Sparky Kronkite
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And speaking of jealousy….
I have thought for many years that this is one of the most destructive emotions working against human relationships - that would be relationships of any type - love, work, etc..
But let's talk about love and jealousy….
Here's my simple take: (Again, the simplicities of life are not always so.) I feel that if I were jealous, jealous regarding sexual things, sexual looks, sexual flirtations - in either a give or take mode - about my wife - #1) I'd be miserable. She's a babe. Shit like this happens to her all the time. And… #2) I'd be a hypocrite. Hell I'm capable of the same (Lucky for me it's still give and take too.) damn thing. And yeah, I find it somewhat amusing and fun. So, why should I deny her the same fun? Why would I deny the woman, the person something I like to do? Why would I even want a woman who didn't have fun doing that? And in particular, why would I want a woman who hid that kind of stuff?
Jealousy does not work for me at all. It works against me. It works against us as a couple.
And the big thing here is that "I love my wife so much that I dig it, really, really dig it - when she is having fun." And I especially dig it (hell it turns me on) when she's having sexual fun. Therefore I've made it my goal to "always strive to improve and enhance my wife's sexual experience. If this means, toys, if this means women, if this means men (sometimes multiple men, she likes that) if this means mixed groups - so be it. I don't only dig it - but I too thrive on it. I love it.
The only rule is (as stated elsewhere) is the "numero uno" rule - we both have to "feel number one" to each other. That's the commitment. That's the future of our relationship.
To each their own but I know this - when we die (hopefully many years from now) we will both have very fond memories of some pretty wild times - memories that we can share. And when the big picture is focused - I know, not many similar memories that other two legged, upright walking animals on this planet had the courage to experience.
I always like to say: "The one who dies with the most smiles - wins!"
Jealousy takes away the smiles.
I have thought for many years that this is one of the most destructive emotions working against human relationships - that would be relationships of any type - love, work, etc..
But let's talk about love and jealousy….
Here's my simple take: (Again, the simplicities of life are not always so.) I feel that if I were jealous, jealous regarding sexual things, sexual looks, sexual flirtations - in either a give or take mode - about my wife - #1) I'd be miserable. She's a babe. Shit like this happens to her all the time. And… #2) I'd be a hypocrite. Hell I'm capable of the same (Lucky for me it's still give and take too.) damn thing. And yeah, I find it somewhat amusing and fun. So, why should I deny her the same fun? Why would I deny the woman, the person something I like to do? Why would I even want a woman who didn't have fun doing that? And in particular, why would I want a woman who hid that kind of stuff?
Jealousy does not work for me at all. It works against me. It works against us as a couple.
And the big thing here is that "I love my wife so much that I dig it, really, really dig it - when she is having fun." And I especially dig it (hell it turns me on) when she's having sexual fun. Therefore I've made it my goal to "always strive to improve and enhance my wife's sexual experience. If this means, toys, if this means women, if this means men (sometimes multiple men, she likes that) if this means mixed groups - so be it. I don't only dig it - but I too thrive on it. I love it.
The only rule is (as stated elsewhere) is the "numero uno" rule - we both have to "feel number one" to each other. That's the commitment. That's the future of our relationship.
To each their own but I know this - when we die (hopefully many years from now) we will both have very fond memories of some pretty wild times - memories that we can share. And when the big picture is focused - I know, not many similar memories that other two legged, upright walking animals on this planet had the courage to experience.
I always like to say: "The one who dies with the most smiles - wins!"
Jealousy takes away the smiles.
