I've been outed. Partially.

[Kev H]

Writing non-erotica is very, very easy, just nowhere near as fun.

For example, take any one of the "serious" topics in this forum...say the Muslim one. Inside that thread you have passion and research already done for you. Just make some side story or some vast, sweeping epic if you feel up to it...

What a lovely thought! What a great idea!

This could be an experiement in writing a Non-Erotic chain story.

Personally, I'm not certain I have it in me!

 

[ABSTRUSE]

What a lovely thought! What a great idea!

This could be an experiement in writing a Non-Erotic chain story.

Personally, I'm not certain I have it in me!

There is always humor...and you sure as hell have it in you.

 

[Guest]

There is always humor...and you sure as hell have it in you.

My life is humorous.

But I'm not certain it was intended to be.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

My life is humorous.

But I'm not certain it was intended to be.

Right said Fred...YES!

Eveyrthing is relatively funny if you pay attention, even at the worst of times it lingers on the edges reminding you that not everything sucks.

 

[Guest]

Right said Fred...YES!

Eveyrthing is relatively funny if you pay attention, even at the worst of times it lingers on the edges reminding you that not everything sucks.

It is my sense of humor which tends to piss her off, as well.

Hmmm.

There just may be something to this humorous slant.

 

[Guest]

I completely empathize with you, and I pity your petty sister - if she ever becomes mature enough to look at your relationship in the mirror, she will have a hard time of it.

Take good care of yourself.

Kev

Thank you, Kev, and welcome to the AH!

That's the other part that bothers me. The only reason she'd have to "out" me is that she feels writing erotica is somehow demeaning and worthless. It's another way for her to attempt to lower our parents' opinion of me (what - I'm the bad seed? LOL)

But I don't believe writing smut is worthless. And I don't feel this is a waste of time. And I'd be lost without this forum these days.

So - poo on her.

 

[Kev H]

Thank you, Kev, and welcome to the AH!

That's the other part that bothers me. The only reason she'd have to "out" me is that she feels writing erotica is somehow demeaning and worthless. It's another way for her to attempt to lower our parents' opinion of me (what - I'm the bad seed? LOL)

But I don't believe writing smut is worthless. And I don't feel this is a waste of time. And I'd be lost without this forum these days.

So - poo on her.

If you are serious about this idea and need thoughts/help on short stories, essays, whatever, just let me know. There is no end to the story ideas if you think about the endless human conflict and emotions. And, it would give me a marvelous excuse to put off the texturing I need to do.

If you just needed to blow off some steam, then I am very glad we can help you with that, as well.

 

[BlackShanglan]

Sorry to hear it, Sarahh. I know just what you mean. I get so much joy out of writing that I do like talking with friends and family about it in a sort of "this was my day / this made me happy" sort of way - but with most of them, I don't wish to discuss erotica. It's not so much shame as respect for them; I recognize that most people aren't really comfortable hearing about the sex lives or sexual interests of their friends, and I think that that is quite reasonable. I'm sorry that you've lost the chance to talk about this with the parents without it feeling awkward for everyone. It's a pity your sister didn't think that through.

Shanglan

 

[Belegon]

count me in if you want help...

 

[Stella_Omega]

It makes me feel uncomfortable, like they are looking over my shoulder or something.

I didn't confront her about it - yet.

They aren't.
They'll never find you, you are anonymous here.

 

[Guest]

They aren't.
They'll never find you, you are anonymous here.

 

[Norajane]

My life is humorous.

But I'm not certain it was intended to be.

You've shared some humorous/interesting stories about your kids' theatrical productions - I think you could do a fantastic series on the trials and tribulations of grade school drama. Maybe even turn it into a screenplay!

 

[BlackShanglan]

You've shared some humorous/interesting stories about your kids' theatrical productions - I think you could do a fantastic series on the trials and tribulations of grade school drama. Maybe even turn it into a screenplay!

Oooh that would be fabulous. I picture a frustrated would-be prima donna director marshalling the eight-year-olds ...

 

[rgraham666]

Bummer Sarahh. *HUGS* And a quick biff up the hooter for your sister.

Everybody in my family knows I write smut. If they have a problem with it it's their problem.

 

[Guest]

Oooh that would be fabulous. I picture a frustrated would-be prima donna director marshalling the eight-year-olds ...

Hey, now.

That's a bit too personal, isn't it?

 

[Guest]

Bummer Sarahh. *HUGS* And a quick biff up the hooter for your sister.

Laughing -

I just wanna bitch slap her.



(Hey - how'd your appt go today?)

 

[impressive]

I can SO empathize with this.

 

[lil_elvis]

&

Sorry to hear this sss. Since you got the brains, beauty and sensitivity, what'd your sis get?

 

[BlackShanglan]

Hey, now.

That's a bit too personal, isn't it?

*laugh*

Sorry, not you, dear one. Just my imagination running away with me.

 

[SeaCat]

SSS,

Damn, are you sure your brother-in-law isn't my brother?

He did something like this to me a couple of years ago. The only difference is my parents handled it a little differently. (They know and understand the difference between my brother and myself.)

My father, with a sraight face looked at my brother when he made the comment at dinner one night and asked him:
"Yeah, and? You have a problem with this? Where do you think he gets some of his ideas for stories?" (No as far as I know my father didn't know up until then this aspect of my writing.)

My brother was stumped and didn't speak to me for another six months.

Cat

 

[Guest]

SSS,

Damn, are you sure your brother-in-law isn't my brother?

He did something like this to me a couple of years ago. The only difference is my parents handled it a little differently. (They know and understand the difference between my brother and myself.)

My father, with a sraight face looked at my brother when he made the comment at dinner one night and asked him:
"Yeah, and? You have a problem with this? Where do you think he gets some of his ideas for stories?" (No as far as I know my father didn't know up until then this aspect of my writing.)

My brother was stumped and didn't speak to me for another six months.

Cat

Well, I think my dad is a bit embarrassed. Daddy's little girl shouldn't be writing porn, hmmm?

Bless his heart, anyway. But it is HER damn fault for making him feel uncomfortable. He didn't need to know. I'd planned on branching out into other areas anyway, hoping to get articles in print, practicing the craft.

Bitch slappin'. Yep.

 

[Liar]

Bitch slappin'. Yep.

Now, there's an idea.

Sorry to hear bout the embarrasment...whoever it is that should be embarrassed. Not you, if I get to vote.

 

[fieryjen]

I'm so sorry to hear that as well, Sarahh, and I hope you find a way to make yourself feel better about it soon (what a bunch of great suggestions!). I love your writing, and by all that is right, you shouldn't have to be embarrassed about it.

 

[alice_underneath]

Well, I think my dad is a bit embarrassed. Daddy's little girl shouldn't be writing porn, hmmm?

Bless his heart, anyway. But it is HER damn fault for making him feel uncomfortable. He didn't need to know.

Please excuse me, Sarahh, for offering unsolicited advice from a complete stranger.

My children are still teens. However, as a loving parent I can tell you that there are really only two things that are important to me. Their safety, and their happiness.

I have no idea what your sister told your parents, but it seems very likely to me that whatever it was, her version was at least a partial distortion of the truth.

My suggestion would be to write a letter to your parents in which you tell them what's really going on. Something along the lines of:

- Yes, I write erotic fiction.
- No, this does not mean that I am spending my days with nefarious characters or soliciting sex from random male readers.
- I am proud of my skill as a writer. The only difference between my work and mainstream short stories is the level of detail in which sexuality is discussed.

Etc.

Difficult though this will be, the letter will let your parents know that you are safe, happy, and proud of what you are doing.

At the end of the day, that's all a loving parent wants for their child.

Good luck,

Alice

 

[Guest]

Please excuse me, Sarahh, for offering unsolicited advice from a complete stranger.

My children are still teens. However, as a loving parent I can tell you that there are really only two things that are important to me. Their safety, and their happiness.

I have no idea what your sister told your parents, but it seems very likely to me that whatever it was, her version was at least a partial distortion of the truth.

My suggestion would be to write a letter to your parents in which you tell them what's really going on. Something along the lines of:

- Yes, I write erotic fiction.
- No, this does not mean that I am spending my days with nefarious characters or soliciting sex from random male readers.
- I am proud of my skill as a writer. The only difference between my work and mainstream short stories is the level of detail in which sexuality is discussed.

Etc.

Difficult though this will be, the letter will let your parents know that you are safe, happy, and proud of what you are doing.

At the end of the day, that's all a loving parent wants for their child.

Good luck,

Alice

Alice -

Please don't apologize for offering advice! That's one of the reasons I started this thread. (That, and the need to vent, and the need to trash talk my baby sis just a bit.)

It is a terrific suggestion and your letter is excellent. I think I should confront sis first and try to elicit what she told our parents. Maybe she'll be forthcoming. Maybe not, but at least it gives me a place to begin.

I am wondering - what if she denies the entire thing? Then what?

Grrr. Perhaps I could shove her into the carpet face first and cause pain until she gives up. Hey - she's lactating, but her baby's four months old. It's not like I'm beating up on a pregnant woman!

(And yes - I am going to hell. First the porn, now I'm pounding a new mom into the carpet)