How to write a threesome.

[Rollinbones]

I'm struggling with a scene. I'm struggling with writing in general. I lost my job two years ago and have been doing what i can for cash around the district to support my family. So there has been little creative energy. Mostly just survival energy. But that has changed with a new 'transition to retirement' job and the security it brings. (Imagine this dirty old man as a school bus driver.... Please!)

But threesomes.

I've never had one.

I've had moresomes where it was just a bunch of us and we were all horny and the rules were suspended temporarily for situational reasons. But I'm struggling with writing an intimate threesome. Just three people who are into each other. FFM. F1 is instigator. M is her partner. F2 is a mutually adored friend.

To get myself writing again, I've opened my old folder of stories I started but finished in my head and lost interest in finishing in text and found a few that intrigue me. I'm endeavouring to give them an hour or so tapping at the keyboard to get the creative muscle pumping again. This particular one has me snagged because as they say, 'write what you know'. My family situation means that at this advanced stage in life it is not time for experimental threesomes.

The story is written in first person, the M part of said threesome. I'm trying to concentrate on his experience and convey that while being sensitive to the experience for the involved parties.

Got tips?

Got reading for me? Stories where my esteemed literoticans have tackled this well?

Got personal experience?

I'm familiar with writers block and tackling it like i usually do. Read a lot, write a little each day. But I'm not familiar with threesomes or writing them.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Got reading for me? Stories where my esteemed literoticans have tackled this well?

Honey Always Tastes Better From the Pot

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I've written about FFM, MMF threesomes, and I have been in a couple FFM, IRL.

In the writings, I was convinced I thought through having all people involved equally..

But there's always going to be readers who comment...
"Great, hot story..BUT... A should have fucked B, or B should have sucked C.."

If you really want to write a threesome, and have never been in one, reading stories might be a great idea.

Have fun

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[Rollinbones]

Honey Always Tastes Better From the Pot

Exactly what i'm needing. I love how you used simple names consistently to delineate perspective. I tend to create characters with pet names and let things get confusing. I knew exactly who was doing what to whom because they each had their own voices as well. Different speech patterns and mannerisms.

Hot story made simple to visualise because i could tell who was doing/feeling what.

Also you use little familiar intricacies of scenery and experience to anchor a reader in the imaginary world you create. Masterful. Thanks for the reading.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Got tips?

Got reading for me? Stories where my esteemed literoticans have tackled this well?

Got personal experience?

I'm familiar with writers block and tackling it like i usually do. Read a lot, write a little each day. But I'm not familiar with threesomes or writing them.

It depends on what you're aiming for. A lot of readers haven't experienced threesomes either, and realism isn't necessarily what they want. But if you're looking for RL experience...

IME, authors writing threesomes often make the action feel very...symmetric. Balanced. If Alice and Bob and Carol are getting it on, the Alice-and-Bob stuff needs to get the same amount of spotlight as the Carol-and-Bob stuff. (Alice-and-Carol might get as much, or might get less, but rarely more, because a lot of those stories are male wish-fulfillment.) It feels kind of like that scene in "Who Framed Roger Rabbit" where Daffy and Donald get exactly the same amount of screen time, because it was the only way WB and Disney would agree to having their characters in the same movie.

I've had a few threesomes IRL and it's been rare that they felt like that. Every person in the threesome is different, every pair has its own dynamic, and I find it more interesting when the author works with that messiness instead of trying to make Alice and Carol balance like left shoe, right shoe. If that makes sense. It makes sense in my head.

I have, I guess, one-and-a-half threesome scenes here. The one in The Floggings Will Continue is fairly symmetric, I guess, but I tried to buck the trend by having that as a MFF situation where one of the women is not attracted to the M.

The half-a-threesome scene is in Anjali's Red Scarf, chapter 10, starting on page 2. Each character in that scene has their own motivations and although they're all attracted to one another it doesn't quite end up as a threesome, because Lucy's working through some feelings and not ready to complicate the situation more than it already is, so she ends up just watching instead. I think it's a decent example of that kind of asymmetry I mentioned; it won a reader award so I guess other folk liked that scene too.

 

[Rollinbones]

In the writings, I was convinced I thought through having all people involved equally..

Top tip. Something I could see reflected in your story. Thanks.

In my story it's a bit different because F1 is orchestrating things a little selfishly but I can see from your input that it wont work unless they all are present and participating.

 

[Rollinbones]

It depends on what you're aiming for. A lot of readers haven't experienced threesomes either, and realism isn't necessarily what they want. But if you're looking for RL experience...

IME, authors writing threesomes often make the action feel very...symmetric. Balanced. If Alice and Bob and Carol are getting it on, the Alice-and-Bob stuff needs to get the same amount of spotlight as the Carol-and-Bob stuff. (Alice-and-Carol might get as much, or might get less, but rarely more, because a lot of those stories are male wish-fulfillment.) It feels kind of like that scene in "Who Framed Roger Rabbit" where Daffy and Donald get exactly the same amount of screen time, because it was the only way WB and Disney would agree to having their characters in the same movie.

I've had a few threesomes IRL and it's been rare that they felt like that. Every person in the threesome is different, every pair has its own dynamic, and I find it more interesting when the author works with that messiness instead of trying to make Alice and Carol balance like left shoe, right shoe. If that makes sense. It makes sense in my head.

I have, I guess, one-and-a-half threesome scenes here. The one in The Floggings Will Continue is fairly symmetric, I guess, but I tried to buck the trend by having that as a MFF situation where one of the women is not attracted to the M.

The half-a-threesome scene is in Anjali's Red Scarf, chapter 10, starting on page 2. Each character in that scene has their own motivations and although they're all attracted to one another it doesn't quite end up as a threesome, because Lucy's working through some feelings and not ready to complicate the situation more than it already is, so she ends up just watching instead. I think it's a decent example of that kind of asymmetry I mentioned; it won a reader award so I guess other folk liked that scene too.

Thankyou. It's late here in Australia but i'll read tomorrow.

In my plot, F1 would probably feel more comfortable seeing the other two fuck out their awkwardness so i hear what you're saying.

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I only have one story containing a threesome scene published on Lit. The FFM activity had the male character basically directing the action for the group. Feel free to check it out.

 

[StillStunned]

Despite being essentially a voyeurism story, Flesh for a Third Fantasy is a threesome, and definitely not symmetrical.

Pas de Trois, also a voyeurism story, is about two brothers and a woman.

And by the fourth instalment, My Little Sister Sal develops into a sister-brother-girlfriend situation.

And no, I've never had a threesome. Then again, I've never robbed a mausoleum or had sex with a goat ghost, or plundered a goblins' lair, or any of dozens of other things I've written about.

 

[Rollinbones]

And no, I've never had a threesome. Then again, I've never robbed a mausoleum or had sex with a goat ghost, or plundered a goblins' lair, or any of dozens of other things I've written about.

I love how you had to cross out goat.

 

[CalBishForNow]

I've written several threesomes, but none were as simple as "three people are each into each other equally and go at it". There's the swingers party where the MC is open to almost anything and happens to wind up with two people at once for a while, the MC being sent to join a couple as a surprise/gift/favor, and an established couple inviting a third over to spice it up, plus variations on each of those.

Maybe I should try "three people are each into each other equally and go at it" and I've been ignoring an interesting opportunity. On the other hand, maybe it wouldn't ring true.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I'm struggling with a scene. I'm struggling with writing in general. I lost my job two years ago and have been doing what i can for cash around the district to support my family. So there has been little creative energy. Mostly just survival energy. But that has changed with a new 'transition to retirement' job and the security it brings. (Imagine this dirty old man as a school bus driver.... Please!)

But threesomes.

I've never had one.

I've had moresomes where it was just a bunch of us and we were all horny and the rules were suspended temporarily for situational reasons. But I'm struggling with writing an intimate threesome. Just three people who are into each other. FFM. F1 is instigator. M is her partner. F2 is a mutually adored friend.

To get myself writing again, I've opened my old folder of stories I started but finished in my head and lost interest in finishing in text and found a few that intrigue me. I'm endeavouring to give them an hour or so tapping at the keyboard to get the creative muscle pumping again. This particular one has me snagged because as they say, 'write what you know'. My family situation means that at this advanced stage in life it is not time for experimental threesomes.

The story is written in first person, the M part of said threesome. I'm trying to concentrate on his experience and convey that while being sensitive to the experience for the involved parties.

Got tips?

Got reading for me? Stories where my esteemed literoticans have tackled this well?

Got personal experience?

I'm familiar with writers block and tackling it like i usually do. Read a lot, write a little each day. But I'm not familiar with threesomes or writing them.

Threesomes are as varied as two person sex. I can’t comment on FFF (), MMF, or MMM, but even looking at MFM (most experience) and combinatorics of F, M, and F (occasional) it’s very variable with different focus on each of the parties at different times.

Different people leading, sequential or parallel intercourse. One passive and two engaged or all three involved all the time. Different emotions from transactional heat to tender togetherness. Tensions due to feeling marginalized or less desired to chilled harmony to extreme desire. Plain awkwardness and who does what with who is not uncommon.

Also prior experience may vary. Perhaps a couple are inducing a newbie into the experience (your plot explains why). Maybe only one of the three has done this before, or no one has.

All of which goes to show you can write what you want. There is no cannonical threesome experience. And - as a has been said - probably the majority of your readers will have no IRL experience either, so it’s not like they will be giving you a rating out of ten for verisimilitude.

My only advice is what has been said above, focus on what people are feeling - lean into it being something that is not everyday and the participants having to find their way with a few false starts. It’s also an interesting way to highlight relationship dynamics and insecurities and even jealousies.

Good luck

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I have had threesomes and moresomes, and to be honest, I'm not really a fan, because it's hard to concentrate on more than one person at a time and someone's leg/arm/hair is always in the way. It tends to end up as A and B while C watches/cheerleader/narrates/strokes them a bit, then changing places.

The interesting part is how A, B and C feel about all this, at least to me. Other authors stick to a fantasy where a threesome is a mark of success (a MFF one for a man, generally), and having it is the goal, so as long as the man gets off surrounded by tits, reality is irrelevant.

From my stories, Trio of Non-Monogamies is an emotional threesome (MM-F), this chapter of Educating Laura has a threesome in a small tent (M-F-M), but I've not a actually written a MFF one, I don't think, though two happened and were mentioned briefly at the end of Naked Bisexual Lube Wrestling (a story of 10 women, and one man not wanting to be thrown out of the party).

I've been writing a chapter of Bradley the nice American with Rachel and Emma, but it's focusing on whether he can be lured into BDSM and not much WHGOGA.

 

[TheRedChamber]

I have had threesomes and moresomes, and to be honest, I'm not really a fan, because it's hard to concentrate on more than one person at a time and someone's leg/arm/hair is always in the way. It tends to end up as A and B while C watches/cheerleader/narrates/strokes them a bit, then changing places.

Just a friendly warning. If you let reality run loose in this forum again, it will be shot.

 

[FrancesScott]

One of my early, and thus more experimental, stories here is called Open Wide. It’s a play on words referring to emotions as well as two types of physical opening.

It’s my only story here to feature sex with more than one person. The only IRL experience that informs it is two women, one a dentist the other a dental technician, at my local practice. I noticed a what I thought was more than professional closeness between them. It might just have been colleagues who were friendly, but it seemed more to me (quite likely erroneously).

Anyway, they were the inspiration for a rather contrived tale about a lesbian woman and her bisexual woman partner (a dentist and technician based on the pair above) picking up a male patient after work.

Even here, I had to have a why (a contrived why as I say) which was the bisexual woman still wanting to scratch a male itch from time to time. This was a source of tension in their relationship and I injected a sense of sadness and even desperation into the lesbian character.

But, at the end of the day, and despite me trying to layer actual motivations (however unlikely) on to the trio, it was still just an elaborate set-up for a threesome.

I wasn’t even attempting versimilitude, more a fig leaf. But people seemed to like it nevertheless.

Let me state here that I have never had sex with one dental professional (of any gender), let alone two!

 

[yowser]

I think you have made life easier for your endeavor by choosing first person, which will allow things to work better in descriptions, identities during events, etc. Seems to me the first pivot will be the set up. Who got interested first? What started things in this direction? Then there can be tension about the third person, how they got convinced/roped in. You may need some interesting conversations to take place to tease out the multivariable urges.

Bombshell in the Berkshires involves a married couple whose wife discovers (alarmingly and unexpectedly) that her husband has been dallying with a bisexual buddy. Lots of room for emotional reactions/tensions before they all get together.

 

[StillStunned]

I think you have made life easier for your endeavor by choosing first person,

Yes but...

The story is written in first person, the M part of said threesome.

So you get "I", "she" and "she". This means can become clumsy, when you have to keep identifying which of the two "shes" you're referring to.

 

[yowser]

Of course you're right, and care will need to be taken in the throes for clarity as to who is doing what. But I still think first person is easier, you focus on the one fellow's take on things, and I suspect it won't be too difficult to keep persons identified. Third person always runs the risks of reading like a sports commentator relating a team action, needing to keep All Participants clearly delineated.

 

[EmilyMiller]

So you get "I", "she" and "she".

Try writing an FFF when all three women look identical (and are unrelated)…

 

[StillStunned]

Of course you're right

 

[MrPixel]

I have had threesomes and moresomes, and to be honest, I'm not really a fan, because it's hard to concentrate on more than one person at a time and someone's leg/arm/hair is always in the way. It tends to end up as A and B while C watches/cheerleader/narrates/strokes them a bit, then changing places.

That's been my experience, as well, although, frankly, my favorite part IRL was the sandwich cuddle (FMF) in the afterglow. What I write favors FFMF foursomes, one on top and one on each side in rotation, but sometimes "deteriorates" into an MF+FF. Writing all the FCs in the harem as bi to a greater or lesser extent is frequently a convenient plot device. Also gives the MMC time to recover.

The rare MFM story scene often involves a spitroast; IRL it was taking turns, which was fun. She thought so, too!

I've written it both 1st- and 3rd-person, and at least to me it doesn't seem to make any difference in flow.

So you get "I", "she" and "she". This means can become clumsy, when you have to keep identifying which of the two "shes" you're referring to.

My story lovers have "pillow names". Debbie shortens to "Deb", Eleanor shortens to "El", and Emily becomes "Em", and so on. Makes both the narrative and character banter much easier.

 

[StillStunned]

Try writing an FFF when all three women look identical (and are unrelated)…

You must be mistaking me for someone who's silly enough to try that. Like you.

 

[EmilyMiller]

You must be mistaking me for someone who's silly enough to try that. Like you.

 

[spiralholly]

I get the joke, but at the same time I hate that quote for how it screwed up my thinking growing up. It's a very Taoist magical thinking that suggests you will fail unless you are destined to succeed, in which case practicing and learning from failure is irrelevant.

 

[CalBishForNow]

Of course you're right, and care will need to be taken in the throes for clarity as to who is doing what. But I still think first person is easier, you focus on the one fellow's take on things, and I suspect it won't be too difficult to keep persons identified. Third person always runs the risks of reading like a sports commentator relating a team action, needing to keep All Participants clearly delineated.

On the other hand, you can do what I did and embrace the uncertainty. From the climax, har har, of my first series:

Then one hand withdrew. A moment later it was replaced by a round, hard, smooth, phallus probing her labia, sliding inside easily.

Ohmigod, this is crazy, I'm getting fucked again.

Linda moaned and wrapped her arms around Alicia's thighs. The cock inside Alicia thrust forward until hips met her thighs, and Alicia moaned in turn. She lowered her head a little and Linda, maybe sensing it, tensed her hips, raising her pussy closer to Alicia's mouth. Alicia accepted the nonverbal request and tried to start tonguing her pussy again, despite now having a cock demanding her attention.

And her curiosity. Is it Gene? He could have recovered by now. Or Dave or Frank? I never actually SAW them with Brandy.

I hope Linda isn't mad. If she is, I'll really, really have to make it up to her, she thought, redoubling her efforts with her tongue. What's she doing? Maybe sucking his balls? Maybe rimming his ass?

Maybe... maybe it's not even a he! The idea exploded in Alicia's brain just as an orgasm exploded in her body. That feels like rubber, so maybe it's a man with a condom, but maybe it's Elena with their strap-on! Or, hell, maybe it's even Vivian, Betty, or Rashida with a strap-on! Rashida would be great with it!

She tried to ignore any straps or lack thereof she might have felt around their hips that might resolve the uncertainty. She squealed as the mystery provided all the stimulation she needed and more for another continuous, shaking orgasm. She did her best to finger Linda's clit at the same time as she tongue-fucked her while someone else pummeled her pussy and she could only imagine what Linda was doing for that person.

I think overall I made the series harder on myself than I had to by putting the FMC in a blindfold for most sex scenes. I definitely made it harder by putting her in a blindfold and then storyboarding the other characters with/on/around her anyway. When I go back to her, I think I want to keep any group scenes ambiguous.