Just a wee question.

[sutherngent985]

LDRs sure as hell suck big time. Im currently in one with my love. Im in the midwest and shes on the east coast. Not as far as some but far enough for us (about 6 hours by plane). She is planning on moving out here in June of '09. I am going to see her for the first time in 3 months in 9 days and neither of us can wait. Then shes coming here around new years but after that it looks like it will June before we see each other again, altho that could (hopefully) change. All I can say is thank god for free mobile to mobile minutes and yahoo chat LOL.

 

[jockdom]

LDRs sure as hell suck big time. Im currently in one with my love. Im in the midwest and shes on the east coast. Not as far as some but far enough for us (about 6 hours by plane). She is planning on moving out here in June of '09. I am going to see her for the first time in 3 months in 9 days and neither of us can wait. Then shes coming here around new years but after that it looks like it will June before we see each other again, altho that could (hopefully) change. All I can say is thank god for free mobile to mobile minutes and yahoo chat LOL.

Yeah they do but in a perverse kind of way they make things a lot more intense.
Amen about free internet calls, we use skype, Id be ban krupt otherwise.

 

[Netzach]

I have, but it wasn't like that or anything. It was a fun and slightly intoxicated evening in NYC. The meeter-of-me also met M.

That said, I'm going to be in NYC again around Dec. 14th, probably the week up till. If I know you reasonably well from the boards, I might have time and need for a cocktail in Manhattan.

 

[Xelebes]

Haven't met anyone so far.

 

[myinnerslut]

I was advised to be comfortable rather than wear something nice while I was traveling and just change there. The problem is, I was in no mood to change, and missed what opertunities I had. I think I could have worn what I wanted to, and next time I probably will. Tho all delutions of wearing a corset have been thrown out the window!

i once wore a bodice for 5 hours in the backseat of a car to see my ex. i regretted it, he took no notice, and i bent the boning out of shape

all in all a bad experience

 

[nh23]

Master and I met on collarme . Over a conversation about a great sandwich he had for lunch. Later when we met he took me so we could have one of those sandwiches together. We talked online and on the phone for about two weeks, then I made the trip to spend a few days with him. (we were only about four hours apart). I came home after that few days and missed him like crazy, so the next week I went back for a few more days, I couldn't leave without him so I brought him home with me for a week. *giggles* After that he got everything arranged so that he could move down here with me. We got an apartment together in a different city than my hometown about six months ago (he, I and my children.) We will be celebrating a one year anniversary soon. Our relationship moved really, really fast I guess..lol. It's been worth every minute though.

 

[foodsnob]

Yes you do hehehe, what you said sounds like from Pretty Woman. Love it!!!!

I like when dominants are NOT ashamed to speak about their feelings. Theres nothing wrong about loving your sub/slave and say it loud!! I think its very nice actualy. I mean, I love Him and and I am proud I belong to Him. And yes I want the whole world to know I am His.

Hey! She's *my* whore, not *a* whore!

Seriously, though. I have no problem being open about my feelings for her. I happy to, proud to, tell anybody that wants to listen. I love her, I am in love with her. She is my most cherished possession, and she is exactly that. Mine, to do with as I will, absolutely and unconditionally. Our love for each other doesn't negate or in any way weaken that. Instead, it makes every aspect of our relationship that much stronger.

Frankly, I find the conceit of not caring or lack of concern, the ever-angry Dom to be a silly caricature dreamed up in immature fantasies.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Yeah compared to your journey mine was a mere daytrip. Lovely story by the way. Even the wee trip I went on was a big deal to me cause I hadn't lef the country since 91, I didn't even have a passport and couldn't speak the language. But as I said before I'm heading back in jan, cant bloody wait!

Master L has a passport but has never left the country or flown in a plane. We have had one day trip to Brugge which hardly counts really. I can understand how it must have been difficult for you to just get on a plane and go.

 

[the captians wench]

i once wore a bodice for 5 hours in the backseat of a car to see my ex. i regretted it, he took no notice, and i bent the boning out of shape

all in all a bad experience

After being introduced to metal bones, I'll never go plastic again. I even have switched over to using nothing but metal in my bodices and will only use plastic bones for children's pieces.

Sitting is the issue. I can wear my corset 16 hours, and be comfortable, as long as I don't have to sit much. But if I have to sit, I'm terribly uncomfortable, mainly because chairs aren't made to sit straight up.

And it might help if I don't work that morning next time. I actually worked 4am-noon that morning I flew, so I had been up for pretty much 30 hours by the time I got to Dublin.

 

[jockdom]

Hey! She's *my* whore, not *a* whore!

Seriously, though. I have no problem being open about my feelings for her. I happy to, proud to, tell anybody that wants to listen. I love her, I am in love with her. She is my most cherished possession, and she is exactly that. Mine, to do with as I will, absolutely and unconditionally. Our love for each other doesn't negate or in any way weaken that. Instead, it makes every aspect of our relationship that much stronger.

Frankly, I find the conceit of not caring or lack of concern, the ever-angry Dom to be a silly caricature dreamed up in immature fantasies.

I couldn't agree more, I have little time for the uberdom. Lets face it a BDSM relationship should have the same foundations a vanilla one, Love. I'm quite happy to show my affection for KT!

 

[jockdom]

After being introduced to metal bones, I'll never go plastic again. I even have switched over to using nothing but metal in my bodices and will only use plastic bones for children's pieces.

Sitting is the issue. I can wear my corset 16 hours, and be comfortable, as long as I don't have to sit much. But if I have to sit, I'm terribly uncomfortable, mainly because chairs aren't made to sit straight up.

And it might help if I don't work that morning next time. I actually worked 4am-noon that morning I flew, so I had been up for pretty much 30 hours by the time I got to Dublin.

Have you seen the corset made out of piercings to the lower back thru which is threaded a piece of silk and pulled tight. Extreme!

 

[ShyVixen]

It's great to see so much love around on Lit.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yeah compared to your journey mine was a mere daytrip. Lovely story by the way. Even the wee trip I went on was a big deal to me cause I hadn't lef the country since 91, I didn't even have a passport and couldn't speak the language. But as I said before I'm heading back in jan, cant bloody wait!

LOL, when I came to him in NL, I had never left my country either...didn't have a passport either until I had to arrange one for the trip!! Tha language thing concerned me a little, especially with plane changeovers, but it all ended up being not that big an issue when travelling, and now, though an issue at times, not as big as some might imagine. Must admit, I thought there would be issues over me moving here without prior permission, but it is nothing like Oz in that regard and was treated as not even an issue past being registered like everyone else who already lives here.

Catalina

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Hey! She's *my* whore, not *a* whore!

*giggles*

Thats what I mean. The "MY* do all the difference in the world for me. Wheter its Him saying that I am His or he allowing me to say that he's mine.

Seriously, though. I have no problem being open about my feelings for her. I happy to, proud to, tell anybody that wants to listen. I love her, I am in love with her. She is my most cherished possession, and she is exactly that. Mine, to do with as I will, absolutely and unconditionally. Our love for each other doesn't negate or in any way weaken that. Instead, it makes every aspect of our relationship that much stronger.

I have no problem being open about my feelings for A. either. Think all BDSM caffee knows. lol

Frankly, I find the conceit of not caring or lack of concern, the ever-angry Dom to be a silly caricature dreamed up in immature fantasies.

Me too. I find the kind of Dom's who wants the best of their sub without commiting to them as well just plain sad. I mean, when I decide to be someones sub I am giving my all into it. Love, devotion, commitment. Everything really. And yes I do expect to get the same back. And I dont even for a second think its like I am trying to demand things. I think its simply how things should be. *nods*

I love you and you love me. I commit to you and you commit to me. I respect you and you respect me. I am yours and your mine. I am there for you and your there for me. You talk and I listen to you, I talk and you listen to me. You feel down and I am there to cheer you up, I am down and Your there to cheer me up. You know what I mean?

I am submissive and yes I do as I am told and His word will ALWAYS be what matters the most to me and He will ALWAYS make the final decisions, but as for the way I want to be treated, I want the same I am giving. Love for love, commitment for commitment, respect for respect and so on. *nods*

I am getting it all from my A. so I am happy.


ETA:
Sometimes I feel like once you start talk about love on BDSM boards everyone freaks out lol, but I think love has A LOT to do with it. For me D/s relationships goes deep within. Theres lots of feelings in it when I submit to someone, so yes for me theres a lot of love in BDSM. Way much more feelings in it than in vanilla relationships. You can rip open someone while play. You can get really deep inside of them. You cannot do this in vanilla relationship. BDSM relationships are the strongest and the more devoted kind of relationships me thinks.

 

[minx1]

these are lovely accounts of love

 

[the captians wench]

Have you seen the corset made out of piercings to the lower back thru which is threaded a piece of silk and pulled tight. Extreme!

Yes and actually that's tenitively on our "things to do" list for next time.

LOL, when I came to him in NL, I had never left my country either...didn't have a passport either until I had to arrange one for the trip!! Tha language thing concerned me a little, especially with plane changeovers, but it all ended up being not that big an issue when travelling, and now, though an issue at times, not as big as some might imagine. Must admit, I thought there would be issues over me moving here without prior permission, but it is nothing like Oz in that regard and was treated as not even an issue past being registered like everyone else who already lives here.

Catalina

This was my first flight as well, and I know everyone remembers how scared I was. *giggles* The airport in London didn't help much either. And I did loose a bag, when I told Jounar this he looks at what I was dragging along and says "you have another?" *giggles*. He was right tho, I really didn't need so much, but I didn't know then. Next time I won't carry as much with me.

The moving there thing, He doesn't think it is as big a deal as all of the hoops I have found, but the problem come in that I will need to work and that bit makes it a bit trickier. 1000 euro for a work permit!

 

[chauderlos]

Reading all the previous messages is very comforting. Long distance can work, even if it takes time, energy, will and deep, strong love.

I'm in a LDR since March... distance, different times zones... all is difficult, all is complicated.

But we have hope, we know that we'll succeed... that one day, we'll be together, happy and united, at least...

Best wishes to all of you.

 

[intothewoods]

As you all probably know, me and a certain person from the Cafe recently got together and I made the trip to see her and her Family, in the Czech Rep. To cut a long story short, we got on like a house on fire and I shall be returning to her in Jan.
Anyways I was wondering, Have any of you go it together with somebody else from lit and what where your expiriences?
Just being nosey!

Like nh, I met my PYL on collarme. We were mostly casual for a long time prior to our current status, but we got along well from the beginning. We are local to each other, so there was really no urgency about the situation. It all happened pretty naturally. We had a lot of back and forth about how to balance our individual scene interests while remaining monogamous, but after a lot of communication it managed to fall into place. It's a really good feeling. A big milestone for us was his introduction to my kid. We were both quite nervous about it, but it's going well. We have basically just let it evolve, and followed my kid's lead. We are trying to figure out the timing now, but will probably get married and move in together next year. I know it will be different when we all live together, but the two of them are building a good friendship and foundation now, so I think it will work out well. All in all, now is a pretty happy time in my life.

 

[jockdom]

Like nh, I met my PYL on collarme. We were mostly casual for a long time prior to our current status, but we got along well from the beginning. We are local to each other, so there was really no urgency about the situation. It all happened pretty naturally. We had a lot of back and forth about how to balance our individual scene interests while remaining monogamous, but after a lot of communication it managed to fall into place. It's a really good feeling. A big milestone for us was his introduction to my kid. We were both quite nervous about it, but it's going well. We have basically just let it evolve, and followed my kid's lead. We are trying to figure out the timing now, but will probably get married and move in together next year. I know it will be different when we all live together, but the two of them are building a good friendship and foundation now, so I think it will work out well. All in all, now is a pretty happy time in my life.

Aye when there's wee ones involved things get a bit complicated, KT has got two bairns and I was a bit nervous about meeting them but there was no need to worry they were two wee angels! I'm glad about that because there is no way I would want to come between KT and her bairns. We had a lovely day at the zoo which her oldest one loved.

 

[Harmony_1985]

I couldn't agree more, I have little time for the uberdom. Lets face it a BDSM relationship should have the same foundations a vanilla one, Love. I'm quite happy to show my affection for KT!

Sir and I seem quite "normal" on the outside (if you don't count the BIG age gap *snort*) and we still cuddle and stuff. There's still affections, he still buys me presents (when I deserve them of course) and we still talk normally.

I just have to try and remember to call him Sir *giggle*

 

[intothewoods]

Aye when there's wee ones involved things get a bit complicated, KT has got two bairns and I was a bit nervous about meeting them but there was no need to worry they were two wee angels! I'm glad about that because there is no way I would want to come between KT and her bairns. We had a lovely day at the zoo which her oldest one loved.

Bairns? There's a word I've never heard before. I'm glad to hear it went well. If I recall correctly, her kids (well, the oldest) have been through a tough time with the ex.

My PYL is a product of divorce himself, and is almost hypersensitive to the situation. He has dealt with it by reading everything he can get his hands on. At the moment, my kidlet just sees my PYL as one of my friends, and his buddy. He's quite young, so the concept of boyfriend/girlfriend even, husband or wife don't have much meaning to him.

 

[the captians wench]

Sir and I seem quite "normal" on the outside (if you don't count the BIG age gap *snort*) and we still cuddle and stuff. There's still affections, he still buys me presents (when I deserve them of course) and we still talk normally.

I just have to try and remember to call him Sir *giggle*

Jounar took all of the fun out of the age gap by calling himself old the entire time I was there. *giggles* (13 years btw)

 

[Harmony_1985]

Jounar took all of the fun out of the age gap by calling himself old the entire time I was there. *giggles* (13 years btw)

i have you beat.

i'm 23, He's 61.

 

[jockdom]

Bairns? There's a word I've never heard before. I'm glad to hear it went well. If I recall correctly, her kids (well, the oldest) have been through a tough time with the ex.

My PYL is a product of divorce himself, and is almost hypersensitive to the situation. He has dealt with it by reading everything he can get his hands on. At the moment, my kidlet just sees my PYL as one of my friends, and his buddy. He's quite young, so the concept of boyfriend/girlfriend even, husband or wife don't have much meaning to him.

My mum and Dad got divorced too and my mother got remarried to some jerk. So I can see why he would be sensetive to the situation. Nah it was a pleasure being with KT's bairns, the youngest Natalie is just 9 months has the most infectious wee smile. Bloody hell im turning into a right soppy sap.!

 

[jockdom]

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