Is there a difference?

[kiten69]

Pet vs. Slave...Is there a difference?

I'm new to this so I'm not sure how this will sound to the more experienced, but I figured this would be the best way to get some information so here's my question...Is there a difference between being a slave and being a pet?

 

[Lilith]

Here's what I know, and well it isn't much but I think that every relationship between two or more people seems to be defined with a variety of vocabulary or labels and to everyone else those words may have a completely different meaning.

If it were based on my point of view then yes a slave and a pet can be two very different things. But I bet there are peolpe who keep slaves as pets so who really can say.

Are you straight on that ????

 

[kiten69]

Here's what I know, and well it isn't much but I think that every relationship between two or more people seems to be defined with a variety of vocabulary or labels and to everyone else those words may have a completely different meaning.

If it were based on my point of view then yes a slave and a pet can be two very different things. But I bet there are peolpe who keep slaves as pets so who really can say.

Are you straight on that ????

never thought of it that way...thanks

 

[leeroy jenkins]

M'lady wondered over to see this website and see what I say or do on it, and she liked how I took the first step in calling myself her pet. I use this instead of sub or subbie. As I did this I am sorta using pet as a pet name for lack of a better description.

 

[shy slave]

I think Lilth is right in as much that people have their own preferences on what they define as what label.

I know of a couple who indulge in role play and he uses he word 'pet' to indicate a particular type of play will happen.
Another Dom I know refers to his online submissive as 'his pet,' but any other submissive he plays with in r/l as a 'subbie'

I don't like being called a 'submissive' because alot of the time my mental attitude is not submissive and to be submissive in daily life would change me as a person.

When I started on this journey, I liked the word slave. Its meaning for me meant I wanted be a slave to another persons desires, wishes and needs but he had to be the right person. The word submissive seemed (at the time, with the r/l people I met) to be a word used by people who played without commitment to each other.

I think its important to ask questions like this in a forum as everyone will have different views, it also gives you the courage to ask questions about any number of things with a potential partner before actually making a decision about whether they are right for you.


Personally I did alot of asking and learning here, then headed for the world armed with a small amount of knowledge and enough bravado to ask interesting questions face to face with people.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I knew there was some reaons I liked you shy. Well said especially being a slave to there will and desires.

 

[shy slave]

I knew there was some reaons I liked you shy. Well said especially being a slave to there will and desires.

Only some reasons!!

*raises eyebrow*

Well as your showing your naked ass I guess 'some reasons' should be enough.

Besides I like you too

Back on topic.
I think it was Analize who had a sig line that used to say 'Its all about him'
I agree with that, it is all about him (her) you just have to find the right one that suits you.
I was lucky and had mainly good experiences prior to finding Andante who is completely right for me.
He is the only person I have ever considered I belong to as a slave

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Only some reasons!!

*raises eyebrow*

Well as your showing your naked ass I guess 'some reasons' should be enough.

Besides I like you too

Back on topic.
I think it was Analize who had a sig line that used to say 'Its all about him'
I agree with that, it is all about him (her) you just have to find the right one that suits you.
I was lucky and had mainly good experiences prior to finding Andante who is completely right for me.
He is the only person I have ever considered I belong to as a slave

Ok I am lost on why showing my ass equals the need for only some reasons.

As I am still brand spanking new, when I think about submitting to M'lady I get a type of flutter in my chest, and I get a similar but different feeling from breathing deeply, don't ask, not sure why I get the second one myself. These are feeling I like so in make them happen more I need to increase my submission to her.

 

[kerker_miester]

I'm new to this so I'm not sure how this will sound to the more experienced, but I figured this would be the best way to get some information so here's my question...Is there a difference between being a slave and being a pet?

As always I speak from my view of my world as I see it. To answer your question yes to me there is a difference. I also agree that everyone has his or her own deffenition of any word. The difference to me as a Dom is this. Though I enjoy using whips, bondage, and many of the other tools of this lifestyle. I myself prefer domination of a submissives world, if the submissive wishes, desires, or needs to be whiped so be it I can and will, and will enjoy it. I also belive that there are those submissives in the world that have a need to be submissive and serve a Dom with no need or desire for the BD or SM, they just need the D/s in their lives. As I see the use of bondage and whips as something one uses to control a slave I call those submissives slaves, where as the ones that just need to be dominated by having their world controled much like one would take care of a dog or cat, i.e. Love, care for, protect, teach simply control their world. these I call pets. I treat each much more different than I treat the other as their needs are different. My overwhelming need is to control and not to inflict pain though I can, and will enjoy it. If my words have in any way offended anyone I am sorry but as I said in the beginning this is the way I see things.

 

[littlegirlslut]

I don't like being called a 'submissive' because alot of the time my mental attitude is not submissive and to be submissive in daily life would change me as a person.

When I started on this journey, I liked the word slave. Its meaning for me meant I wanted be a slave to another persons desires, wishes and needs but he had to be the right person. The word submissive seemed (at the time, with the r/l people I met) to be a word used by people who played without commitment to each other.

I've been personally struggling with this a lot. This makes so much sense to me, you think I could have figured this out. But this fits me almost perfectly!!

 

[kiten69]

As always I speak from my view of my world as I see it. To answer your question yes to me there is a difference. I also agree that everyone has his or her own deffenition of any word. The difference to me as a Dom is this. Though I enjoy using whips, bondage, and many of the other tools of this lifestyle. I myself prefer domination of a submissives world, if the submissive wishes, desires, or needs to be whiped so be it I can and will, and will enjoy it. I also belive that there are those submissives in the world that have a need to be submissive and serve a Dom with no need or desire for the BD or SM, they just need the D/s in their lives. As I see the use of bondage and whips as something one uses to control a slave I call those submissives slaves, where as the ones that just need to be dominated by having their world controled much like one would take care of a dog or cat, i.e. Love, care for, protect, teach simply control their world. these I call pets. I treat each much more different than I treat the other as their needs are different. My overwhelming need is to control and not to inflict pain though I can, and will enjoy it. If my words have in any way offended anyone I am sorry but as I said in the beginning this is the way I see things.

Thanks for sharing the "way you see things" I think I'm beginning to see the difference...

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Thanks for sharing the "way you see things" I think I'm beginning to see the difference...

The difference is either what you and your Master say it is or he tell you it is.

 

[Kajira Callista]

AHHHHHHHH the age old question. Who is better the sub or the slave?... again.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

AHHHHHHHH the age old question. Who is better the sub or the slave?... again.

Why does it have to be better or worse?? Why not just what makes me happier and meets more needs being a slave or sub??

 

[kiten69]

Why does it have to be better or worse?? Why not just what makes me happier and meets more needs being a slave or sub??

well said...

 

[Kajira Callista]

Why does it have to be better or worse?? Why not just what makes me happier and meets more needs being a slave or sub??

you have it right darlin' take a look back at how many threads have been started on the subject. Thats all i mean by my post

 

[leeroy jenkins]

you have it right darlin' take a look back at how many threads have been started on the subject. Thats all i mean by my post

As your much more experienced here I will take your word for it.

 

[kerker_miester]

Why does it have to be better or worse?? Why not just what makes me happier and meets more needs being a slave or sub??

I would like to point out that I never said that one is better than the other just that they are very different and need to be treated as they have the need to be treated. I personally like both.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I would like to point out that I never said that one is better than the other just that they are very different and need to be treated as they have the need to be treated. I personally like both.

Not saying you did. I am not real big on labels as a general rule but if I say I am a sub, then it gives you a point of reference I am more concerned about needs, what they are and how to meet them. Maybe that means I would have to become a slave or just stay a sub or I need to climb the fence and dom a sub.

 

[kerker_miester]

Not saying you did. I am not real big on labels as a general rule but if I say I am a sub, then it gives you a point of reference I am more concerned about needs, what they are and how to meet them. Maybe that means I would have to become a slave or just stay a sub or I need to climb the fence and dom a sub.

I agree with you here the lable gives one a point to start understanding one onother

 

[serijules]

I am both a slave and a pet. As her pet, my duty is to entertain, to provide companionship and perhaps bring a smile to her face, make her laugh. Much like the name pet implies. As her slave, my duty is to serve, to obey, in whatever capacity that may be.

 

[Softouch911]

I am both a slave and a pet. As her pet, my duty is to entertain, to provide companionship and perhaps bring a smile to her face, make her laugh. Much like the name pet implies. As her slave, my duty is to serve, to obey, in whatever capacity that may be.

There y'go. Simple, clear and accurate (my personal perspective).

In addition, submissive (to me) encompasses the two terms, as well as its other characteristics. Submissive is the category and there are many preferences within it, I think.

I know that some folk who use the word "pet" mean to suggest the specific form of "pet play" intended partly for degradation so to avoid that confusion I usually avoid the word "pet" in public.

ST

 

[a_well_punished_girl]

My husband is my Master. I balked at the title of "slave", but it means different things to different people. I finally came to realise and accept that. Every couple is different. He calls me his pet. For us, it's just a term of affection.

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[Netzach]

To me there's a world of difference. A pet is something I'll spoil, overlook some bad behavior as long as I get my hugs and kisses and as long as it's cute, a pet is something for me to cherish love and pour out a lot of energies onto. My partner is a "pet" and not a slave. When my pet behaves badly, much as an animal pet bahving badly, I'm inclined to blame myself first and foremost.

A slave has essentially no latitude for misbehavior, is expected to serve me, and do its best to do that at all times. Sins of omission are acceptable, outright disobedience isn't even an option.