tits or the fact that I've got something between my legs that his dick could slide into. I resent being thought of as merely an object to be gaped at. I know that by putting my picture up for the short time i did I put myself out there for that, but the pic I posted didn't hardly show anything. One breast was visible. Other than that, I was fully clothed. If he had taken the time to get to know some of the women before asking for pics, I might not have been offended so much. It's just the way he went about it.

I'm not an airhead or a cheap little whore to be treated such by any man. That's how he made me feel and that's why I made such an outcry about it.

 

[Draco]

AusTess, married or single I would have torn his arms off and beaten him senseless with the bloody stumps. I posted that thread for ONE simple reason. He hit on my lover. He tried to cheapen our relationship. If it had happened in a bar, he'd be picking his teeth up off the floor. I was defending and shielding my lover from a creep. I also knew from PM's that he had done the same to others in my network of LIT-friends. His being married had no bearing whatsoever on it. He was getting his just deserts , married, single divorced or otherwise. A little bit of reading before hand would have soon showed up who is with who. I respect the people here who are in relationships, wheteher they be real life or online. There is no difference in my eyes. A relationship is that, and I wont tread on toes.

BTW. I'm divorced 8 years now....

 

[MissTaken]

Not married.


Austess: I have to agree with you. Married and wanting nudie pics, so what?

Honesty is to be commended.

I must have missed that thread.

 

[Draco]

A word to the wise...Bigg14U wasn't only after nudie pics. He also wanted cyber and phonesex. Thats plain wrong. He is a creep and deserved to get outted in public. I would do it again to the next "johnny-cum-lately" that comes along. I am not going to apologize for outting him. I did the right thing in my eyes. i defended my lover. What the hells wrong with that, I have old fashioned values about respect. SUE ME if you dont like it.

 

[lovetoread]

Not any more. I was when I started on Lit and I admit,not many men cared about that except for the man I have now.

Draco,if this had happened to me I fully expect that my tiger would do the same. You didnt do anything wrong in my eyes. Be well.

 

[MissTaken]

I just read the thread.

Thanks, Draco.

Being married and wanting porn isnt' a big deal and that was what I was addressing my comment to.

I do appreciate that you and lately a couple of others have championed for the lit members as "real" people.

I can handle one stupid request, but it sounds like this guy kept at it.

Thanks.

 

[lilminx]

No, I'm not married, never have been, and I don't know if I ever will be.


Regarding that thread about Biig14U, I haven't seen it. However, I have to say that many men here who are married want nudie pics and cybering. So do many married women. *shrugs*

 

[SweetCherry]

Regarding that thread about Biig14U, I haven't seen it. However, I have to say that many men here who are married want nudie pics and cybering. So do many married women. *shrugs*

It's not an issue about married men and women cybering and asking for nude pics. It's an issue about some guy who just wanders in and starts asking women he doesn't kjow for nude pics/cyber/phone sex. Its an issue about how he's not even making an attept to get to know people before he starts making such requests. It's an issue how if he'd have read a few posts instead of just randomly looking at pics and sending out emails, he might have known that there were SO's involved and may have been a bit more respectful.

 

[riff]

Just a dick swinging in the breeze here.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I am not married, and have never been married.

But I've got a SO now.

 

[Wizard]

Married................almost 15 years now........better every year...............

 

[lilfrk]

I'm married. In a few days it'll be 4 years. Been with him for almost 14.

 

[Cheyenne]

It's not an issue about married men and women cybering and asking for nude pics. It's an issue about some guy who just wanders in and starts asking women he doesn't kjow for nude pics/cyber/phone sex. Its an issue about how he's not even making an attept to get to know people before he starts making such requests. It's an issue how if he'd have read a few posts instead of just randomly looking at pics and sending out emails, he might have known that there were SO's involved and may have been a bit more respectful.

Where is there a rule that someone needs to get to know people before he makes such requests? Maybe, as a married man, he wants no deep relationships to develop here. Maybe he is here just for fun, period. He is not responsible for your reaction to something that others find "normal" on a porn board. I don't see just asking as being disrespectful at all. All you have to do is say "no." You didn't even have to say anything to Draco if you'd handled the situation on your own. Or is he to handle everything for you in your life once you marry him?

And to answer the question, I am single.

 

[Wiggles]

I am attatched but not married. I'm going to hold off on that one until we are financially stable, and sure that our relationship is stable.

I know there are married men on the boards, and it's none of my business. If they want to chat with me, that's cool. As long as it's just for fun, and they realize that nothing they could do or say could get me into leaving my baby.

About the BiggCreep issue, I think it's just that, creepy. But it goes on all the time in other forums and chats. I'm wondering if anyone would've noticed if he hadn't hit on the wrong girl?

I've gotten PM's like that, I just delete them. But if he was being hard about it, sending more and such, I would have to report him to someone that can do something about it. I believe thats called abuse in the online world?

 

[Cath!]

I have been married for 14 years...some ups and some downs.

 

[Samuari]

Ive been married for 27 years. Far more ups than downs, and by now She rally knows me and loves me anyway. Increadable!