It doesn't have to be this way ! a thread for the opinionated

[Snork Maiden]

Hey Everybody,

It's me, Snork again.

Yes, yes I know I don't start many threads but I do join in occasionally. I think Lit. is a pretty laid back place and not overly opinionated, unfortunately that's one of my biggest failings.

I guess being opinionated is the reason for this thread. I read through many of the topics here, some good, some bad and others just too damned ugly. One of the things I see a lot are people complaining about other people. I don't mean flaming or attacks on other lit people. What I mean is 'My wife doesn't excite me anymore.', 'Our Sex life is non existant!', My husband won't try new things'....

You get the idea.

Well why is this ?
One of the best courses I ever attended was a very physical and mentally draining process in which I spend 48 hours with around 70 other stangers and bared my soul.

All my life I spent time blaming other people for my own failures or making excuses for not having done something or something going wrong. Yes ok I turned out ok, but it was hard work.

A lot of blame of course wasn't really my fault, oops I can feel myself slipping into that scapegoating mode, but no seriously, society is a cruel peer, it is so quick to fail and slow to praise achievements.

How many times do you hear people tell others that they can't or won't be able to do something or its beyond their ability. What utter rot. Everyone has the ability to achieve their own dreams, What they don't always understand is that they have to work for it.

I find it extremely vacuous when hear people complain about their problems being some else's fault. Are we not all individuals?
I don't dictate my partner's life and he doesn't mine. We communicate our problems and help each other solve them but ultimately it is me that has to take the action and responsibility for the things I do in my life just as it his his responsibility to do the same for himself.

I would love to hear from other opionated people I can see this thread could get heated, but a good debate is good for the soul and we are all friends together really

SM

 

[Dhalgren]

We communicate our problems and help each other solve them but ultimately it is me that has to take the action and responsibility for the things I do in my life just as it his responsibility to do the same for himself.


I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly.
We come into this World, and ultimately leave this World very much alone.

When we find someone with whom we evolve as human beings, I think it’s a wondrous, fantastic thing.

But we really shouldn’t feel that we can control how and what they need in this World just to fit our own scales and ideals.

Love=Acceptance

 

[Wolf_Song]

Thoughts

Good people sharing wisdom with courtesy and love is what will make the world a better place. From there understanding and tolerance grow of self, couples, groups, societies and the world as a whole.

But first it takes steps to be willing, then to discover what the world has been, is truly about and can potentially be. Not only in the physical, but also in the spiritual essence of others and self.

Find out what truly is and where one should be going in life, then follow that path and be true to what really is meant to be

 

[Wolf_Song]

Its a girl !!!

Congratulations on newborn Snork and my new opinionated comment in this thread is that " your gonna make a great momma ! " ( warm grin n hugs for tha whole family