Is my fantasy BDSM and what next?

[evasapple]

Hi

I work in a bar and I have the following fantasy:

I show up to work wearing something not suitable for work, like sweats or a rain coat. I have a bag with an outfit to change into. I will be forced to wear whatever is in the bag for the next 4 hours. I will mix and pour drinks, open bottles, hand out checks, make change, swipe cards, ... I will try to smile back at patrons, sometimes small talk a little. I will have no way out and have to get through my shift in whatever outfit I find in the bag. Someone else will pack the bag for me.

Does this qualify as BDSM?

How would I go about making this happen?

I don't know anyone in my "real" life to be my partner in crime.
Could an online partner work? And how would I find someone trustworthy?

Thank you for any feedback and ideas?

E

 

[Primalex]

Does this qualify as BDSM?

Is this really important?

How would I go about making this happen?

Uhm, unless you don't care about your job, I would first figure out what your boss would think about it. He is the one who will win or lose customers, depending on the kind of bar and the outfit.

Could an online partner work?

Sure. He could mail you the bag and you would have to not open it before.

And how would I find someone trustworthy?

Now that's one of the big questions....

 

[Stella_Omega]

I assume the outfit is something very revealing, right? Would that be okay with your boss?

Are there no co workers who would get a giggle out of this?

 

[evasapple]

Good points!

My boss would be OK with a revealing outfit – he probably would like it, within reason. Plus, I like the job – it is good money- but it is not a long term career plan.

Some of my co-workers dress more revealing than I am comfortable with, and some of the patrons are definitely pushing it on occasion.

I need to find someone who finds the right balance between pushing me out of my comfort zone and keeping it reasonable enough to be workable.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Good points!

My boss would be OK with a revealing outfit – he probably would like it, within reason. Plus, I like the job – it is good money- but it is not a long term career plan.

Some of my co-workers dress more revealing than I am comfortable with, and some of the patrons are definitely pushing it on occasion.

I need to find someone who finds the right balance between pushing me out of my comfort zone and keeping it reasonable enough to be workable.

I think you can ask someone at work, why not? it's only BDSM in your head, sweets, unless you need to share that part. To anyone else, it's help for the sexy-fashion challenged.

 

[evasapple]

People at work my give me advise, you could wear this dress or that top ....

But there would not be the element of
not knowing what will come,
the having no way out,
the being forced to wear whatever is picked for me ...

 

[Stella_Omega]

People at work my give me advise, you could wear this dress or that top ....

But there would not be the element of
not knowing what will come,
the having no way out,
the being forced to wear whatever is picked for me ...

You will have to share your secret desire with someone.

You can say it as a game, and I dont think anyone will think you're disgusting or silly for it-- it's pretty tame in the scheme of things

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

I think you can ask someone at work, why not? it's only BDSM in your head, sweets, unless you need to share that part. To anyone else, it's help for the sexy-fashion challenged.

I just had to say that I like this.

Predicament scenes are fun, mostly. "Oh my, what shall I do when xyz is compromised?" Good stuff!

 

[RuReal]

This could be a very hot scene in some ways.

 

[Netzach]

What about a dare? Don't fun-loving people still do silly stuff like this?

Now, you could argue the ethics of a person doing something for non-sexual reasons that someone else is sexualizing, but I'm of the what they don't know won't kill them school some of the time.

 

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

There wouldn't be too much in my bag, but a pain of tight little shiny leather shorts that hug your ass like a glove. Maybe I would make them too small for you so the ladies can get a nice view of your ass cheeks. Perhaps a loose thin tie hanging between your pecs might fit in nicely.

 

[Stella_Omega]

There wouldn't be too much in my bag, but a pain of tight little shiny leather shorts that hug your ass like a glove. Maybe I would make them too small for you so the ladies can get a nice view of your ass cheeks. Perhaps a loose thin tie hanging between your pecs might fit in nicely.

I think that would be more revealing than she can get away with...
Silly!

 

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

Yeah Stella that is silly to not indicate if you're a male or female bartender isn't it....Stella Stella Stella...shaking my head.....

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yeah Stella that is silly to not indicate if you're a male or female bartender isn't it....Stella Stella Stella...shaking my head.....

I'll give you something to shake about, baby.

But seriously, she writes like an innate female.

Not every woman does, of course-- but evesapple definitely does. I cannot imagine a cis man ever using language the way she does.

(Also, I happened to notice;

People at work my give me advise, you could wear this dress or that top ....

)

 

[Lewisdb]

Hi

I work in a bar and I have the following fantasy:

I show up to work wearing something not suitable for work, like sweats or a rain coat. I have a bag with an outfit to change into. I will be forced to wear whatever is in the bag for the next 4 hours. I will mix and pour drinks, open bottles, hand out checks, make change, swipe cards, ... I will try to smile back at patrons, sometimes small talk a little. I will have no way out and have to get through my shift in whatever outfit I find in the bag. Someone else will pack the bag for me.

Does this qualify as BDSM?

How would I go about making this happen?

I don't know anyone in my "real" life to be my partner in crime.
Could an online partner work? And how would I find someone trustworthy?

Thank you for any feedback and ideas?

E

Sounds like a very interesting start to...

So I take it you are female? where are you from?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sounds like a very interesting start to...

So I take it you are female? where are you from?

She's asking for advice, kid-- not soliciting come-ons.

 

[throbsalot]

BDSM or Sub?

Hi

I work in a bar and I have the following fantasy:

I show up to work wearing something not suitable for work, like sweats or a rain coat. I have a bag with an outfit to change into. I will be forced to wear whatever is in the bag for the next 4 hours. I will mix and pour drinks, open bottles, hand out checks, make change, swipe cards, ... I will try to smile back at patrons, sometimes small talk a little. I will have no way out and have to get through my shift in whatever outfit I find in the bag. Someone else will pack the bag for me.

Does this qualify as BDSM?

How would I go about making this happen?

I don't know anyone in my "real" life to be my partner in crime.
Could an online partner work? And how would I find someone trustworthy?

Thank you for any feedback and ideas?

E

Not BDSM, no. Not even nearly. But it does show signs of submissiveness whereby the decision as to what you wear is not yours. I have an online sub who is given tasks to perform and she does them without reservation. And sends pics to prove it. You might want to add me on msn throbsalot@hotmail.co.uk or yahoo born2havefun99@yahoo.com it could be a whole lotta fun

 

[Stella_Omega]

Oh, for fuck's sake.

 

[RuReal]

Oh, for fuck's sake.

I know they are popping up everywhere now. <shrug> I tend to ignore it.