is my girlfriend cheap?

[Guest]

hi,

I have been with my girlfriend 2 years, she is the sweetest, most innocent girl you could meet, or so I thought. She started telling me about her past. She is 25 years old now, she has slept with 11 men, of which some are of different races, she has slept with a man double her age, had a 3-some witch included full sex with another women.

Our sex life is pretty good but her past shocks me, I can't beleive she has done all this, she seems so perfect, I wonder what else she has done cause nothing seems off limits

What should I do.

 

[christophe]

well if you love her you need to accept who she was and who she is now! its a package deal.....

 

[Jim_Henson]

I'll take her off your hands but only if she's got long hair

 

[bknight2602]

I don't see any problem with pas behavior. What is done is done, don't worry about it. If the behavior is on going then you two have to talk and find out where each other is in life. It might still be a lasting relationship, give it a try.

 

[Blindinthedark]

Nothing about her has changed. She's still the same.
The only difference is you know more about her. If you cared for her before you should have no problem with her now. Her past has nothing to do with your relationship as it stands today.
Be happy that she trusted you enough to tell you.

 

[christophe]

Nothing about her has changed. She's still the same.
The only difference is you know more about her. If you cared for her before you should have a problem with her now. Her past has nothing to do with your relationship now.

EXACTLY!

 

[kotori]

Silly boy. What's the dif? Did she stop becoming "sweet" all of a sudden because you had this information. Maybe you need to redefine "innocent."

Our sex life is pretty good but her past shocks me, I can't beleive she has done all this, she seems so perfect,

Maybe your sex life has been "so perfect" because she's had a little experience. I'd say your only real concern should be STDs, but if you've been together for two years and (assuming all this happened before you were in her life), nothing's happened yet, I'd say "lucky guy."

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

maybe you guys are right, I don't know, I havent had many partners and its suppose to be the guy that puts it about. She has lived the life I would have loved to live, she has more of a guys sex life than me if you know what I mean.

I worried about the next time she tells me something

 

[christophe]

Hell i would be thinking of a threesome.....hehehehehehe....christmas is right around the corner!

 

[bknight2602]

maybe you guys are right, I don't know, I havent had many partners and its suppose to be the guy that puts it about. She has lived the life I would have loved to live, she has more of a guys sex life than me if you know what I mean.

I worried about the next time she tells me something

Man, quite worrying, or get out of the relationship.. If it means that much to you the aggravation will tear you apart.

 

[kotori]

I see nothing of shock value in her past.

Kotori speaks the truth.

Oh, good. My "Daily Affirmation." It's nice to know you're loved.

Hiya, sugar.

 

[capricious_chic]

She has lived the life I would have loved to live, she has more of a guys sex life than me if you know what I mean.

No, sorry, I don't know what you mean.

You are going to hold it against her that she has had a more active sex life than you? You are going to what, be afraid of the sensuality she brings to the relationship? Perhaps she is telling you because she wants to bring new things to the relationship.

If this is something you truly have a problem with, then you have some insecurity issues you need to work on.

Women are sexual beings too, with wants and desires. Some have the ability and wherewithall to act upon them.

 

[Guest]

 

[kotori]

The Sadder But Wiser Girl | Meredith Wilson The Music Man

No wide-eyed, eager, wholesome, innocent Sunday-school teacher for me
That kinda girl spins webs no spider ever...
Listen boy...
A girl who trades on all that purity
Merely wants to trade my independence for her security

The only affirmative she will file
refers to marching down the aisle
No golden, glorious, gleaming pristine goddess, no sir!
for no Diana do I play faun, I can tell you that right now

I snarl, I hiss, how can ignorance be compared to bliss?
I spark, I fizz, for the lady who knows what time it is
I cheer, I rave, for the virtue I'm too late to save
The sadder but wiser girl for me

No bright-eyed, blushing, breathless baby-doll baby, no sir!
that kinda child ties knots no sailor ever knew
I prefer to take a chance on a more adult romance
No dewy young miss who keeps resisting
All the time she keeps insisting

No wide-eyed, wholesome, innocent female, No Sir!
Why, she's the fisherman, I'm the fish, you see? Plop!

I flinch, I shy when the lass with the delicate air goes by
I smile, I grin when the gal with a touch of sin walks in
I hope, I pray for Hester to win just one more 'A'

The sadder but wiser girl's the girl for me
The sadder but wiser girl for me!

 

[kotori]

Hiya lambchop

Maybe i should tell unreg about my past

Maybe you should tell me about your past. I could use a bed-time story.

 

[Guest]

 

[ma_guy]

maybe you guys are right, I don't know, I havent had many partners and its suppose to be the guy that puts it about. She has lived the life I would have loved to live, she has more of a guys sex life than me if you know what I mean.

I worried about the next time she tells me something

Ummm.. I don't mean to be to harsh here or anything but seriously, ask yourself this question - Is the problem her past history or your jealousy of it?

No need to answer here, only you need know the answer...

Throw away the "social norms" conditioning. Look around here on the board. You'll find that contrary to those "norms" women do enjoy sex too. (Thank god! )

 

[kotori]

We'd be here all night.

I have been drinking copious amounts of red wine. It's gonna get ugly very soon.

I just can't imagine "ugly" and "you" in the same thought. PM me your number, I only have about fifteen minutes left on my international calling card, so you'll be forced to talk fast.

 

[Guest]

 

[Rambling Rose]

I can't beleive she has done all this, she seems so perfect, I wonder what else she has done cause nothing seems off limits...

I don't know, that all sounds pretty perfect to me!

 

[bknight2602]

Re: Re: is my girlfriend cheap?

I don't know, that all sounds pretty perfect to me!

Better than perfect! Experienced and willing to try new and different things!

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: is my girlfriend cheap?

I don't know, that all sounds pretty perfect to me!

Yep!

 

[Sh0t]

If you are having those thoughts about her, it's probably not fair to her because you will probably always feel so. If you don't like what's been revealed to you her, don't do her a disservice by hiding those feelings.



She seems just about normal to me.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

If you've been with her for two years, and if this "past" of hers all happened within, say, the last 18 months, then you may have a problem.