Is it true?

[M's girl]

On those times when I've been sitting around with a girl, and maybe not even yet fooling around, I have gotten that serious achin feeling called blue balls. It hardly ever happens with girls who I am sexually active with--even if they were to hold me off. It is always in that very early stage with a girl--or with an old girlfriend that has been away for a long time. The balls writhe around more than usual and--even without an erection--sometimes enough seminal fluid seeps out enough that an observant girl might notice. The ache isn't from the erection. It has some other source--maybe the gland that produces the seminal fluid, maybe the Cowper's gland, maybe the balls. I don't know. But the ache is definitely a pain. I am always surprised to hear any GUY say it doesn't ever happen! Let him sit around close to a pretty girl for a few hours, in a situation where he thinks he might be able to get at her, and he might well feel the pain called "blue-balls."

Poor you.... for believing this bullshit yourself. Pain eh?

So if that were to be true loads of men are walking around this earth in terrible pain. Boy, do I feel sorry for them now!

 

[Etaski]

Poor you.... for believing this bullshit yourself. Pain eh?

So if that were to be true loads of men are walking around this earth in terrible pain. Boy, do I feel sorry for them now!

Jeez criminy...it's not total bullshit. Google it, and the first fuckin' link is a medical health site.

http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/blueballs.html

They do say this:

"The condition usually does not last long and the level of pain associated with blue balls is usually minor and can be exaggerated. Most men have been socialized to ejaculate when they get an erection during sexual activity. Failure to ejaculate and to feel orgasm often adds frustration and disappointment to the reality of the physical sensation.

Men who believe that they should ejaculate every time they have an erection are likely to exert pressure on their partner to proceed with sex without taking her feelings into consideration."


Some men do feel pain in that regard; how many? No fucking clue. Is it horrible? Depends on the guy and his attitude.

 

[M's girl]

"The condition usually does not last long and the level of pain associated with blue balls is usually minor and can be exaggerated.

Men who believe that they should ejaculate every time they have an erection are likely to exert pressure on their partner to proceed with sex without taking her feelings into consideration."

Some men do feel pain in that regard; how many? No fucking clue. Is it horrible? Depends on the guy and his attitude.

There you go....

 

[Etaski]

Well, I guess I have noticed you judge everyone's attitude, and discount it if it isn't to your liking.

And I can't change that.

But the physiology of blue balls does exist.

 

[M's girl]

Well, I guess I have noticed you judge everyone's attitude, and discount it if it isn't to your liking.

Really? Well, good for you!

 

[Malaria]

sounds psychological to me, especially on the 'depends on the guy and his attitude' My guess would be that men who feel that their girlfriend HAS to have sex with them would develop this as an excuse for behaviour bordering on rape

 

[Stanard]

Poor you.... for believing this bullshit yourself. Pain eh?

So if that were to be true loads of men are walking around in terrible pain. Boy, do I feel sorry for them now!

I don't know how many, but among those who are close for the first time or two to a new girl they like it might not be too uncommon. It is not "terrible pain"--just pain. --An ache.

 

[M's girl]

sounds psychological to me, especially on the 'depends on the guy and his attitude' My guess would be that men who feel that their girlfriend HAS to have sex with them would develop this as an excuse for behaviour bordering on rape

Something like that, yes. Bad attitude. As if women are to blame for making the man feel attracted to them. Oh wait... that's why they go to strip-clubs where they basicaly almost only can watch. Pure torture, of course, but hey -- what's a little pain?

I'm not saying the phenomenon does not exist. I'm just saying that it's the male equivilant (only reversed) of women's (fake) headache excuses...

Also, a few men have been in here already attesting to the discomfort-thing but not much more.

 

[Stanard]

stan, it's at most a mild discomfort from your hard-on.


The sensation of blue balls is unrelated to having an erection. An erection usually has (but might not have) occurred during the time leading up to or during the "discomfort." It seems to be related more to a state of excitement felt for a few hours, and maybe caused by a buildup of seminal fluid. And for some reason, when blue-balled, the guy's orgasm doesn't feel as good.

 

[FluteMaster]

Right

stan, it's at most a mild discomfort from your hard-on. and it sure as fuck isn't sba's responsibility or any else's to do thing one about it.

sba, that's their problem, not yours. don't ever give in just b/c you're dating a selfish, self-involved shithead.

ed

Right on. Since when has it ever been right to make some-one else responsible for one's well being. It's only a short step to "She made me do it" or "She was asking for it".

 

[M's girl]

Should not me more annoying than this

 

[FluteMaster]

wierd

Should not me more annoying than this

but strangely compelling!!

 

[M's girl]

weird.....but strangely compelling!!

I know.... that's what my M said about blue balls. Of course he hardly gets the chance to experience them anymore

 

[FluteMaster]

Boasting??

I know.... that's what my M said about blue balls. Of course he hardly gets the chance to experience them anymore

I hope he enjoys himself as much as you do!!

 

[M's girl]

I hope he enjoys himself as much as you do!!

Sure hope so too. I think he does..

 

[FluteMaster]

Laughs

Sure hope so too. I think he does..

I think you would know if he didn't - or at least your rear would!!

You not working today?

 

[M's girl]

I think you would know if he didn't - or at least your rear would!!

You not working today?

Uhm.... what does 'my rear' have to do with this?

 

[FluteMaster]

Lol

Uhm.... what does 'my rear' have to do with this?

In riding terms, it's a good place to use an "aid" like a crop. Helps to steer one's mount in the right direction.

 

[M's girl]

In riding terms, it's a good place to use an "aid" like a crop. Helps to steer one's mount in the right direction.

Although I have to agree, I'm afraid I have to admit you have totally lost me here at the same time...

 

[FluteMaster]

Oh?

Although I have to agree, I'm afraid I have to admit you have totally lost me here at the same time...

You mean yr M doesn't ever use "aids" to ensure your concentration and obedience?

 

[M's girl]

You mean yr M doesn't ever use "aids" to ensure your concentration and obedience?

Somehow I don't see how that has anything to do with blue balls...

 

[FluteMaster]

Ahhhh

Somehow I don't see how that has anything to do with blue balls...

The penny drops with a sickening thud.

I thought we were chatting while we waited for other people to turn up and watch your picture show.

 

[M's girl]

It was beginning to look like that, indeed. But threads like these and here on How To are not ' designed' for that. Spoils it for other readers who seriously want to know about the subject. I know I took a small sidestep too by adding the link, but that was sort of also to get my point across...

As for chatting...? You will get far more response at the GB

 

[FluteMaster]

Your right

It was beginning to look like that, indeed. But threads like these and here on How To are not ' designed' for that. Spoils it for other readers who seriously want to know about the subject. I know I took a small sidestep too by adding the link, but that was sort of also to get my point across...

As for chatting...? You will get far more response at the GB

It's just I keep an eye on all the posts I'm involved in, and sometoimes forgetr which one I'm in - I'll cut the chatter here - se ya around sometime