It's Chinese food tonight with my daughter. Life doesn't get much better!!!

[FlamingoBlue]

Every Wednesday evening, my daughter and I ( she's 29+), go out to dinner together. I consider it one of the high points of my week. We sit and talk and then I usually go back to her house to spend time with her, my grandpuppy and her fiance'. It is a wonderful evening and I cherish them like they were treasures.

In the end, all we have is time and what we do with it. This past week, my son was here from NYC and we hung out. Nothing spectacular, just very comfortable.

To those of you who are young adults, I tell you that a good relationship with your parents is like gold. And for you who are parents, I tell you to nurture the relationship with your children regardless of your disagreements. That IS gold.

Well, I'm off to dinner.


blue

 

[Juliangel]

Have fun Blue.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Dinner was wonderful, Julia....

The company was better!!

blue

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

Blue I understand were your comeing from I'm very close with my mother but I'm going to visit her on the 11th and I so miss my mommy lol

 

[Passionnee]

I hope..no I will...

Be like you, and also want the man I choose to be my husband (yes I am still single)to be close to our children (yes one day I will have some if God let's me.)like you are with yours. I promised myself that.

I lost my father when I was only 9, and we had that special bond you seem to have with your girl. Saturday was our day. I still can remember clearly those days. I lost all of that when he died. Me and my mom, never got along, and never will. That's the way of life I guess.

Anyway, I am glad to see, that some parents do care about their kids. And puts a smile on my lips when I saw this today. I said to myself, dad would of done the same thing, make sure we had our special day.

 

[Nicole]

Blue, I have two of the most wonderful human beings as my Parents, and I won't even begin to go into what thay have done for me in my lifetime (I too am 29).

I have said this before, If I can be half the parent that my parents are to me, then I will be a good Mother.

Close to 6 years ago I fell pregnant, and my Parents stood by me, they have helped me in every possible way to raise my son into the gorgeous little man he is now. Including when he was extremly ill and I couldn't calm him, it was MY Dad, his Pop, that stayed up with him while I got some sleep, and Dad calmed him.

My Mum gave me a present last week, she looked after my son for the whole week so I could have a break, and although we still live with my parents, I appriciated that time for me, it was my first break in 5 years.

I have the best parents and am very lucky indeed to be as close to them as I am.

Blue I am sure you kids think the same way, you are one in a million, and you deserve all the happiness you have.

Thanks for sharing so much of your life with us

 

[teresafannin]

Blue, I think it is wonderful that you are so close to your kids. Being a parent is one of, if not the, hardest jobs out there. I have a very good relationship with my parents & like Nicole, when I was pregnant & not married, they stood by me. I had a great relationship with Justin. At 17, he had reached the stage where we weren't just mother & son, we were friends, as well. We had Sonic night, once a week the two of us would go to Sonic, the last few times we went, he drove in the little truck we had just bought. Thank you for bringing up a happy memory for me.

 

[CW]

And for you who are parents, I tell you to nurture the relationship with your children regardless of your disagreements. That IS gold.

blue

Right on daddy Blue. It's for sure 24 carrat gold.

It's a pleasure that keeps on rewarding you. Grab it and create something meaningful with your kids,,, you just never know when they may be gone, or when you may be gone.

I'll add a PS to this,,,

Start as young as you can to build the relationship with your children. There is no magicial age that you need to wait for the arrival of.









[Edited by CW on 01-04-2001 at 04:24 AM]

 

[Madison]

First of all, as the daughter Flamingo Blue is referring to,
Let me clear one thing up:
As I look down on my left hand, I notice that there is no "rock" there as of yet...but other than the fact that my father called my boyfriend my "fiancee," the rest is correct. I'm still waiting for the "rock" and for my father to lay down some cash for the big event.

At any rate, for the last year or so, my father (Flamingo Blue) and I have made a conscious effort to do dinner every Wednesday evening. I look forward to it. Sometimes I'm lucky enough to see him on Sunday too, but that's more because I need him as a buffer to deal with my grandmother (his mother). She's not easy...

You are all extremely fortunate that my father (blue) has chosen this website to post his thoughts (however sick they may be at times). As someone who knows him very, very well, let me say this:
I have never met anyone quite like him. He is eccentric. He is quick. He is compassionate AND passionate. He is nuts. He is intimidating. He is powerful. He is classy. He's the brightest, most interesting person I've ever met, and I know that I am who I am 85% in part to him. I'm lucky for that. You're lucky too, because you're getting to know him.
--Madison

 

[Merelan]

And he is married.... shit. Wait, so am I. Does that count then?

Madison, you are like your Dad aren't you. I hope he prints that up and frames it. It shows his success as a Father.

Any leftovers?

 

[FlamingoBlue]

I am overwhelmed by your replies....

I have always tried to have a good relationship with my children. When they were growing up, I was there and I have always been there since. Its not just a matter of putting in time. Its about developing a loving, close and trusting relationship. Believe me, its not easy but its well worth the effort.

Children are like clay for a parent. I have tried and I will continue to try to be a skilled sculpter. This means that I can never stop learning.

Two weeks ago, my daughter went to buy a new car. Her fiance' asked to go with her and she said that she wanted me to go with her as I had helped her buy her 2 previous cars. He understood. I was honored! (BTW, we got a great deal. The 2 of us are a real team).

One of the ways that I stay "fresh" in terms of my ideas is to spend time with "young" people, especially here. I like to ask questions. That's how I learn. I ALWAYS keep an open mind and am not too proud to admit my mistakes.

To those of you who have dificulty with your parents/children, seek reconcilliation. Trust me, my mother is one of the most difficult people in the world but, with LOVE, therapy and understanding I have managed to create a wonderful realtionship with her. Open your hearts to those close to you and accept them for who they are.

blue

[Edited by FlamingoBlue on 01-04-2001 at 07:38 AM]

 

[Madison]

Merelan--
I'll keep you posted on the leftovers...
Madison

 

[Merelan]

Man, I could go for some leftover Chinese right now.... blah... checking fridge.
Leftovers from New Years Party... again. I always make too much.
I love this thread, and am writing to my Dad right now, thanks to you two.

 

[Never]

Madison:
"You are all extremely fortunate that my father (blue) has chosen this website to post his thoughts (however sick they may be at times). As someone who knows him very, very well, let me say this:
I have never met anyone quite like him. He is eccentric. He is quick. He is compassionate AND passionate. He is nuts. He is intimidating. He is powerful. He is classy. He's the brightest, most interesting person I've ever met, and I know that I am who I am 85% in part to him. I'm lucky for that. You're lucky too, because you're getting to know him."

Oh, you've already memorized the notes he gave you for the funeral speech? You're a quick study, all give you that, but didn't you get the rewrites yet. Here's what you're supposed to say at the end...

He's the most fribulous, frabulous, fintab-tabuluos guy. A wonderful, wondrous, ponderous, precocious, and predaceous father a girl could ask for.
Oh, thank you lord, for this man, this man of men, and this saint. You did truly deliver this world from darkness with his birth and gave hope to these poor, benighted souls that huddle around him for warmth and wisdom.
As we offer him back to your bosom, the celestial palace of splendor from which he emerged we are not angry that you have taken from us, this, the most precious gift you have blessed the earth with. No, we are not angry, for we know that a being such as he, a light so golden and so pure - was not meant for this world!
No! He was not meant to scrub along in the dirt and filth of this place but to reside in beauty and grace among the dome of the heavens. Where, there, the angels might sing his praises forever while he sits at your right hand.

Amen.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I hope they serve Chinese food at the ceremony.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Nice to meet you Madison! You would be suprised how much we all appreciate your father. I run to him alot with my problems because he always seems to be able to calm me with his answers. Damn i want Blue to be my daddy!! Can I trade mine in?

 

[Madison]

It's so nice to hear how much you guys like and appreciate my daddy!!!
Thanks so much,
Madison