Is oral sex more intimate than sex sex?

[sheablue]

I was just writing about this in my blog, recounting the first time I ever gave a blowjob.

Is oral sex more intimate? I believe it is. For me at least. There is something about getting your face all up in there, your mouth as an orifice, your tongue as a penetrator ... All your senses engages so fully. It's so visceral.

Of course there have been many times where I used sucking a cock for some other reason, and it didn't feel intimate at all. But in general, would you agree that there is something about using your mouth that is so much more intimate?

 

[neci]

i don't think intimacy is defined by the act, but by the joining of two separate pieces to make a whole.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Absolutely.

Receive oral is what doms do rather than kiss.

 

[bluesky496]

I was just writing about this in my blog, recounting the first time I ever gave a blowjob.

Is oral sex more intimate? I believe it is. For me at least. There is something about getting your face all up in there, your mouth as an orifice, your tongue as a penetrator ... All your senses engages so fully. It's so visceral.

Of course there have been many times where I used sucking a cock for some other reason, and it didn't feel intimate at all. But in general, would you agree that there is something about using your mouth that is so much more intimate?

i absolutely agree ,there is nothing more intimate in my opinion .

 

[sheablue]

Absolutely.

Receive oral is what doms do rather than kiss.

I like that thought. Though, I could make the argument that even kissing can be more intimate than sex. Maybe I'm having the wrong kind of sex? Or maybe I just have an oral fixation ...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Doms don't "receive" oral sex, do they? They are supposed to "inflict" oral sex, or something.

Kissing does seem to be considered more intimate, at least-- at my W4W play parties, I rarely see kissing happening.

 

[Primalex]

But in general, would you agree that there is something about using your mouth that is so much more intimate?

I've always considered her spreading her legs as the most intimate moment, as this is the moment the woman states that you can...have her. It is the moment where all variations of intimacy (physical: granting access and view; emotional: the bond that this moment already formed; cognitive: the confession of the desire that both persons recognize and accept; experiential: the act itself) combine. But maybe I'm just strange or dominance-biased.

 

[Salenku]

I've always considered her spreading her legs as the most intimate moment, as this is the moment the woman states that you can...have her. It is the moment where all variations of intimacy (physical: granting access and view; emotional: the bond that this moment already formed; cognitive: the confession of the desire that both persons recognize and accept; experiential: the act itself) combine. But maybe I'm just strange or dominance-biased.

If I've interpreted this correctly, I absolutely agree. Nothing is more intimate than the moment we give in to our desire. For me it's not about any particular physical act, it's the reasons behind them. In my experience, its entirely possible to kiss or have sex with someone which isn't remotely intimate.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I have given some thought to this and I'm undecided about one act being more intimate than the other as I can paint scenarios that will argue the opposite of either. However, I have a few thoughts I will share.

When I think about intimacy, it is about feeling more connected, which for me is usually felt most intensely in the silent whispers of the exchange between eyes. Eye contact and the wordless conversation there can feel far more penetrating and intimate across a fully clothed crowded room than any closed door completely nude sexual act.

That said, I think that oral with eye contact is far more intimate because it seems to reveal and engage honest subtleties and emotions that are sometimes otherwise shy, hidden, or missed. I also think that some of the more typical oral positions tend to allow for more steady gazing which can contribute to feeling more connected, and thusly more intimate.

That aside, I also had the thought that engaging the part of you that controls the life force of breathing, eating, and communication it is possibly far more vulnerable than engaging the more conventional and fleshier parts much more native to deep penetration, bumping, and/or pounding. Maybe there is something to the human animal psychology of that?

Or maybe it simply feels like "more" because it engages more of the senses by adding what someone tastes like to the everything you know and like about them list. Or maybe that is just the foodie in me getting tangled up with my sexuality again.

 

[Salenku]

I have given some thought to this and I'm undecided about one act being more intimate than the other as I can paint scenarios that will argue the opposite of either. However, I have a few thoughts I will share.

When I think about intimacy, it is about feeling more connected, which for me is usually felt most intensely in the silent whispers of the exchange between eyes. Eye contact and the wordless conversation there can feel far more penetrating and intimate across a fully clothed crowded room than any closed door completely nude sexual act.

That said, I think that oral with eye contact is far more intimate because it seems to reveal and engage honest subtleties and emotions that are sometimes otherwise shy, hidden, or missed. I also think that some of the more typical oral positions tend to allow for more steady gazing which can contribute to feeling more connected, and thusly more intimate.

That aside, I also had the thought that engaging the part of you that controls the life force of breathing, eating, and communication it is possibly far more vulnerable than engaging the more conventional and fleshier parts much more native to deep penetration, bumping, and/or pounding. Maybe there is something to the human animal psychology of that?

Or maybe it simply feels like "more" because it engages more of the senses by adding what someone tastes like to the everything you know and like about them list. Or maybe that is just the foodie in me getting tangled up with my sexuality again.

Very well said. It's a connection thing!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I wouldn't say any sex act is more intimate than enough. I can have any kind of sex or play including kissing with a complete stranger. No intimacy required.

The most intimate I have ever felt is when I have let go of my emotions and cried uncontrollably in his arms as he held me and rocked me. That is something I could never do with a stranger or even a very good friend.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I have exchanged stolen glances in the produce aisle that were more intimate than some fucks and blowjobs.

Maybe that says more about my interest in creating the elusive perfect Greek salad than it does about anything else.

 

[intothewoods]

Absolutely.

Receive oral is what doms do rather than kiss.

Perfect.

 

[neci]

when the whole is throat plus cock, the whole is throat plus cock.

 

[HeyAll]

It's definitely more intimate in a submissive way.

The two partners aren't on equal footing anymore; one is on his/her knees, or down below.

Plus in movies or tv shows, you hear actresses all the time saying, "Yeah, I slept with that guy and it was great."

You rarely hear an actress saying, "Yeah, I totally sucked his dick last night and he orgasmed all over my mouth."


But then again, it all depends on how you define the word intimate...

 

[simpleiagirl]

I agree intimacy is more a state of mind than a single act or series of actions.
With regards to oral sex, I find providing oral sex to be easy, unattached, empowering at moments and generally lacking in intimacy.

 

[fed0ra]

I find it most intimate when his face is between my legs. I have to be really close to a man before that happens.

 

[xjasminex]

I've discussed this with someone before. Oral sex can be more intimate than average penetrative sex - when physical acts reflect emotional ones. A person's senses are completely immmersed in the most (for want of a better less juvenile term) private parts of another person, who has revealed that part of their body to them. To allow someone to perform oral sex on you is to know that they have a comletely intimate sensory experience of you, and they have accepted that from you.

Though, as someone said above, intimacy is a state of mind. When the physical aspect means nothing about the mental or emotional, it loses that connection. Simply that many do associate strong emotions and vulnerability to the sexual parts of their bodies.

 

[Salenku]

I have exchanged stolen glances in the produce aisle that were more intimate than some fucks and blowjobs.

He does have a way of putting things! But yes, this.

 

[MrRetro]

I've discussed this with someone before. Oral sex can be more intimate than average penetrative sex - when physical acts reflect emotional ones. A person's senses are completely immmersed in the most (for want of a better less juvenile term) private parts of another person, who has revealed that part of their body to them. To allow someone to perform oral sex on you is to know that they have a comletely intimate sensory experience of you, and they have accepted that from you.

Though, as someone said above, intimacy is a state of mind. When the physical aspect means nothing about the mental or emotional, it loses that connection. Simply that many do associate strong emotions and vulnerability to the sexual parts of their bodies.

I so agree with Ms xjasminex here, I find giving a woman oral sex by far a more intimate encounter than just plain intercourse...

 

[lizzyqte]

More intimate

Having experiance with both I feel beyond the act of kissing going down on someone is as much intimate or more intimate than kissing. Remember kissing is almost casual. It does not take much. Having striaght sex after you have done it several times, well its also almost casual. Now going down on a girl that takes a woman who is much more comfortable. For men, I've come to relize they dont care as long as someone is sucking. They are so much more free that way.

 

[ArabianNights]

Having experiance with both I feel beyond the act of kissing going down on someone is as much intimate or more intimate than kissing. Remember kissing is almost casual. It does not take much. Having striaght sex after you have done it several times, well its also almost casual. Now going down on a girl that takes a woman who is much more comfortable. For men, I've come to relize they dont care as long as someone is sucking. They are so much more free that way.

I disagree, sometimes having my cock sucked is very intimate and sometimes it can be a pure lust thing. Going down on a women is the most amazing thing, and feeling her breathing change, and her back lift off the floor in pleasure is nothing short of bliss for me. I love the leg twisting twitch when she comes. wow

 

[paulthewetcd]

Having experiance with both I feel beyond the act of kissing going down on someone is as much intimate or more intimate than kissing. Remember kissing is almost casual. It does not take much. Having striaght sex after you have done it several times, well its also almost casual. Now going down on a girl that takes a woman who is much more comfortable. For men, I've come to relize they dont care as long as someone is sucking. They are so much more free that way.

Our oral is very, very intimate. Kissing is most intimate while we are having PIV sex, but can be intimate in its own right. But..I think oral is the most intimate sexual act.

 

[SirVPL]

Oral Sex more intimate?

I was just writing about this in my blog, recounting the first time I ever gave a blowjob.

Is oral sex more intimate? I believe it is. For me at least. There is something about getting your face all up in there, your mouth as an orifice, your tongue as a penetrator ... All your senses engages so fully. It's so visceral.

Of course there have been many times where I used sucking a cock for some other reason, and it didn't feel intimate at all. But in general, would you agree that there is something about using your mouth that is so much more intimate?

The oral foreplay is very intimate. Nothing brings you into exstacy more than the oral stimulation of your partner..

 

[desertslave]

Absolutely.

Receive oral is what doms do rather than kiss.

I always get kisses after I've sucked His cock. I guess I'm doubly lucky!