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Small sacrifices made
and broken
and all that is left
is sorrow and love
for what was never brought into being.
 
Im befuddled- my sisters -in- law and I are hosting a baby shower for my other sister in law, in September.
The weekends never worked out for any of us in August so thats why its a little later.

The one that had the baby had a shower given to her by her other sister in law down where they live. No problem- EXCEPT- none of my brothers side of the family were invited! (not cool)

So My sisters in law and I as well as mom had already discussed the shower we were having for her and had a list made up of people to attend.
Come to find out, baby's mom doesnt want her family invited, being that it wouldnt be fair to ask them to bring a second gift, and that we didnt have to go to two showers! Well WTF! Is it fair that we didnt get invited to theirs?

My perdicament, being raised properly, I would invite all of both families female members, the grandmas, sisters in law (neither her nor I have sisters), aunts, neices and possibly cousins.
But because of the statement my sil made, that takes half the people off the list, she has a huge family.
Should I alter our list because her sil and mom ignored our side of their family?

hmmm
C
 
SensualCealy said:
Im befuddled- my sisters -in- law and I are hosting a baby shower for my other sister in law, in September.
The weekends never worked out for any of us in August so thats why its a little later.

The one that had the baby had a shower given to her by her other sister in law down where they live. No problem- EXCEPT- none of my brothers side of the family were invited! (not cool)

So My sisters in law and I as well as mom had already discussed the shower we were having for her and had a list made up of people to attend.
Come to find out, baby's mom doesnt want her family invited, being that it wouldnt be fair to ask them to bring a second gift, and that we didnt have to go to two showers! Well WTF! Is it fair that we didnt get invited to theirs?

My perdicament, being raised properly, I would invite all of both families female members, the grandmas, sisters in law (neither her nor I have sisters), aunts, neices and possibly cousins.
But because of the statement my sil made, that takes half the people off the list, she has a huge family.
Should I alter our list because her sil and mom ignored our side of their family?

hmmm
C

I would say that you should leave her family off of the guest list simply because they've already given her shower gifts. I don't know whose bad idea it was to NOT invite your brother's family, thus forcing both families to hold individual baby showers, but that decision was made by someone and so, you're left with the results. IMO, it's not impolite to NOT invite her family. I suspect that they aren't expecting to be invited, anyhow, since they already had a shower for her. Besides, it's not all their fault, the way that the shower guest list was made up. No sense in making them feel obligated to attend both and to bring gifts for both. That's just my opinion. Hope that helps. :rose:
 
AppleBiter said:
I would say that you should leave her family off of the guest list simply because they've already given her shower gifts. I don't know whose bad idea it was to NOT invite your brother's family, thus forcing both families to hold individual baby showers, but that decision was made by someone and so, you're left with the results. IMO, it's not impolite to NOT invite her family. I suspect that they aren't expecting to be invited, anyhow, since they already had a shower for her. Besides, it's not all their fault, the way that the shower guest list was made up. No sense in making them feel obligated to attend both and to bring gifts for both. That's just my opinion. Hope that helps. :rose:

The whole baby shower (or the bridal one either) thing completely throws me. Why? What for? Over here, once people know you're pregnant, if they want to, they bring you a gift, when they next see you. In most cases, the gift - usually clothes or baby toys, or a supply of nappies (diapers), is given to the parents AFTER the baby's birth. Any gifts of a more permanent nature are usually given to the parents at the baby's baptism - if they have one.
 
matriarch said:
The whole baby shower (or the bridal one either) thing completely throws me. Why? What for? Over here, once people know you're pregnant, if they want to, they bring you a gift, when they next see you. In most cases, the gift - usually clothes or baby toys, or a supply of nappies (diapers), is given to the parents AFTER the baby's birth. Any gifts of a more permanent nature are usually given to the parents at the baby's baptism - if they have one.

I'm not sure why or how the tradition got started, but I'm not complaining! lol :D Besides, the more gifts that you acquire before the baby's born = the less things mom and dad-to-be have to shop for. ;)
 
matriarch said:
Spill it.
:kiss:

Well, my financial aid for school is messed up at the moment and I'm being overcharged by about $3000, despite phone calls to admissions, financial aid and the bursar's office. If it doesn't get fixed by Friday, I may not have enough money to move.
 
Up early, I have a lawn to mow and trim before the sun gets too hot. Already 83F here.

One final day of manic clearing and packing, then cleaning the house.

Tomorrow will be the final check through, before flying back to UK.

One part of me will be very sad to leave - I've enjoyed the relaxed way of life here, but the part of me that hates excessive heat is overjoyed to be leaving.

:( :) :( :) :nana: :rolleyes:
 
sophia jane said:
Well, my financial aid for school is messed up at the moment and I'm being overcharged by about $3000, despite phone calls to admissions, financial aid and the bursar's office. If it doesn't get fixed by Friday, I may not have enough money to move.

Ouch.
Ermmm....you pay for school?????
 
matriarch said:
Ouch.
Ermmm....you pay for school?????

My financial aid (ie grants, loans, and scholarships) pays for school; I'm supposed to have lots leftover from those things to help with living expenses. That money was going to be added to the moving fund. So...I REALLY need this fixed.
 
sophia jane said:
My financial aid (ie grants, loans, and scholarships) pays for school; I'm supposed to have lots leftover from those things to help with living expenses. That money was going to be added to the moving fund. So...I REALLY need this fixed.

So someone's arse needs kicking, big time.
I hope it all gets sorted, love.
Fingers crossed.
 
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