jealousy
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I'm going to be watching this thread, since it's very interesting to me. Some time ago, I joined a married couple in a threeway. As guy, I was sensitive to the fact that the husband might have some slight issues with jealousy, despite his desire to watch while I fucked his wife and despite the fact that I sucked his cock along with her, etc. There was still something in me that said he would be slightly protective or defensive on some level. The second time we got together, we played strip poker to get started. At some point, she was undressed except for her shoes and I was naked except for a t-shirt. He still had almost all his clothes on, and it was clear that she and I were ready to start. He got pissed. He was, in fact, jealous. The scene sort of disintegrated and I thought it best to leave. It never happened again, but I have no doubts that he was uneasy with the threesome thing, despite his involvement in setting it up, etc. She, on the other hand, didn't seem to mind that he was sucking my cock, or that I had something for him that she didn't. I think my point is that jealousy can emerge in any relationship, but when sex is involved, it may be come more energized. xo, S.
Unless I misread your Q, I think maybe its worded wrong, as a bisexual woman, I have no problems with my girlfriends ex's, although she has major problems with my past, I have had lovers of both sexes and she struggles to deal with this.
Even after 9 years together she still worries that I will leave her, but her main problem is she is nervous of any close friends of mine, had I been "totaly" lesbian or "totaly" straight before we met she would only worry about either men or women, as it is she has an innate distrus of any one I get close to.
So if ur Q was does being bisexual affect your relaitionship, then yes it does.
Not sure if this answers your Q but if it hasen't at least I've vented!! LOL
As a ps to this, I would never leave my GF, but I do some times enjoy a bit of fun online. Anything that happens online to me is like a fantasy, it's not real life.
Even after 9 years together she still worries that I will leave her, but her main problem is she is nervous of any close friends of mine, had I been "totaly" lesbian or "totaly" straight before we met she would only worry about either men or women, as it is she has an innate distrus of any one I get close to.
So if ur Q was does being bisexual affect your relaitionship, then yes it does.
Not sure if this answers your Q but if it hasen't at least I've vented!! LOL
As a ps to this, I would never leave my GF, but I do some times enjoy a bit of fun online. Anything that happens online to me is like a fantasy, it's not real life.
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senses11 said:
Agreed.
i have never had a 3some with my husband but ive always wanted to.i felt like she would be better than me or it would come to a point that either one of us would want to do it all the time or that i may get more attention then he would..it just seemed more of a mess to introduce someone else into our relationship rather than just get freaky with each other.even though im still very openly attracted to women and that makes him wonder if i had a close female friend that something maybe going on between us.i have to suppress my fantasies and do my own thing by myself as far as fullfilling those fantasies.personally i could never cheat on him as he has done to me in the past,its just not in me.but i feel that if this relaltionship ever broke apart to a point that we could not work it out id rather attempt another relationship with a woman.i know i fell alittle off topic there but some of it had to do with the whole.
I'll add a different dimension to this. When I got married, my wife knew that I had a very good friend with whom I would occasionally fool around sexually. He and I would get together frequently, and occasionally we'd jack each other off, suck each other off, do 69 - something. And knowing this, she married me anyway. Fast forward a few years and suddenly this friendship doesn't sound so good to her anymore. Sometimes, on one of the days that she's working and I'm not, she may say to me, "Are you going to be seeing STEVE today?" with an almost accusatory sound in her voice. It has become clear that she is somewhat resentful of the type of fun he and I have together. We've talked about it, of course, and she says she's not the least bit jealous, but it sure seems like she is. Consequently, since she's not so happy with that dimension of our friendship, it has happened considerably less frequently. (On the othe hand, we still go camping every summer and definitely take advantage of that time. heh heh)
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i went out with a bisexual woman awhile back and jealous was a major problem with me. i think she liked that though, may have actually strived for it. she was kind of a bitch. sex was a weapon to her. i hate her to this day even though i haven't seen her in three years.
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blondi84 said:
well, i consider myself bi, so the answer would have to be no. i'd definitely make sure that we had the same view on relationships and sex before i dated another bisexual person. for her it(sexuality and relationships) were a game. i take it all a bit more seriously.
edit:i meant no to being put off for life. i misread your question the first time. i'm still waking up.
