Is Sexual Tension Real?

[live4thebj]

There is this one woman when I am around her I can cut the sexual tension with a knife. But me and my fiancé are friends with her and her husband. Is sexual tension real or am I just extremely attracted to her?

 

[Yarglenurp]

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What exactly do you think sexual tension is, if not attraction?

 

[live4thebj]

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What exactly do you think sexual tension is, if not attraction?

Feeling this intense feeling of wanting to kiss her and feel her body.

 

[HonestCharmer]

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[live4thebj]

Is the tension all on your part because you can't get it or have not yet figured out how you can steal a piece of her? Or is the tension actually between the both of you as she is picking up on your lust for her body?

I have no idea.

 

[subdudeme13]

There is this one woman when I am around her I can cut the sexual tension with a knife. But me and my fiancé are friends with her and her husband. Is sexual tension real or am I just extremely attracted to her?

YES

 

[Yarglenurp]

Look, if you pursue this, will you blow up your life, or would your fiance be cool with it?

Either way, go for it.

 

[Vivian251]

Yeah, sexual tension is definitely real. It’s that electric vibe you feel when there’s some unspoken attraction in the air. You’re probably just super into her, but hey, it’s normal to feel that way,especially when you're around someone who gives off those "vibes." Just don’t let it get too out of hand with the whole friend thing!

 

[Celticlight]

For me I'd make a distinction - as others are alluding - between something shared and perhaps unspoken between you, i.e. there's an underlying  mutual attraction, with you both flirting somewhat and both having a version of that fuzzy feeling you're describing.

That is sexual tension, and it really is delightful - this idea that you both know 'if circumstances were different, this would probably boil over into something beyond mere tension'.

If only you are feeling it, then it's obviously not quite the same. I wouldn't call that sexual tension - a deep crush, sure, or fantasy, longing etc. Coveting someone you can't have, possibly enjoying that illicit, but only on your side. And don't get me wrong, that's nice too, as Jens is saying.

But to me sexual tension is a shared feeling. If she's just watching you act awkwardly or different around her - possibly knowing it's because you're so attracted to her - and she's not feeling that herself, then it's something else.

 

[Britva415]

What do you even mean by “is it real?” You’re feeling it.

Do you mean more like, “am I calling it the right thing?”

Do you mean like “is it just me or does she feel it too?”

tbh I think it’s only “tension” when it’s between two people mutually, so yeah, maybe that was what you meant.

So you tell us: Is it mutual?

 

[LittleTitLover]

Definitely real.

 

[Hypnobitch01]

Sexual tension is definitely real and it’s extra funny when someone else picks up on it. I admitted to a friend that I had slept with one of our friends (FWB) and she mentioned that the first time she’d hung out with us she thought that the two of us were already fucking or would be soon haha

 

[strongnsensual]

Ladies and gentlemen, we have found humanity's first recorded case of semanticsophelia.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Bit of both.

 

[Nellie60]

There is this one woman when I am around her I can cut the sexual tension with a knife. But me and my fiancé are friends with her and her husband. Is sexual tension real or am I just extremely attracted to her?

Most definitely real. Both the same. If you are extremely attracted you're going feel desire being near her.

The only release is some type of sexual release I believe.

 

[Nellie60]

Nothing hotter than being attracted to a friend's wife or GF, especially if it stays a fantasy. Everytime you see her, you can imagine how she has sex with her husband and it makes sex so good after that.

I imagine that and other things. Its pretty normal I think.

When you imagine what she's like it makes for great sex when you fantasise.

 

[numb3rsss]

There is this one woman when I am around her I can cut the sexual tension with a knife. But me and my fiancé are friends with her and her husband. Is sexual tension real or am I just extremely attracted to her?

I don't think you have to necessarily feel attracted to the person to feel it, and it's very real. One of my wife's good friends is... close with me... At first I thought it was just platonic friendship, but I get the odd sexual comment here and there. The tension is very very real, although unwanted on my side

 

[Mittering]

What's it called when sexual tension is only felt by one person? Pitiful? Cringe?

Asking for a friend.

 

[numb3rsss]

What's it called when sexual tension is only felt by one person? Pitiful? Cringe?

Asking for a friend.

The best word that I can think of is uncomfortable.

 

[Mittering]

The best word that I can think of is uncomfortable.

Unrequited

 

[TnA4U]

I think part of the tension is knowing that neither of you could/would do anything.

I had a supervisor when I was in my 20s that I was insanely attracted to. He was in his late 30s or early 40s and happily married, too. He clearly felt the same way about me. I would sit close enough that my thigh pressed against his. Finally he had to admit that he couldn't be my supervisor anymore.