Is it true that if you don't look females or males tend to fall into you?

[Society]

I've been hearing this saying from a lot of people lately. Do you guys see it holding true? I was just curious if people experience this a lot.




Little story here


I've been searching online personals websites lately. I also search or "shop" around in person as well. Anyways, from people I've talked to before they always say "let her come to you" I'm guessing it's better off this way instead of seeking or "shopping" around for them?

 

[MercyMia]

I can't say I've experienced it but I'm averse to "trying too hard." I think a person can work himself up into an infatuation without really knowing the other person and make himself believe it's true love or lust or deep affection right off the bat. Nothing can replace just getting to know someone without the pressure of expectations.

Good luck in meeting and getting to know the right person.

 

[Society]

I can't say I've experienced it but I'm averse to "trying too hard." I think a person can work himself up into an infatuation without really knowing the other person and make himself believe it's true love or lust or deep affection right off the bat. Nothing can replace just getting to know someone without the pressure of expectations.

Good luck in meeting and getting to know the right person.

I've just really considered what people have been saying about the whole "let her come to you." I understand what you're saying though and thanks. I still feel to boost confidence even more I should be out there talking to them as well and not waiting around.

 

[MercyMia]

Yes, talk to them, but in a cool way Of course you have to get out there and make yourself visible. She won't come to you if she doesn't see you. It would be good if she saw you doing something you love. What are your hobbies or passions? Working in a soup kitchen? Supporting an animal rights movement? It's better if you come together on common ground instead of on the precarious premise of mutual physical attraction (like sighting each other at a bar).

 

[Missingmeds]

Actually I think you have to get out there and meet people in real life. I know that we first started talking via yahoo im and then it progressed to phone and then to real life. There was a situation involving him that caused us to move things along rather quickly and some decisions that had to be basically made on the spur of the moment but it all worked out in the end.

So my best advice is this, know what it is that you are looking for first. Decide what is and isn't acceptable to you in a life partner, or even a steady sexual partner. Then sit down and do some rough drafts of profiles. Check some of the online meeting or dating sites to see the type of questions that they ask or what they allow. Have people that know you and that you trust read them and get feedback. Have current photos of yourself ready to post or send. Please if you are male, don't do the standard cock pictures and if you are a female don't do the typical spread legs and tits pictures.

I guess that about covers it as far as I can advise you.

 

[Guttergoddess]

I understand where the wisdome of "let her come to you" comes from. I've decided that at different times, I must be throwing off some pretty strong pheremones. I can go from 0 guys interested in me (not that I'm actively seeking) to 6 all at once, which gets rather overwhelming. Having said that....I believe you should get to know a person before exchanging any sort of pictures, it helps avoid the "ooh they look like someone I'd do"

 

[Recidiva]

It depends on your personality.

I wait until someone takes an interest in me first, but that means that if there weren't more aggressive people out there, I'd never meet anybody.

If you are comfortable making a move, make it. If not, waiting works, but in order to wait, you have to be patient.

 

[Dirty_dave25]

The only experience I can relate to in that way is this…

When your looking you seem to miss the potentials around. Then when you find one and no longer looking you seem to notice that there are a lot more people interested. Sods law really! Lol

I have seen some websites that state men/women can tell a desperate person but how true that is I don’t know. There has been times though where I have gone out on the pull and not had a slightest smile, then other times I have gone out for a laugh and I have pulled. Might be something there! lol

 

[de-valmont]

There's a lot of wisdom in the don't try too hard idea. For a lot of people someone making an overt effort to gain attention can seem rather similar to desperation which is frankly unattractive to the vast majority of people.

Frankly play it fairly cool, but be yourself, if you look like you are happy and comfortable with your situation and yourself you are far more likely to attract people.

 

[Society]

I should have stated that I was male. You all give good advice as well. At the current time I'm focusing on myself and going to the gym as well as just making sure I'm totally in sync with myself. I think this would be better and help my confidence totally. I'm really an Optimistic person just have a few kinks I need to work out. Thanks again for the advice though you guys It was all helpful. I guess I'll have to start making more efforts as in going out to bars as well.