Isolated Blurt Thread

[carsonshepherd]

He doesn't get it
I've finally realized, he never will

 

[impressive]

He doesn't get it
I've finally realized, he never will

 

[English Lady]

He doesn't get it
I've finally realized, he never will

*hugs* love, it's a painful realisation but it will help you do what you need to do. never forget, i'm here for you!

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

He doesn't get it
I've finally realized, he never will

That's a really good thing to realize! Now you can stop putting so much energy into it.

 

[English Lady]

"Please hold the line, your call will be answered as soon as possible."

oooh....someone did after 30 mins!!!!

 

[Liar]

*groan* This is going to suck. But it's my mess, so what to do?

 

[matriarch]

Why the hell am I up?
Going back to bed.

 

[English Lady]

*groan* This is going to suck.

*hugs*

night mat

 

[carsonshepherd]

*groan* This is going to suck. But it's my mess, so what to do?

mention it in a humorous way to the GF and then never ever drink with your neighbor again?

 

[Antfarmer77]

Could it possibly rain any harder or anymore?! Sheesh...I can't see it really, I only hear it on the roof....because...I CAN'T FIND MY GLASSES!!

Ok I just found 'em. "...Lucy...you got some 'splainin' to do..."

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

*son is watching tv with me in the room*

Why are cartoons these days so stupid?

 

[FallingToFly]

You've been having a panic attack for two days, ever since I said there was no chance in hell of you keeping me longer than it takes for the baby to get in school. Do you really think asking ever ten minutes if I've changed my mind, calling at 7 a.m. to make sure I didn't grab the kids and run as soon as you left for work, or doing your best to fuck me on every surface of this house is going to change my mind? Sex is the only thing we ever agreed on- and even that I'm sick of trying to make work.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Falling. . .

 

[FallingToFly]

Falling. . .

I'm okay Red, just annoyed more than anything... I have two more years to live as amicable enemies with this person, and he finally realized that I'm not just wavering in the doorway, my bags are packed, the tickets are bought, and I'm already gone. The only reason I'm staying is so my kids have a stable base until they're in school, because I'm going to have to let him have primary custody on a temporary basis until I can finish out my schooling and be able to provide financially for them and have a big enough place for them to come back to me- until then, it'll be school holidays and summer break.

On the bright side, they'll be older, and a little more capable of understanding the whys and wherefores. Thank gods they're intelligent and rational kids- this is still going to rip holes in their universe.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

It is never easy. I have two sisters that have been involved in several divorces in their lives. One has 4 another 2. It is going to be hard, but it sounds like they understand some of what is going on. The and still are for you though, for the times when you need to blurt.

 

[Liar]

mention it in a humorous way to the GF and then never ever drink with your neighbor again?

Something like that, yes. Still doesn't mean it will suck less. Lady's got a temperament, so I'm bound to get a solid scolding and a shorter leash. Ah well, could be worse.

 

[AppleBiter]

WHAT is so fucking HARD for people to understand about this??!! Jesus.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

A woman who is very close to me is going through the divorce from hell and would dream about a situation in which the parties behave as rationally and responsibly as Falling describes, (comparatively minor) irritations and frustrations notwithstanding. Her soon-to-be ex has revealed himself to be very evil, using children as weapons and pawns, so he can steal her house and not have to get a real job. (She entered the marriage with a valuable house and a ton of equity. He entered it with a beat up car and a ton of debt.)

 

[rgraham666]

WHAT is so fucking HARD for people to understand about this??!! Jesus.

"It is difficult to make someone understand something when their salary is dependent on them not understanding." Don't know who said this, but it's true.

For salary, substitute 'power' or 'ego' and you've got the bases covered.

 

[AppleBiter]

"It is difficult to make someone understand something when their salary is dependent on them not understanding." Don't know who said this, but it's true.

For salary, substitute 'power' or 'ego' and you've got the bases covered.

Thanks. Made me smile.

 

[BlackShanglan]

*groan* This is going to suck. But it's my mess, so what to do?

Two realistic and ethical options present themselves:

(1) If you're positive that you'll control yourself (or fall asleep) on future occasions, or if you're willing to scrupulously avoid drinking alone with your neighbor or similarly attractive folk, say nothing and let the GF sleep well. Not everything needs to be said.

(2) If there's a possibility that you will end up in a passionate (possibly drunken, possibly not) embrace with her best friend, explain to the GF that monogamy does not appear to be on the cards, and let her make her own call from there. Start with the general concept of monogamy; wait to discuss specific persons until a slightly later date, ideally when you've got a clear impression that your interest is shared.

Of course, there's the very popular option of "pretend it won't happen, say nothing about it, and improvise cleverly on the spot when found in a compromising and semi-acrobatic position with her best friend and the forward line of the Swedish national polo team," but I don't recommend that one. It tends to be painful for everyone involved, and to really open out new vistas in the definition and extensions of the word "pain."

Shanglan

 

[BlackShanglan]

"It is difficult to make someone understand something when their salary is dependent on them not understanding." Don't know who said this, but it's true.

For salary, substitute 'power' or 'ego' and you've got the bases covered.

Perfect nutshell. Nice one, Rob.

 

[BlackShanglan]

A woman who is very close to me is going through the divorce from hell and would dream about a situation in which the parties behave as rationally and responsibly as Falling describes, (comparatively minor) irritations and frustrations notwithstanding. Her soon-to-be ex has revealed himself to be very evil, using children as weapons and pawns, so he can steal her house and not have to get a real job. (She entered the marriage with a valuable house and a ton of equity. He entered it with a beat up car and a ton of debt.)

Ugh. I wish I could send her some of those ideal people from the property rights thread. There are never enough of those to go around. It's such a horrible thing to see someone use children so callously; it's like acknowledging a total incapacity for love of any sort.

 

[Honey123]

*thinking of something to say so Shang will notice me*

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

ALBATROSS!!!!