Just a thought....

[bellinda69]

Eh, it's cool.
No reason you would be monitoring a thread after you thought it dead.

I dare say though, the male mind is not a complex thing.
We're all hard wired to find different aspects of the female (or sometimes the fellow male) form attractive. Helps make sure everyone gets the loving they need.

well, i didnt think anyone was still up for 'intellectual discussion' anymore.

well, the male mind is complex, as hell. i still cant figure u men out.

I haven't posted here before ... but I will give my thoughts....
All women are attractive in some way, it's the way they're made...
they may have a beautiful smile, a pair of drop-dead gorgeous eyes,
the most beautiful breasts you've ever seen, a pair of sexy legs or even the
most inticing feet on the planet... their character, charisma, hair, the way
they carry themselves, their confidence.. I see beauty in all these things.
Attractiveness that I admire. Women come in different shapes and sizes,
that's what makes her, her.. I've had lovers of all kinds and as you lay
there in a woman's arms it's her curves, skin and body that you are holding
and it's a gift from everyone of them.

I have been turned off by women of every size too. If they are rude or don't carry
themselves well. If they show an utter lack of respect for themselves or
are just slobs....

The saying that beauty is only skin deep is wrong, beauty encompasses the whole person... and big and little woman can be the most beautiful creatures on earth....

Thanks for listening.. now you know the Jess approach to the subject..

Jess

Thats a beautiful approach Jess. Its true what u say, its the way someone carries herself...
Its the same with guys. looks yes, i admit r important at first, but after a while its the guy's personality than wins over a woman.


Thanxx again guys!

 

[SexyCleric]

well, i didnt think anyone was still up for 'intellectual discussion' anymore.

well, the male mind is complex, as hell. i still cant figure u men out.

Intellectual conversation is the only thing worth having now a days.

What, Ms. Bell, about the male psyche perplexes, vexes, confuses, befuddles, or otherwise makes you scratch your head? Ask, and I shall endeavor to answer.

 

[FrenchMustard]

Eh, it's cool.
No reason you would be monitoring a thread after you thought it dead.

I dare say though, the male mind is not a complex thing.
We're all hard wired to find different aspects of the female (or sometimes the fellow male) form attractive. Helps make sure everyone gets the loving they need.

I disagree with this almost completely. The mind, male or female, is deeply complex. And far less is hardwired than we think. Or maybe it's just me, but when I've found my mind open to different interactions, I find that they are just idiotically fulfilling, even if they weren't what a 14 year old version of me would have necessarily 'wanted'.

 

[bellinda69]

Intellectual conversation is the only thing worth having now a days.

What, Ms. Bell, about the male psyche perplexes, vexes, confuses, befuddles, or otherwise makes you scratch your head? Ask, and I shall endeavor to answer.

i don't know...i don't like generalizing because every man is different.
But why do guys say something and their actions show the opposite? Saying 'i love you' and showing it are two different things

 

[FrenchMustard]

i don't know...i don't like generalizing because every man is different.
But why do guys say something and their actions show the opposite? Saying 'i love you' and showing it are two different things

Right.

Not to mention that I find this 'we're just dumb men' type of argument to be a convenient way to excuse horrible behaviour. Having dated men and women, it seems the big difference is that men think that they can get away with a lot more than women typically do.

 

[bellinda69]

Right.

Not to mention that I find this 'we're just dumb men' type of argument to be a convenient way to excuse horrible behaviour. Having dated men and women, it seems the big difference is that men think that they can get away with a lot more than women typically do.

hmmmmm..interesting perspective...u might be onto something. why do men thik they can get away with more?

(sorry, im not into intelectual argument tonight...been a tiring mental day in school)

 

[SexyCleric]

i don't know...i don't like generalizing because every man is different.
But why do guys say something and their actions show the opposite? Saying 'i love you' and showing it are two different things

Of course generalizing is wrong...
But... Wouldn't have come about if there weren't some basic truth to it.

French there does have a point; everyone is different.

As for why some guys say one thing, and then do another; we lie.
Unless you get lucky and net one of us nice guys, the dude will lie, cheat, manipulate, or do almost anything to get into your pants. Sorry, but thems the breaks. They will say whatever it is we think you want us to say.

Now, if you meant, why do guys in a relationship say that they love you, but then disappoint you on a regular basis, it gets a little more complicated, and varies from person to person, but it often falls into the safe/comfortable/lazy sphere. Once we're in the relationship, it can be mission accomplished, and some guys will often forget the maintenance aspect of things. If you're already locked in, why bother trying to be romantic/interesting?

If you take laziness out of the equation, one other possibility is the 'bumbling, but means well' bit. Embarassingly enough, I fall into this category. We do love you, but sometimes, it gets lost in the communication. Ever get a bad gift from a boyfriend? Some very deep, if a little misguided, thought might have gone into that gift, and maybe that dieting book seemed to be just the right gift at the time. The unspoken implication behind that gift probably never even occured to us, until you hurl it at our collective faces with insults a sailor might blanch at.

I could go on, and will upon request, but it's late and I'm tired.

Good night, Miss Bell, and French, and whoever else suffered through that overly verbose little ramble.

 

[bellinda69]

Of course generalizing is wrong...
But... Wouldn't have come about if there weren't some basic truth to it.

French there does have a point; everyone is different.

As for why some guys say one thing, and then do another; we lie.
Unless you get lucky and net one of us nice guys, the dude will lie, cheat, manipulate, or do almost anything to get into your pants. Sorry, but thems the breaks. They will say whatever it is we think you want us to say.

Now, if you meant, why do guys in a relationship say that they love you, but then disappoint you on a regular basis, it gets a little more complicated, and varies from person to person, but it often falls into the safe/comfortable/lazy sphere. Once we're in the relationship, it can be mission accomplished, and some guys will often forget the maintenance aspect of things. If you're already locked in, why bother trying to be romantic/interesting?

If you take laziness out of the equation, one other possibility is the 'bumbling, but means well' bit. Embarassingly enough, I fall into this category. We do love you, but sometimes, it gets lost in the communication. Ever get a bad gift from a boyfriend? Some very deep, if a little misguided, thought might have gone into that gift, and maybe that dieting book seemed to be just the right gift at the time. The unspoken implication behind that gift probably never even occured to us, until you hurl it at our collective faces with insults a sailor might blanch at.

I could go on, and will upon request, but it's late and I'm tired.

Good night, Miss Bell, and French, and whoever else suffered through that overly verbose little ramble.

U, my wise friend may hae given me the best advice on men i have ever received....

Good night and we will definitely continue this aome other night.

 

[marriedhorny100]

they go off in the sack

i love the way larger girls feel and the taste of there juices the way they move dame i love fucking big woman

 

[jester_69]

Thats a beautiful approach Jess. Its true what u say, its the way someone carries herself...
Its the same with guys. looks yes, i admit r important at first, but after a while its the guy's personality than wins over a woman.


Thanxx again guys!

I'm glad you liked it...

Jess

 

[SexyCleric]

U, my wise friend may hae given me the best advice on men i have ever received....

Good night and we will definitely continue this aome other night.

*Bows*

Tis why I am here.

Anytime you have questions, or just want to argue, drop me a line.
I'm always ready. When I'm not sleeping.

 

[SassySheDevil]

As a womans point of view.. I've been on both sides of the coin. I was skinny and still had the big boobs and hips. I had horrible self esteem and thought I was fat (what I wouldn't give to look like that now) and I think it showed in my attitude. I had guy like me cause of what I looked like, not who I was, and I hated that.

Now as someone who is not skinny. I can get compliments to appearance and now I feel like it's more genuine cause liking a big girl still isn't considered the "norm" unless you are in places like this where there are many different opinions.

Regular society, still says skinny is beautiful. I can honestly say now though, that my attitude/self esteem have changed alot. I am more sure of who I am (but still with alot of insecurities) so I think I come across as more confident. I also felt like since guys weren't going to find me sexy or attractive I had to make sure that I made up for it in other ways. So I developed an amazing personality. That alone makes me feel sexy on days when I can look in a mirror and want to cry.

There are too many labels for people though.

Now, I have the polar opposite in a husband. I'm short and big, he's tall and skinny and I admit that I love him for who he is. He's so skinny though that I have the same worries some men do about skinnier women. I feel like i will hurt him or break him.

But I guess I wanted tall so I felt secure


It is nice to read the mens opinions though.

 

[SexyCleric]

Now, I have the polar opposite in a husband. I'm short and big, he's tall and skinny and I admit that I love him for who he is. He's so skinny though that I have the same worries some men do about skinnier women. I feel like i will hurt him or break him.

As a fellow skinny tall dude, I can say this, on his behalf.
Don't worry. We are not breakable. Go wild.

Worse case scenario, we heal.

Go have fun with him!

 

[SassySheDevil]

As a fellow skinny tall dude, I can say this, on his behalf.
Don't worry. We are not breakable. Go wild.

Worse case scenario, we heal.

Go have fun with him!

LOL Well we've been together 20 years and he hasn't even gained 5 pounds in that time and I guess since I haven't broken him yet, I probably wont. But the inner fear creaps up once in a while

 

[SexyCleric]

LOL Well we've been together 20 years and he hasn't even gained 5 pounds in that time and I guess since I haven't broken him yet, I probably wont. But the inner fear creaps up once in a while

Fear should never keep you from what you want.

As you said, he hasn't broken yet...

 

[DAA08]

My thoughts

Having dated all kinds of women and marrying two larger women, I would have to say that for me I found something in their personality that I liked. First wife was large, but had breasts that made her very sexy. Problem was I later found out after a few years we had different values and that could not be over come. Still not a bad looking woman, and curves in the right places. I miss her body at times, but her values at that time I was glad to get rid of.

Current wife is large too, but her core values and honesty are 100% So again it's what's inside. There are larger women who each have something desirable. What catches my eye is how they act, the extent they take care of their body, and their sense of self. If you look closely some of these women exhibit an erotic appeal that puts lesser women to shame.

There are all shapes and sizes, and as many personalities, but until you "know" whats inside you don't know jack.

Some guys are exclusive to one type, others don't have a type, and some will "do" any type. For those who don't like larger women, don't knock it until you try it, then try it again.

 

[JKS05]

Sassyshedevil and I are in similar boats. I'm a bigger lady and my husband is a little guy...and now he has a job where he is more active so he has been loosing weight *sigh* Anyway, I have been bigger all my life, it runs in my family and honestly, it is what it is. I've tried loosing weight before and I guess I don't have enough drive to do so. This may be because I have found a man who loves me for who I am. Frankly I really don't care if a person wants to interact with me or not, their loss not mine. I think that being bigger than the norm has caused me to "make up" for it in other areas. I think I'm pretty damn funny, outgoing and I like to think that I'm fun to hang out with... Size does matter in some things, like my husband certainly cant hike me up against a wall and fuck me but I think confidence and attutude make all the difference in the world.

I'm ok with who I am. Plus I eat what I want when I want. Lifes too short to not enjoy it regardless of what you look like.

 

[thesecondcoming]

it's all about personality for me, it seems all the bigger girls i know i get on with more i know thin girls are nice too but curves are a lot sexier too

 

[HiddenStreet]

What turns me on about a woman, any woman, is her own sense of sexiness. So any woman who loves her own body, be it skinny or curvaceous, is sexy to me because of that.

Having said that, there's something especially erotic about a bigger girl exposing her body. To see a delicious round, plump arse revealed is my favourite treat.

And, of course, it takes fuller breasts to give the best titty fuck!

I have to completely agree with everything you said.

Funny enough in my country there is a constant joke about skinny guys liking bigger women and big guys liking the skinny ones.

I love a woman who is confidant in her sexiness, while i have been lucky to date a model now and then I've found that I'm usually happier with average to thick kinda gals.

This lovely lady for instance...
To me she is average or thick, but she is always fretting that her body doesn't look good...

I personally think she is lovely, like i do every damn woman on the planet

 

[SexyCleric]

but she is always fretting that her body doesn't look good...

Most women can't see their own beauty until it is reflected in someone else's eyes. Even then, it often takes constant reassurance.

 

[jestersqwest]

I've been reading the discussion, and I feel . . . motivated to post. I'm 5'6" tall. For the majority of my life I weighed just a little over 100lbs. I was so skinny that people regularly asked if I was anorexic, or bulimic. I wasn't. I had a swimmer's metabolism. I had no curves, no womanly shape at all!

Over the last year or so, I gained considerable weight, thanks to a new placement, where I was/am much more sedentary. All of a sudden I had curves where there had never been any before. I didn't know how to dress my "new" shape. I tried to hide it, because I was so afraid of it. I'd gone from an A to a D in (it seemed to me) the blink of an eye! I suddenly had hips, and a backside!

I had the good fortune to meet a man who made me realize what I had. What a sexy woman I'd become. I'd NEVER felt sexy. Not when I was super skinny, and certainly not with my new shape, which I enjoy more than ever now! I wish every woman had a man in her life like him. Truly. And I've been told that since I've been made aware, everything including my walk, and demeanor have changed. I've become that confident, assured woman.

 

[texasvision]

I feel bad for any woman with beautiful sexy curves that feels bad about her appereance. I've never been actracted to skinny women, they just can't do anything with me. The lovely ladies of lit with the soft supple bodies that a real man can handle all have a fan in me.

and thats real.

 

[bellinda69]

wow...im overwhelmed b all the responses...and here i thought my thread was dead and no one wanted to actaully discuss anymore....

Thanxx to each and everyone of you men for saying a big yes to us bigger women , and to the ladies of lit thank you for sharing ur life experiences here. makes me feel more confident about my body....

 

[SexyCleric]

wow...im overwhelmed b all the responses...and here i thought my thread was dead and no one wanted to actaully discuss anymore....

Thanxx to each and everyone of you men for saying a big yes to us bigger women , and to the ladies of lit thank you for sharing ur life experiences here. makes me feel more confident about my body....

Good threads never die.

 

[bellinda69]

Good threads never die.

Wel, hopfully this one will stand the test of time.