Is this normal?

[Rivethead_Jack]

Ok I have a new partner and we've had sex a couple of times and after an hour or hour and a half she still can't orgasam. I havent really asked her about it but I've heart a small portion of women are almost incapable of getting off.

It's a bit frustrating

 

[Different Guy]

Hey buddy, from my experience and from what most chicks say, for them to orgasm during sex is never an easy thing which is why it requires a lot of foreplay and clit work. If you usually get a girl to orgasm during sex, props to you but it ain't an un-usual thing for chicks to be unable to orgasm during sex. Cum - plenty of times but actual orgasm isn't always possible.

 

[Eilan]

You're not talking about an hour to 90 minutes of PIV thrusting, right? Because I'm thinking, "Ow!" if that's the case.

Contrary to what porn whould have people believe, it's not uncommon for women to not have orgasms during PIV sex. Some of them need clitoral stimulation. Furthermore, direct clitoral stimulation is painful for some women. We're all different.

It's probably better to talk to her, not us, since we don't know your partner and have no idea what she likes. You don't want to come right out and say, "What's wrong with you? Why can't you cum?" or something silly like that, though. Talk to her and take your cues from her. Don't assume that you know more about how to get her off than she does.

When my husband and I first started having sex, it took some time for us to figure out what worked (and didn't) for us. Slow down and take some time to learn about what she likes. And show her what really gets you going.

And FWIW, we ladies may not have an orgasm every time we have sex, but that doesn't mean that we're not enjoying ourselves. Because men tend to have orgasms pretty much every time they have sex, they sometimes don't realize this. Sometime it's about the journey, not the destination.

Good luck.

 

[MR.GGG]

Moon Rockets

""Sometime it's about the journey, not the destination.""

Amen! The journeys that are always the moist fun for me are the ones where you stop for a slow scrumptious leisurely meal, enjoy the view and then get back to the trip part ....

According to some recent stats that I read only about 18% of women can and do routinely orgasm during intercourse. Women need to change positions, they need to use their fingers or a vibrator - various things to hit the right button at the right time with the right pressure and speed to get off. My guess is the women you were with before were either the ones who can cum during a good sneeze or ... they deserve an Oscar for faking you out and making you think they were getting off like a moon rocket. In short it takes a whole helluva lot more than sticking it in and pounding away for hours and hours.

Speaking of moon rockets ... have you tried this?

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[BreeCarter]

Ok I have a new partner and we've had sex a couple of times and after an hour or hour and a half she still can't orgasam. I havent really asked her about it but I've heart a small portion of women are almost incapable of getting off.

It's a bit frustrating

there is no normal or not normal amount of orgasms for women. each woman is an individual situation.

 

[Rivethead_Jack]

Thanks for the advice ^.^

 

[skizbees]

Being able to orgasm

Yes, it is normal for some women not to orgasm during sex. It's hard to get off with an object ramming your insides at a pace that you don't have complete control over (even if your partner is a good listener and can communicate). Stop watching porn's idea of a good time. Taking too many cues from that may leave you dating one of your hands and forming an unrealistic view of oversexed voyeurs. Having an orgasm is a mental more than physical attribute. If you can't focus, your body won't react how you want. An orgasm (or 10 ) isn't the finish line. Ask her what she does to get herself off, and if you can do that for her. Let her lead you in reading her body. Women are more than sexual beings.


Good luck.