Is your phone ruining your relationship or your bff?

[Debbie]

Recently I was listening to a radio talk show and one of the hosts was discussing that she had been pulled over for texting while driving. She accepted responsibility for breaking the law but said she was using it unconsciously or out of habit. As in it was automatic for her to answer her phone and text and drive because she was never without her phone and 99%of the time it was in her hand.

She claimed she wasn't deliberating breaking the law it was just force of habit.

I believe she genuinely thinks what she said on air. Blame it on the phone. Or a bad habit.

So is your phone your bff? Is it literally on hand almost all of the time? Is it ruining your relationship?


Quite and interesting article on "cell phone conflict theory."


"Research suggests that checking your cell phone is a sign of craving a dopamine hit. Dopamine is a neurochemical known as "the reward molecule". It's that feel good buzz after someone cute smiles at you or you ace a presentation."


http://www.newshub.co.nz/home/world/2017/08/is-your-phone-addiction-ruining-your-relationship.html

 

[lovetoread]

next month when i am on call, i will need to keep it around me but mostly i ignore it

unless i am posting pics to the fb or reading my kindle stories

i never touch it while driving

 

[Matthew Craig]

Idiots ruin relationships.

 

[Hypoxia]

I have no friends and I don't text so no problem.

 

[Debbie]

next month when i am on call, i will need to keep it around me but mostly i ignore it

unless i am posting pics to the fb or reading my kindle stories

i never touch it while driving

I was talking to a friend overseas who has just put his teen into rehab. I said I'm sorry to hear that.

Turns out it is a rehab to help the teen deal with anger problems and acting out from having her cellphone taken off her for bad grades and missing curfew.

Her therapists diagnosis - behavioral disorder stemming from her cell phone addiction.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

No.


My phone is just a tool.

 

[AnAmericanDarling]

There's no such thing as a "cell phone addiction". There's not an "addiction" for everything on the planet. But as for my cell phone, I have no problem separating myself from it. I rarely text because I'd rather talk to someone verbally, and I'm not a real chatty gal any way.

 

[BotanyBoy]

No...I don't like my phone and I don't have any real relationships with people because people are a bunch of fuckin' flakes. It's all bidnizz for me.

All my best human friends are on this very GB.

I like the trees and 4 leggers the most though.

Got my cat, Chairman Meow and the ol' Chihuahua, Dear Leader.....nice plant collection.

My life is pretty complete.

 

[Phelia]

I resisted a smartphone until my work bought me one and forced me to use it. I did not like seeing the screen zombies play dumb games around me and generally thought smarter phones meant dumber people.

It would be hard to go back, now. I love maps, being able to find stuff on the go, find an answer to any question that pops into my head. If I forget it at home or work I sometimes feel a little anxious without it, but that I am even capable of forgetting it shocks most of my friends, who yell at me because I let my battery get below 15%. I think they are nuts and get really vexed when they just blankly scroll through their phones in my presence. It's annoying and seems to be a largely vacuous and empty experience for them as well and more force of habit than anything.

I think the trick is to disable as many push notifications as possible, limit social apps, and put the friggin thing on airplane mode every so often. Software designers play a role in this because everything wants to be "a service" or "a platform" for "engagement" or whatever bullshit so they purposefully create addictive, habit forming experiences that exploit our wacky human brains.

 

[Debbie]

There's no such thing as a "cell phone addiction". There's not an "addiction" for everything on the planet. But as for my cell phone, I have no problem separating myself from it. I rarely text because I'd rather talk to someone verbally, and I'm not a real chatty gal any way.

Supposedly it is considered to be an addiction now. Especially with teens.



http://www.psychguides.com/guides/signs-and-symptoms-of-cell-phone-addiction/

It could be a scam to get money from patients for cell phone rehab.



Call 0800 900 900 on your cellphone if you need help. (tongue in cheek not a real phone number of course. )

 

[jezzilee]

I have no friends and I don't text so no problem.

No.


My phone is just a tool.

really?????

 

[gardenia19]

.....

 

[Aquagal]

A friend stopped calling after we went to lunch and she wouldn't stop playing her dumbass candy crush. I asked to see her phone for a sec, she handed it over and I put it up on my forehead facing her and said, "Now can we talk?" She rolled her eyes, but my point was obvious and she didn't like it. People evolve and move on, maybe that was the line, maybe not. Eh

 

[thør]

A friend stopped calling after we went to lunch and she wouldn't stop playing her dumbass candy crush. I asked to see her phone for a sec, she handed it over and I put it up on my forehead facing her and said, "Now can we talk?" She rolled her eyes, but my point was obvious and she didn't like it. People evolve and move on, maybe that was the line, maybe not. Eh

Candy Crush?

 

[Debbie]

Candy Crush?

candy crack

Candy Crush Saga is a free-to-play match-three puzzle video game for Facebook

 

[Debbie]

A friend stopped calling after we went to lunch and she wouldn't stop playing her dumbass candy crush. I asked to see her phone for a sec, she handed it over and I put it up on my forehead facing her and said, "Now can we talk?" She rolled her eyes, but my point was obvious and she didn't like it. People evolve and move on, maybe that was the line, maybe not. Eh

You could create a new craze. A cellphone app that tells you when your friend is pissed off at you for playing candy crush when you're out and about.

A name suggestion?

This is not my happy face. Get off your fucking cell phone.

 

[silver gurl]

I went a few years without a cell. I survived! I don't use it much but it good to check in with the family while on the road and incase of a car breakdown.
My daughter would have a meltdown after a few hours, if she did not have hers.
Different generations. We know how to cope without a cell.

 

[Aquagal]

Candy Crush?

Some game that I've only seen being played.

You could create a new craze. A cellphone app that tells you when your friend is pissed off at you for playing candy crush when you're out and about.

A name suggestion?

This is not my happy face. Get off your fucking cell phone.

I even had to FB unfriend her because she kept sending me stupid invites to LuLuRoe live, whatever the hell that is, and game notifications.

Btw...anyone that posts live on FB is a major douchebag.

 

[thør]

Some game that I've only seen being played.

There are no games on my smartphone.

 

[Hypoxia]

My Android smartphone: I don't play games, music, or videos. I don't text. There's no cell service at home (our mountain dead zone) so it's only used away. Yeah, weather and GasBuddy and altimeter apps are handy, as are sound and light meters, TripAdvisor, the LIT app, etc. It's a WiFi hotspot for our tablets and laptops when we RV-travel. But my pocket camera and voice recorder function better than the phone.

Mostly its my alarm clock. I'm on a dizzying, ever-changing schedule of meds and vital activities. The Alarm app keeps me in sync. At least I'm not still on steroidal eyedrops every two hours round-the-clock. That was tough.

 

[Saint Peter]

There are no games on my smartphone.

The bend allowance calculator is as close as it gets.

 

[Wrong Element]

I resisted a smartphone until my work bought me one and forced me to use it. I did not like seeing the screen zombies play dumb games around me and generally thought smarter phones meant dumber people.

It would be hard to go back, now. I love maps, being able to find stuff on the go, find an answer to any question that pops into my head. If I forget it at home or work I sometimes feel a little anxious without it, but that I am even capable of forgetting it shocks most of my friends, who yell at me because I let my battery get below 15%. I think they are nuts and get really vexed when they just blankly scroll through their phones in my presence. It's annoying and seems to be a largely vacuous and empty experience for them as well and more force of habit than anything.

I think the trick is to disable as many push notifications as possible, limit social apps, and put the friggin thing on airplane mode every so often. Software designers play a role in this because everything wants to be "a service" or "a platform" for "engagement" or whatever bullshit so they purposefully create addictive, habit forming experiences that exploit our wacky human brains.

I still don't have a smartphone, for which I've taken no small amount of teasing from a certain member of my family who is also a Litster (not naming names). But the lack of one doesn't impact my life in any way. It's a mild inconvenience to not be able to send and receive pictures, but it's really no big deal. I'm doing just fine without constant Facebook notifications, I really don't enjoy reading on a small screen, and I'm saving money. Not seeing a downside.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Idiots ruin relationships.

Is that why I spent most of the afternoon dicking your wife?
Lol just kidding...who would be stupid enough to marry you.