Just a little Collarme rant

[h_i_s]

Same here, ... 'fall back' on the last Saturday in October.. yep, ...and i'm on the East Coast of the US, brioche.

i'm looking forward to the time change. i like to know that the sun has actually risen before i hear the alarm clock go off each morning.

 

[Red Sonja]

And I'm ever so grateful for the fall back. I've had my house invaded by 5 additional 12 year old boys. They watched all three LOTR movies... and spent the night.

Of course, Dh has to be off at work this morning, so I'm the one dealing with them... I cannot wait til the parents pick them up.

Still better my house than someone else's. I at least know my son's friends, which is a good thing, right?

I'm off to get more coffee....

 

[h_i_s]

To me, collarme seems to be a dangerous place. One guy there wants to have two slaves that he eventualy intends to brand.

Judge not ... while it may be a hard limit for some, it's not so for everyone. You may enjoy certain activities and experiences that may not be acceptable for others, as well.

i wouldn't see that as being a reason to view the place as dangerous.

Many PYLs who own slaves place their mark on their property.
my Master chose to place His mark upon me in the form of a tattoo rather than brand me.
And if He'd chosen a branded mark instead, as His slave, it is His decision to make (as it is with ANY decision He makes for us/me).
The defination of 'slave', as applied in *our* M/s relationship gives Him that right. That right is something that i agreed to the moment i became His.

i think the guy deserves credit for stating up front that he'd expect his slave to be branded.
In that case, any potential slaves need not apply to be owned by him if this is not something they want to experience.

A better example of 'dangerous' would be a PYL who doesn't clearly express what their
intentions and expectations are beforehand and/or puposely disguises, or conceals their intentions or forces those intentions and expectations on another who has not given that PYL their consent to do so.

 

[DVS]

i think the guy deserves credit for stating up front that he'd expect his slave to be branded.
In that case, any potential slaves need not apply to be owned by him if this is not something they want to experience.

I wonder if he gets any replys to he messages he sends out. Maybe I should mention I require my sub to be branded. Think it might help?

I never really enjoyed the smell of burning flesh.

 

[FurryFury]

I wonder if he gets any replys to he messages he sends out. Maybe I should mention I require my sub to be branded. Think it might help?

I never really enjoyed the smell of burning flesh.

My understanding is that few males get many responses at all.

I always responded to everyone, even though I'm not looking as it stated in my profile. Also even though many were like this, "Hi, tell me about you." I hate that sort of thing but I was polite and responded.

I'd be surprised if the branding thing were a huge turn on for many.

Fury

 

[INSIDEYOURMIND]

My understanding is that few males get many responses at all.

I always responded to everyone, even though I'm not looking as it stated in my profile. Also even though many were like this, "Hi, tell me about you." I hate that sort of thing but I was polite and responded.

I'd be surprised if the branding thing were a huge turn on for many.

Fury

When I first signed on with Collarme, I was getting 10 - 12 responses a day, it trailed down to just 1 or 2 a day and then I closed my account.

I don't know if my responses were the typical amount, but I found this to be in my case.

 

[h_i_s]

I wonder if he gets any replys to he messages he sends out. Maybe I should mention I require my sub to be branded. Think it might help?

I never really enjoyed the smell of burning flesh.

Certainly there are submissives who might be interested in being branded. i don't know if stating it as a requirement on your profile would help you, though, DVS. It all depends on who views it and whether or not they view you as a potential match in respect to their wants/needs.

We were speaking of slave though, (and while it's clear to me that we all may hold to different definitions regarding the differences between slaves and submissives) & by the definition of the relationship between my Master and i ... knowing that He was seeking a relationship that would eventually evolve from Dom/sub to Master/slave & that marking His property interested Him, certainly didn't conflict with my having read His profile and then contacting Him with great interest.

Putting aside the fact that much of what many participate in to sate their desires and pleasures regarding BDSM ... does hold some level of possible danger .....

 

[brioche]

Certainly there are submissives who might be interested in being branded. i don't know if stating it as a requirement on your profile would help you, though, DVS. It all depends on who views it and whether or not they view you as a potential match in respect to their wants/needs.

We were speaking of slave though, (and while it's clear to me that we all may hold to different definitions regarding the differences between slaves and submissives) & by the definition of the relationship between my Master and i ... knowing that He was seeking a relationship that would eventually evolve from Dom/sub to Master/slave & that marking His property interested Him, certainly didn't conflict with my having read His profile and then contacting Him with great interest.

Putting aside the fact that much of what many participate in to sate their desires and pleasures regarding BDSM ... does hold some level of possible danger .....

Did you know when exploring the scene that you eventually wanted to be a slave, not a sub? Just curious.

 

[nusubgurl]

OOh, I lived in Warrensburg for a bit. I went to college there. But, that was when it was CMSC.

Geology? Is that the study of rocks?

Oh yes...i know all about rocks.... and hardness.... and volcanic eruptions... and cleavage too

 

[h_i_s]

Did you know when exploring the scene that you eventually wanted to be a slave, not a sub? Just curious.

Yes.

i learned that i may be happier as a slave, as i explored, and learned more about which areas of BDSM held interest for me.

Once i'd decided that i wanted to begin to experience BDSM for myself, i set out on an active search in the hope of meeting a compatible dominant.

When my Master and i found each other, with my having had no actual real life BDSM related interactions and/or experiences, i knew who i was and could only imagine what type of relationship i could be happiest with. i imagined a relationship with the right dominant would find me being capable, and happiest, as a slave.

i started as a submissive, serving a Dom ... with the understanding that He would expect the relationship between us to grow, evolve and develope into that which would equal the dynamics of a Master/slave commitment. It was, and still remains everything that i had hoped for, and more than i had ever imagined.

The respect & compatability between us was evident from the start. Trust and love followed VERY quickly. The need for more, at higher levels, and more extensive extremes were needs that we had both always felt prior to meeting ... and continues to this day.

 

[FurryFury]

Yes.

i learned that i may be happier as a slave, as i explored, and learned more about which areas of BDSM held interest for me.

Once i'd decided that i wanted to begin to experience BDSM for myself, i set out on an active search in the hope of meeting a compatible dominant.

When my Master and i found each other, with my having had no actual real life BDSM related interactions and/or experiences, i knew who i was and could only imagine what type of relationship i could be happiest with. i imagined a relationship with the right dominant would find me being capable, and happiest, as a slave.

i started as a submissive, serving a Dom ... with the understanding that He would expect the relationship between us to grow, evolve and develope into that which would equal the dynamics of a Master/slave commitment. It was, and still remains everything that i had hoped for, and more than i had ever imagined.

The respect & compatability between us was evident from the start. Trust and love followed VERY quickly. The need for more, at higher levels, and more extensive extremes were needs that we had both always felt prior to meeting ... and continues to this day.

That sounds wonderful Sinn!

*hugs*

Fury

 

[brioche]

Yes.

i learned that i may be happier as a slave, as i explored, and learned more about which areas of BDSM held interest for me.

Once i'd decided that i wanted to begin to experience BDSM for myself, i set out on an active search in the hope of meeting a compatible dominant.

When my Master and i found each other, with my having had no actual real life BDSM related interactions and/or experiences, i knew who i was and could only imagine what type of relationship i could be happiest with. i imagined a relationship with the right dominant would find me being capable, and happiest,
as a slave.

i started as a submissive, serving a Dom ... with the understanding that He would expect the relationship between us to grow, evolve and develope into that which would equal the dynamics of a Master/slave commitment. It was, and still remains everything that i had hoped for, and more than i had ever imagined.

The respect & compatability between us was evident from the start. Trust and love followed VERY quickly. The need for more, at higher levels, and more extensive extremes were needs that we had both always felt prior to meeting ... and continues to this day.

Wow.
i am still in the learning stages, and still exploring, through o/l and phone calls. i originally thought i might be a slave, but have come to realize that i cannot envision myself giving over complete, 24/7 control of all areas of my life to someone else. i now consider myself a sub personality rather than a slave one, and i suspect that should i wish to, there is the definite potential of being a switch. However, you have to start on the bottom to truly understand that, and i suspect that the stronger side of me is sub.

All this could be complete shit. i doubt i'll know until the summer when i go to visit Him. There is respect, trust, compatability, but it's hard to truly know until you meet and experience things face to face.

You sound so happy. i'm glad.

 

[h_i_s]

Thank you, FurryFury. It IS wonderful, yes. It's not always easy though, and not always 'perfect'. There have been times when it can be overwhelming and confusing ... i was taught since a young girl to be head strong, insistant, and anything less than docile and submissive. i am STILL all of those things and then some, of course ... but, balanced with a constant understanding of having to remember that i am NOT any of those things when i am interacting with my Master. i understand it's not for everyone though.

Wow.
i am still in the learning stages, and still exploring, through o/l and phone calls. i originally thought i might be a slave, but have come to realize that i cannot envision myself giving over complete, 24/7 control of all areas of my life to someone else. i now consider myself a sub personality rather than a slave one, and i suspect that should i wish to, there is the definite potential of being a switch. However, you have to start on the bottom to truly understand that, and i suspect that the stronger side of me is sub.

All this could be complete shit. i doubt i'll know until the summer when i go to visit Him. There is respect, trust, compatability, but it's hard to truly know until you meet and experience things face to face.

You sound so happy. i'm glad.

 

[FurryFury]

Thank you, FurryFury. It IS wonderful, yes. It's not always easy though, and not always 'perfect'. There have been times when it can be overwhelming and confusing ... i was taught since a young girl to be head strong, insistant, and anything less than docile and submissive. i am STILL all of those things and then some, of course ... but, balanced with a constant understanding of having to remember that i am NOT any of those things when i am interacting with my Master. i understand it's not for everyone though.

I understand there is a struggle there sometimes with those of us who were taught to be headstrong or just had to be to survive. Honestly hearing your story makes me smile because something like that would be just what I would want if I were single and knew what I wanted now.

It's nice to know some can attain it. No relationship is perfect but with love and willingness we can usually work things out. Both parties have to care enough to make it happen though, I found that out in my first marriage. One can make it work they both have to want to or you can just endure.

So anyway, I love hearing about your and other's successes and happiness! It makes me smile because it's like everything I'd like can be real and in this world.

Fury

 

[h_i_s]

Wow.
i am still in the learning stages, and still exploring, through o/l and phone calls. i originally thought i might be a slave, but have come to realize that i cannot envision myself giving over complete, 24/7 control of all areas of my life to someone else. i now consider myself a sub personality rather than a slave one, and i suspect that should i wish to, there is the definite potential of being a switch. However, you have to start on the bottom to truly understand that, and i suspect that the stronger side of me is sub.

All this could be complete shit. i doubt i'll know until the summer when i go to visit Him. There is respect, trust, compatability, but it's hard to truly know until you meet and experience things face to face.

You sound so happy. i'm glad.

In the early stages, i'd first set out to learn all that i could to understand what aspects of BDSM and which type of relationship i would be best suited to, and happiest and most successful with ... i never had any doubt that while i can be very capable of & happy with being in the dominant role at work, or any other situation were that roles is needed ..... i can NOT be happy while taking on a dominant role in the bedroom ... or any other room for that matter, with an intimate relationship with a 'significant other'. In my expereinces with 'vanilla' relationships, i was unfortunate to have paired myself with men who were anything less than dominant, which menat in order for things of importance to get done and/or be achieved, i often had to assume a dominant type role in order to 'keep the relationships together'. i was miserable when i had to do so ......
Therefore, for these same reasons, i also always knew that i was not a switch.

i've always been happiest while free to express a more docile side of my personality, while serving the needs and desires of another in romantic relationships, i just never knew there was a label or name for that part of who i am. i was happy as a submissive even before i ever knew what a submissive was ...

i had only my fantasies, and what i had learned regarding BDSM and D/s-M/s relationships, and no actual experience to base it all on. It all came together nicely and made sense for me, the day i met INSIDEYOURMIND and realized, "Yes!!! THis is exactly what i had thought, imagined and hoped it could be. It's not just a dream that can never be realized. It's real & THIS is right where i belong.". It took us less than a year to pull it all together so that i could stay with Him, and know that i am 'home'. i am greatful every day to wake up and be where i am, and would rather die than be anywhere else (No, i do not have suicidal tendancies, and it would be an empty existance if i had to live without Him. i know, because i have lived that existance before).

When labels are needed for the sake of others understanding where i am coming from, and what the dynamics of the relationship are between INSIDEYOURMIND and i, ... i use the term 'slave', i identify best with this 'label', when need be. A slave is still a submissive though, and some can be confused by that. To me, both are ... and to me a slave is a submissive who submits on a different level. Not a better level, or a higher level on the 'totem pole' .... but just 'different'.


Well, that was a bit of a rant. i had to look up and read the title of the thread in wonder of what topic i had unintentionally hijacked. Oopsie. heh ..

 

[His_pita]

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/33486/q/dvs/default.htm

Well I didn't see any pic to so I don't get to comment on your looks, but that is an excellent profile I think. It has become a little hobby of mine to read the profiles on Collar Me. It's not easy to find one that makes me go, "Wow, there's a real one" I have even mailed a few to tell them that I liked their profiles and to wish them good luck in their search. All I can say is that the woman you dealt with is a moron. I don't know you all, but I have read your post on here and I think your cool.

 

[DVS]

Well I didn't see any pic to so I don't get to comment on your looks, but that is an excellent profile I think. It has become a little hobby of mine to read the profiles on Collar Me. It's not easy to find one that makes me go, "Wow, there's a real one" I have even mailed a few to tell them that I liked their profiles and to wish them good luck in their search. All I can say is that the woman you dealt with is a moron. I don't know you all, but I have read your post on here and I think your cool.

So...where's the collarme message telling me you liked my profile and wish me good luck in my search? I guess I'm not among the few you mailed? That's it. Hit me while I’m down. Go ahead...I can take it. I'm a Dom! Even better, I'm a POMPOUS Dom!

Yes, I do have a dry sense of humor and I'm just kidding you. And no, there's no picture on my profile. Why would I want someone to see how ugly I am? Isn't the whole idea to attract subs, not scare them away?

I do appreciate your input. And, what you've said is very close to the tone I was trying to set. I am a real one and I have real experience. I've dominated women in real life, and not just online. I read many Dom profiles, when I was doing mine. Many sounded so 'matter of fact' and fake.

Their names are pompous if anything is. Those shadowy or blurry pics show them in a leather vest with their fat stomach hanging out. A crop or flogger (probably fresh out of the box from JTs Stockroom) is in their hand and their best evil Dom look is on their face. God knows how long they practiced that pose in the mirror before the pic was taken.

Yeah, I'm a little cynical, I guess, because none of that is me. I'm just a guy who LOVES to dominate women and I do it in my own way. I don't try to follow a Gorean style, or require the woman call me Sir or Master. Call me what you want, unless I gag you.

Well, DVS has been long winded, yet again. This is a continuing rant. Maybe I should add it to my tormenting list. Strip a woman naked, tie her securely and then just sit and talk to her. My very own captive audience. Now, wouldn't that be cruel?

OK, I'd stimulate her physically, from time to time, just to keep her interested.

 

[h_i_s]

Maybe I should add it to my tormenting list. Strip a woman naked, tie her securely and then just sit and talk to her. My very own captive audience. Now, wouldn't that be cruel?

OK, I'd stimulate her physically, from time to time, just to keep her interested.

Works well for me, when my Master has choses this form of 'torment' (it's a GOOD type of torment). i enjoy nothing more than Him just sitting and talking with me for hours. The naked part is normally a given whenever possible, and the tied part would just be a bonus, in my opinion.

The physical stimulation is always great, but nothing compares to the added stimulation of the heart and mind to really keep a person 'interested'.

 

[kara_CM]

You don't need that shit, you seem so nice. It doesn't seem like it hurt you by what she said and it shouldn't. It is all her, please just do what you're doing and forget about it. She's the ****.

 

[DVS]

You don't need that shit, you seem so nice. It doesn't seem like it hurt you by what she said and it shouldn't. It is all her, please just do what you're doing and forget about it. She's the ****.

Thanks for your post, Kara. No, it didn't hurt me. I knew I hadn't done anything to her. I think she just had issues. Maybe a past relationship with some pompous ass?

But, I think she is entitled to a little more torment from me. I'm still debating a last message to her. But, I can't think of anything fitting. I'm still thinking, though. I'm not called DeViouS just for the fun of it. Oh, maybe I am.

 

[graceanne]

Thanks for your post, Kara. No, it didn't hurt me. I knew I hadn't done anything to her. I think she just had issues. Maybe a past relationship with some pompous ass?

But, I think she is entitled to a little more torment from me. I'm still debating a last message to her. But, I can't think of anything fitting. I'm still thinking, though. I'm not called DeViouS just for the fun of it. Oh, maybe I am.

Or maybe she's pompous and if anyone dares to mention themselves AT ALL, it infringes on her rights to talk about herself, and therefore they're pompous. I bet if you'd emailed her 'Please tell me about yourself' youd have gotten a 10 page life history.

 

[DVS]

Or maybe she's pompous and if anyone dares to mention themselves AT ALL, it infringes on her rights to talk about herself, and therefore they're pompous. I bet if you'd emailed her 'Please tell me about yourself' youd have gotten a 10 page life history.

If she's the pompous one, it's just too bad we didn't make a connection. Quite seriously, I have some very good ways of taking care of a pompous attitude. You can trust me on that.

 

[caela]

If she's the pompous one, it's just too bad we didn't make a connection. Quite seriously, I have some very good ways of taking care of a pompous attitude. You can trust me on that.

What, no examples???

 

[DVS]

What, no examples???

Oh, God, where would I start? I'm not into bad manners and I would consider being pompous bad manners. Of course, those manners need corrected. And, the best way to do that is to get her attention.

A good way to do that is with humiliation. She would first me bound, hand and foot and stripped naked. A gag is optional, because when manners are corrected, there is a need for some verbal degradation. Nothing I can't handle. She would be required to explain her behavior and how it should be corrected. If I didn't agree with her correctiive measures, I would explain to her my corrective measures and of course, she would agree to mine.

I think a good paddling with a wooden paddle would get her atteintion. A question and answer period is very effective, when correcting manners. Of course, you are waiting for the right answer and if she doesn't produce it...welll, I did say I have electro devices.

I made something I call my punishment chair. It's a chair, with metal plates in the seat. Those metal plates are hooked up to a DC device. I strap her in my chair and the waist strap only allows her about an inch or two to raise up off of the chair.

I sit there beside her calmly, with the button in my hand. The question and answer session begins and the corrective measures will zap her ass, if her answer is not satisfactory. Well, I push the button, if I don't like her answer.

This is also a good attitude adjustment tool. And, if her attitude isn't changing as quickly as I think it should...I have an anal dildo that can be attached to the chair seat. It's not electrified, but it will go up her ass and every time I press the button and she bounces up off of the shocking seat, she fucks her own ass.

Trust me...attitude adjustments aren't difficult. You just need the correct tools for the job. And, I think a pompous attitude would need some long term adjustment. Pompous people have that arogant mind set, you know. They think they are better than anyone else. I have some ginger in the frig, if that anal dildo doesn't do the job. That's when I add the gag. At that point the question and answer session is over. She had her chance. Now, it's punishment time.

Then, just for fun, I have lube in the drawer for later.

Is this what you had in mind, when you asked, Caela?

 

[caela]

Oh, God, where would I start? I'm not into bad manners and I would consider being pompous bad manners. Of course, those manners need corrected. And, the best way to do that is to get her attention.

A good way to do that is with humiliation. She would first me bound, hand and foot and stripped naked. A gag is optional, because when manners are corrected, there is a need for some verbal degradation. Nothing I can't handle. She would be required to explain her behavior and how it should be corrected. If I didn't agree with her correctiive measures, I would explain to her my corrective measures and of course, she would agree to mine.

I think a good paddling with a wooden paddle would get her atteintion. A question and answer period is very effective, when correcting manners. Of course, you are waiting for the right answer and if she doesn't produce it...welll, I did say I have electro devices.

I made something I call my punishment chair. It's a chair, with metal plates in the seat. Those metal plates are hooked up to a DC device. I strap her in my chair and the waist strap only allows her about an inch or two to raise up off of the chair.

I sit there beside her calmly, with the button in my hand. The question and answer session begins and the corrective measures will zap her ass, if her answer is not satisfactory. Well, I push the button, if I don't like her answer.

This is also a good attitude adjustment tool. And, if her attitude isn't changing as quickly as I think it should...I have an anal dildo that can be attached to the chair seat. It's not electrified, but it will go up her ass and every time I press the button and she bounces up off of the shocking seat, she fucks her own ass.

Trust me...attitude adjustments aren't difficult. You just need the correct tools for the job. And, I think a pompous attitude would need some long term adjustment. Pompous people have that arogant mind set, you know. They think they are better than anyone else. I have some ginger in the frig, if that anal dildo doesn't do the job. That's when I add the gag. At that point the question and answer session is over. She had her chance. Now, it's punishment time.

Then, just for fun, I have lube in the drawer for later.

Is this what you had in mind, when you asked, Caela?

Uh huh! Well maybe not that exactly but your mind works in such deliviously twisted ways that I knew you'd come up with something interesting and worth reading!