It’s Happened

[Stilllearning2b]

I’ve lost interest. I don’t have any desire to have sex.

Here I am 43, and the idea of sex actually terrifies me.

 

[bushyTrail]

Hey, it happens, but it's not necessarily written in stone.
I've experienced times like these and I'm younger (28). For me it was a bout of depression or stress.
Don't feel bad about it, but do investigate what made it happen: it might be important for non sex-related stuff.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I’ve lost interest. I don’t have any desire to have sex.

Here I am 43, and the idea of sex actually terrifies me.

my condolences but as has already been pointed out--, have it checked out make sure it ain't something EVEN more serious and eternally permanent.

 

[isebellabee23]

I’ve lost interest. I don’t have any desire to have sex.

Here I am 43, and the idea of sex actually terrifies me.

Well, that's ok!

 

[jdc38]

I’ve lost interest. I don’t have any desire to have sex.

Here I am 43, and the idea of sex actually terrifies me.

Don’t stress over it. Could be temporary. Life’s a journey and we all go through changes.

 

[jehoram]

I’ve lost interest. I don’t have any desire to have sex.

Here I am 43, and the idea of sex actually terrifies me.

What are you afraid of, exactly? The fear of not being able to perform and satisfy a partner?

The inability to be aroused?

The fear of initiating a sexual relationship with someone, with its investments in emotion?

The fear of what happens to you emotionally when that sexual relationship goes away?

I don't really want your answers to these questions, but I think that you should want those answers. If you have the money, these are things that are best discussed with a psychologist, who may offer insight into why you have these fears. If not, there are support groups elsewhere, usually through community centers, but you'll have to seek them out.

If a lack of arousal is the cause, that's something you'll need to discuss with a specialist in that field. The problem could be hormonal, or otherwise physiological.

And remember that there is no good answer except the one that works for you. It's all about what makes you happy in the long run, and what stands in the way of your joy.