Just bitching.

[Guest]

I have this problem. I think I'm falling in love with one of my closest friends. We talk about everything. And know almost everything about eachother. The problem is that he's still hung up over his exgirlfiend and it's killing me to see him this way. I know I should just accept the fact that he's holding out for her, but it pisses me off that he just over looks all of the shit she's done to him. She's openly cheated on him. She treats him like garbage and he doesn't care. I told him I no longer want to hear him talk about her. That I've given up trying to get him to see that she's a bitch but....

I'm an idiot.

 

[CarolinaBabe]

Just go ahead and register here at Lit..... it's a cure all for what ails you!!

 

[MechaBlade]

Fuck him.

 

[JerseyBoy]

don't fall in love with him...how many movies do you have to watch to figure this out...

Until he decides she's scum it just anint gonna happen

I can't remember, did she end up with him at the end of 'some kind of wonderful'...my brain is fried

 

[Laurel]

Does he know how you feel about him?

 

[hatara]

don't fall in love with him...how many movies do you have to watch to figure this out...

Until he decides she's scum it just anint gonna happen

I can't remember, did she end up with him at the end of 'some kind of wonderful'...my brain is fried

Yes she did and got the diamond stud earings too.

Unfortunately that is a movie and most of the time it doesn't end that way in real life.

 

[Guest]

No. I haven't told him. I'm too afraid of him saying he still loves his ex. I mean we joke. we laugh. we even flirt, but...
He may have an idea of my feelings. I'm not the best at keeping them a secret.

 

[Laurel]

That's a tough spot. I'm sorry, HB.

Do you think your feelings for him will fade over time, or will they always be an impediment to your friendship?

If you confronted him with your feelings and he was unable to return them, would that end the friendship permanently?

 

[CarolinaBabe]

Perhaps only time is needed....... Let him either get over his feelings....or open his eyes a bit.... I know that waiting is not what you want, but it may be the best option for you right now. I hope things work out for you.

 

[Guest]

I don't know. I've asked myself these questions a thousand times. I don't want to loev him if he only cares for her. If that's the case then I want my feelings to fade away. I keep hoping this is some kind of phase that I'll get over.

I don't want to risk a friendship over this either.

 

[kiwiwolf]

You're not an idiot HB, you're human. We can't help who we fall in love with.

 

[StrawberryPez]

Holy Crap do I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! I am pretty much going through that also. Except it isn't his EX, it's his current gf. *sigh* If you want, you can pm me and we can cry on each other's shoulders. I know I need it.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Wait until the thoughts of her fade from him. You don't want him on the rebound from her, it just dosn't work....

Nothing worse than being with a guy who has a ghost.

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

You're not an idiot HB, you're human. We can't help who we fall in love with.

Oh so true, and so well said.

 

[SilverVeil]

Keep your heart guarded. Don't become someone he goes to on the rebound when he finally lets go of his ex.
It is hard when you want something so much, and suddenly it seems like it is right there just waiting for you to grab hold of it.

Let things happen between the 2 of you over time. Rushing into things will only help confuse your friendship into something it was not meant to be. I call it " Fucking Friends " where 2 people are close and start sleeping together, then one of them meets someone new, and everything falls apart.

I've been there before and it hurts. A lot.

I hope things work out for you and your friend. In the meantime, register and join the party.

 

[markb325]

I have to agree with KW.