Is there such a thing as str8 curious?

[doubledown21]

I consider myself straight, but I find adventure and experimentation as an attractive thing....I know a few gays who believe categorizing people is a bad thing, but is there such a thing as "str8 curious"? I'd consider myself such a thing if there is....?

I only am attracted to women, never been with a man, but I'm open to one time, essentially.

 

[WetDenise]

There's a whole range of sexuality on the spectrum. You can consider yourself whatever you'd like!
I know my husband is pretty much straight...he's not attracted to men. Wouldn't want a relationship with one or to kiss one. But he is rather fascinated with the penis...he'd like to "play" with one that isn't his. And has. I don't think of him as anything but straight...and curious!

 

[south_florida_bicur]

YES

yes there is something called str8 but curious.

 

[lovelylisa]

I consider myself straight, but I find adventure and experimentation as an attractive thing....I know a few gays who believe categorizing people is a bad thing, but is there such a thing as "str8 curious"? I'd consider myself such a thing if there is....?

I only am attracted to women, never been with a man, but I'm open to one time, essentially.

Absoutely! You are what you are

 

[Queersetti]

I took the question to be whether or not gays were ever curious about trying out sex with the other gender. Although, I wonder, why wouldn't they just be bi-curious?

I do think most gays at some point or other wonder about straight sex. Many gays go through a long process of understanding themselves, in which they try to fit into the straight mold, and attempt to find fulfillment through straight relationships.

 

[Etoile]

I took the question to be whether or not gays were ever curious about trying out sex with the other gender. Although, I wonder, why wouldn't they just be bi-curious?

I do think most gays at some point or other wonder about straight sex. Many gays go through a long process of understanding themselves, in which they try to fit into the straight mold, and attempt to find fulfillment through straight relationships.

Incredibly well-said, Q. I would say "bicurious" is the right word in this case, too.

Personally, I think it's possible - even likely - that everyone is a little bit bi. (Hmm, maybe I should make that my title.)

 

[Netzach]

Most, not all, but MOST of the glbt people I know have had some sexual experience with the opposite sex to theirs whatever that might be.

That's just part of being in a society that values heterosexuality more.

So the curiosity is often sated.

I do know of a few lesbians and gay men who have hooked up sexually, it's actually more common than I think we want to admit as communities. Kind of a final frontier of sexuality. We KNOW each other, we're often part of the same chosen families, we care for each other, it's inevitable that sometimes we fall in bed.

Hmmm, could be an interesting thread....

My brain would have no problem doing sexual things with a gay man and still perceiving him as 100 percent gay after the fact. Hell, I've done some pretty hot SM things with gay men who had a good time doing them.

Attractors are strange and I don't think they always have to define us. Great sex does not a sexuality have to make.

 

[MzChrista]

Most, not all, but MOST of the glbt people I know have had some sexual experience with the opposite sex to theirs whatever that might be.

That's just part of being in a society that values heterosexuality more.

So the curiosity is often sated.

I do know of a few lesbians and gay men who have hooked up sexually, it's actually more common than I think we want to admit as communities. Kind of a final frontier of sexuality. We KNOW each other, we're often part of the same chosen families, we care for each other, it's inevitable that sometimes we fall in bed.

Hmmm, could be an interesting thread....

My brain would have no problem doing sexual things with a gay man and still perceiving him as 100 percent gay after the fact. Hell, I've done some pretty hot SM things with gay men who had a good time doing them.

Attractors are strange and I don't think they always have to define us. Great sex does not a sexuality have to make.

Who says what sex is too? I dont have any interest in fucking a guy or any of that but I like to play with men friends in bdsm and some people would say that is sexual.

 

[Etoile]

Netzach and MzChrista are (as usual!) right on the money.

Labels are, of course, restricting. They're incredibly useful and I love them, but they're limiting too. I've talked with many people (acquaintances) who are surprised when I say I can find a bio-guy attractive. I have to explain that I don't necessarily want to have sex with him or have a relationship with him, but I can think a guy is pretty (the type of guys I like would be called "pretty" more than "handsome") without wanting to fuck him. For some reason a lot of people find it hard to get their heads around that concept.

 

[Netzach]

Who says what sex is too? I dont have any interest in fucking a guy or any of that but I like to play with men friends in bdsm and some people would say that is sexual.

Good point, point taken.

For the sake of argument, there's a close friend of mine, who's romantic love bent is women whose fuckbud is a guy who's other than her, gay.

Not a straight relationship, in my book. Not even a bi one. As they define themselves, I have no problem agreeing.

I don't know what it is that makes someone what they are, it's not totally arbitrary. I'd have a very hard time convincing anyone I'm a lesbian because it's not the right word for me, yet, if I had the same sexual patterns with different causes behind them, I might be able to define myself as such. It's motivation/gestalt more than where you put your hoo ha that makes it so, I think.

 

[mindstorm]

I think i would consider myself under this category - if i had to, but i dont like to categorise.

I am defiantely straight. I am very much attracted to women. But at the same time i would love to 'play' with a guy. In the form of sucking dick (and vice versa). I dont know if i would go for anal, but the thought of sucking the erect cock of another guy turns me on so much!

 

[AmatoriuS]

I look at sexuality on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being straight and 10 being entirely gay, with everyone spread across the board. I think you'd be hard pressed to find many 1's and 10's if they're truly honest, myself i'm a 5

 

[Etoile]

Kinsey described it as a one to six scale, but I agree that one to ten allows for more variances.

 

[John Doe]

Kinsey described it as a one to six scale, but I agree that one to ten allows for more variances.

Unless it's a decimel system.

 

[Etoile]

Unless it's a decimel system.

I've never heard of the Kinsey scale using decimals, but it is popular in some gay communities to refer to oneself as a "Kinsey Six" - I think there's even a band by that name.

 

[just a thing]

Re: YES

yes there is something called str8 but curious.

Is there something called "straight but curious but I know deep down I'll never do anything to satisfy the curiosity"?

Because that describes me. And, I suspect, quite a few others.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

i too am str8 but curious.

for us curious guys its just a cock thing. something about another guys cock makes us curious.

why is that?

 

[Etoile]

I think the point of this thread, though, was more about gay people who have a desire to be with someone of the opposite sex. Which we pretty much agreed would also be called bicurious.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

I think the point of this thread, though, was more about gay people who have a desire to be with someone of the opposite sex. Which we pretty much agreed would also be called bicurious.

thought the name of the thread is "Is there such a thing as str8 curious?"

where does it mention anything about being gay?

 

[Etoile]

thought the name of the thread is "Is there such a thing as str8 curious?"

where does it mention anything about being gay?

I guess I was basing it from Queersetti's understanding of the question. After all, we have lots of threads about being bi or bicurious (that is, heterosexual with homosexual urges). Calling it straight curious makes it sound like it might be about something else.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

I guess I was basing it from Queersetti's understanding of the question. After all, we have lots of threads about being bi or bicurious (that is, heterosexual with homosexual urges). Calling it straight curious makes it sound like it might be about something else

I totally agree that we have alot of threads about being bi or curious and most of them just repeat what the others say. Seems that instead of reading through threads people find it easier to start their own. Lets call it laziness.

Then again you can say that about alot of threads including the gay threads.

what do you mean "it sounds like it might be about something else" ?

 

[MzChrista]

thought the name of the thread is "Is there such a thing as str8 curious?"

where does it mention anything about being gay?

Well stands to reason a straight person isnt straight curious. Unless maybe they grew up in the woods or something.

 

[Etoile]

The way I see it, there's two categories:
(1) Bi curious. Very loosely defined, means the person is heterosexual but has enough interest in the same sex to want to call themselves something closer to bisexual. Yet they're not 100% sure of their feelings, so they don't want to just say "bisexual."
(2) Open minded. This is what I take "straight but curious" to mean. Somebody who is very secure in their heterosexuality, but they want to have an encounter with someone of the same sex just to see what it's like. Once that curiosity is satisfied, they may not ever try it again.

And yes, this could work for somebody who is gay, too. Just switch "same" to "opposite" in the above.

 

[LingerieandLace]

The way I see it, there's two categories:
(1) Bi curious. Very loosely defined, means the person is heterosexual but has enough interest in the same sex to want to call themselves something closer to bisexual. Yet they're not 100% sure of their feelings, so they don't want to just say "bisexual."
(2) Open minded. This is what I take "straight but curious" to mean. Somebody who is very secure in their heterosexuality, but they want to have an encounter with someone of the same sex just to see what it's like. Once that curiosity is satisfied, they may not ever try it again.

And yes, this could work for somebody who is gay, too. Just switch "same" to "opposite" in the above.

I think one of the major problems in our society today is a desire to label, categorize and compartmentalize into groups and classifications. Why is there even a need to determine if it is "kink" or attempt to define what is normal?

I am 100% st8 and have been dressing in Lingerie for many years but over those years when ever I have attempted to ease cross dressing or wearing of Lingerie into any conversation with male or female friends the old stereotype views comes out. There is nothing wrong with a man who feels sexually aroused by wearing women's Lingerie and there's nothing wrong with a man who may have a physical need to wear some support garments "normally" designed for a woman. Some might say that it is obsessive to wear a bra 23/7 like some have attested to doing I say if they want to, why not? I wear what I like because I like it. Do I derive pleasure from it? Of course I do, otherwise why would I like it in the first place? In some cases, I wear what I need because it makes it more comfortable to go around my daily life, even that, I'd say might give me pleasure because I'm not more comfortable with than without. I think we need to evolve ourselves to not just ask people to accept us as we are, but to start accepting others as they are. I do so agree the point about people automatically assuming that you are gay if you even hint at wearing female clothes. I think thing are getting better however, the use of the word "cross dresser" is now more common place than when I started dressing in Lingerie, when it was called transvestites.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

Etoile

The way I see it, there's two categories:
(1) Bi curious. Very loosely defined, means the person is heterosexual but has enough interest in the same sex to want to call themselves something closer to bisexual. Yet they're not 100% sure of their feelings, so they don't want to just say "bisexual."
(2) Open minded. This is what I take "straight but curious" to mean. Somebody who is very secure in their heterosexuality, but they want to have an encounter with someone of the same sex just to see what it's like. Once that curiosity is satisfied, they may not ever try it again.

And yes, this could work for somebody who is gay, too. Just switch "same" to "opposite" in the above.

ok, then according to Etoile then I am open minded. I will agree with that !