Is it possible to find a partner on these forums?

[str1d3r]

Ok so, this is coming from a guy who has browsed these forums for a few years. It's always been a kind of secret thing for me. I actually have a girl, but for some reason or other, text appeals more than most normal forms of porn.

Originally I PM'd someone who seemed like she would be interesting to chat to, but to no avail. She wasn't interested because of my age (21/male). Now the question I'm asking all of you is, what is the general "success" rate of people looking to meet up with other like-minded people here (here being literotica).

As I said before I'm somewhat "with" a girl, more like relatively close friends that fuck [wait, are we allowed to swear? I don't even know, not really a "read the rules first" kinda guy] occasionally. She is very shy though, and obviously it's almost always just one or two positions with little to no experimentation.

I'm finding that the longer this continue, the more my desires for more "extreme" fantasies and fetishes develop. At first it started with just older women,milfs, etc. The typical older women fantasy. Then I started getting very into the idea of bondage (although I would never admit this to any of my real life friends). Now I've even started playing around with fingering my own ass while I masturbate. Now this might all seem silly to you, but for someone raised in a relatively conservative household, to be feeling these feelings, these lusts, desires, it's not exactly the most exciting of exercises to go missionary for half an hour and then continue to watch some rom-com movie with aforementioned girl.

So, I'd like to believe I'm relatively well educated, and relatively good looking. All I'm asking is - is it worth putting time and energy into "finding" someone who I could at first just chat with, and who knows, maybe even meet, who isn't as innocent or unwilling to experiment and try new things.

Or - is this all wishful thinking? Is this post going to be followed by huge amounts of trolling, etc? Like - I actually tried things like craigslist/dating sites, before I came here, but 99% of the time I was met with fake bots or some kind of scam. I guess I'll attach a picture (not going to post any nude pictures or face pictures just yet, considering this is the internet).

If there are any ladies out there who might be interested in chatting, I guess this is where I say you can "PM me". But yeah, this is more of an introductory post, letting people know I am here (even though I've mostly lurked past two years), and just testing the waters really...

-Mike

Edit: I have no idea how to upload pictures so I thought what the hell I'll post the picture I was originally going to post (from imgshack) and then just link to facebook cover photo.

http://imageshack.us/a/img204/9247/img0037zh.jpg

http://imageshack.us/a/img9/3894/img0529rf.jpg

 

[MrsBorg]

Ok so, this is coming from a guy who has browsed these forums for a few years. It's always been a kind of secret thing for me. I actually have a girl, but for some reason or other, text appeals more than most normal forms of porn.

Originally I PM'd someone who seemed like she would be interesting to chat to, but to no avail. She wasn't interested because of my age (21/male). Now the question I'm asking all of you is, what is the general "success" rate of people looking to meet up with other like-minded people here (here being literotica).

As I said before I'm somewhat "with" a girl, more like relatively close friends that fuck [wait, are we allowed to swear? I don't even know, not really a "read the rules first" kinda guy] occasionally. She is very shy though, and obviously it's almost always just one or two positions with little to no experimentation.

I'm finding that the longer this continue, the more my desires for more "extreme" fantasies and fetishes develop. At first it started with just older women,milfs, etc. The typical older women fantasy. Then I started getting very into the idea of bondage (although I would never admit this to any of my real life friends). Now I've even started playing around with fingering my own ass while I masturbate. Now this might all seem silly to you, but for someone raised in a relatively conservative household, to be feeling these feelings, these lusts, desires, it's not exactly the most exciting of exercises to go missionary for half an hour and then continue to watch some rom-com movie with aforementioned girl.

So, I'd like to believe I'm relatively well educated, and relatively good looking. All I'm asking is - is it worth putting time and energy into "finding" someone who I could at first just chat with, and who knows, maybe even meet, who isn't as innocent or unwilling to experiment and try new things.

Or - is this all wishful thinking? Is this post going to be followed by huge amounts of trolling, etc? Like - I actually tried things like craigslist/dating sites, before I came here, but 99% of the time I was met with fake bots or some kind of scam. I guess I'll attach a picture (not going to post any nude pictures or face pictures just yet, considering this is the internet).

If there are any ladies out there who might be interested in chatting, I guess this is where I say you can "PM me". But yeah, this is more of an introductory post, letting people know I am here (even though I've mostly lurked past two years), and just testing the waters really...

-Mike

Edit: I have no idea how to upload pictures so I thought what the hell I'll post the picture I was originally going to post (from imgshack) and then just link to facebook cover photo.

http://imageshack.us/a/img204/9247/img0037zh.jpg

http://imageshack.us/a/img9/3894/img0529rf.jpg

Don't browse, POST.

I married the man I met here (oh and I did have thousands of posts on my old account not just 2 a day as on this account).

POST

Interact

Enjoy

 

[MrEd63]

I seem to have done so

 

[PeteHulbert37]

Here's a clue. 99% of the "real" women on here won't have anything to do with you if you do not post regularly and interact with people. That is how they can tell if you're a douchebag or not. Once they can determine that, they will usually feel at ease to have a one-on-one conversation with you. That's not an open invitation to cyber. You have to develop a relationship first. Then, you have a 1 in a million chance that you could find a "partner".

Good luck grasshopper.

 

[cowslinger64]

This isn't a dating site.. and while there have been a few miracles performed, there is FAR more pain and misery with people looking for love. LDRs are incredibly difficult to pull off and no matter how much you talk to someone on the phone, you just never know til you've spent time, extended time...with them in person. I learned the hard way, which seems to be my MO. Lol


There is way too much lying and deceit to expect much from this place. IMO.

 

[Lokishoney]

This isn't a dating site.. and while there have been a few miracles performed, there is FAR more pain and misery with people looking for love. LDRs are incredibly difficult to pull off and no matter how much you talk to someone on the phone, you just never know til you've spent time, extended time...with them in person. I learned the hard way, which seems to be my MO. Lol


There is way too much lying and deceit to expect much from this place. IMO.

hmmmmm

 

[kendra1980]

.....

 

[herMaster1111]

I met my wife in lit, so yes it does happen. Geographic locations a big factor we were maybe an hour away from each other.

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

I met my husband here. Neither one of us were here "looking" for a partner.

And I will agree with what others have said .... posting and interacting with people are important. My husband and I started talking because we had posted on the same threads and noticed each other there. We have now been together for over 2 years and are happier with each other than either of us ever thought possible.

 

[MsTexas]

This isn't a dating site.. and while there have been a few miracles performed, there is FAR more pain and misery with people looking for love. LDRs are incredibly difficult to pull off and no matter how much you talk to someone on the phone, you just never know til you've spent time, extended time...with them in person. I learned the hard way, which seems to be my MO. Lol


There is way too much lying and deceit to expect much from this place. IMO.

The most perfect answer I have ever seen!!!!

Well said slinger of cows ...

 

[TheSilverLining]

The most perfect answer I have ever seen!!!!

Well said slinger of cows ...

Wait.........what??!?!

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

*insert sound of shattered dreams and illusions here*

 

[cowslinger64]

The most perfect answer I have ever seen!!!!

Well said slinger of cows ...

Awesome!! what do i win???




yeeeeeeehaaaaa!

 

[MsTexas]

Wait.........what??!?!

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

*insert sound of shattered dreams and illusions here*

Should we have not said anything?

Wouldn't want to ruin everyone's surprise...

Awesome!! what do i win???




yeeeeeeehaaaaa!

Nothing ...

 

[cowslinger64]

Should we have not said anything?

Wouldn't want to ruin everyone's surprise...





Nothing ...

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Damn!!!


Wouldn't be ruining EVERYONES surprise...you forget the one thousandth of one percent that have actually made it work.

 

[ZipBlockBloodie]

It's possible but don't rush it or anything. I will say some of best buddies are on this site.

 

[Lily13]

This isn't a dating site.. and while there have been a few miracles performed, there is FAR more pain and misery with people looking for love. LDRs are incredibly difficult to pull off and no matter how much you talk to someone on the phone, you just never know til you've spent time, extended time...with them in person. I learned the hard way, which seems to be my MO. Lol

There is way too much lying and deceit to expect much from this place. IMO.

You are 100% correct here.

Wait.........what??!?!

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

*insert sound of shattered dreams and illusions here*

I know right

 

[mickyp123]

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Damn!!!


Wouldn't be ruining EVERYONES surprise...you forget the one thousandth of one percent that have actually made it work.

Cowslinger man speakum heap big truth .....
Some wise Injun Chief

Maybe I should post this on share a fav quote thread

 

[mickyp123]

I see a lot of people referring to the amazing friends they have made here on Lit, so if it's possible to form amazing friendships why wouldn't these same people be able to form amazing relationships if the right people came along?

Surely friendships and romances are based on similar foundations of trust, honesty, openness.

You can't build foundations while puddle jumping

 

[mickyp123]

Lucky I have pretty good foundations in place then

Very true, feel secure and get wet at the same time lol

 

[mickyp123]

Win win!

........splish splosh ......not in shonky shoes though

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Originally I came here just to post and have fun and I've made some good friends in the process, which I wasn't expecting. It's fun to play around, flirt a little, be silly, but if you're looking for LOVE I think it'll be hard to come by. Everyone has different reasons for being here and like it's been stated, LDRs are a bitch to maintain. But then again anything is possible. Just gotta stay on guard.

 

[mickyp123]

Tis like most things in life .....fate, and what will be will be,

 

[Butterflygurl1]

Delete

 

[Scheherazade73]

Now the question I'm asking all of you is, what is the general "success" rate of people looking to meet up with other like-minded people here (here being literotica).

As I said before I'm somewhat "with" a girl, more like relatively close friends that fuck [wait, are we allowed to swear? I don't even know, not really a "read the rules first" kinda guy] occasionally. She is very shy though, and obviously it's almost always just one or two positions with little to no experimentation.

I'm finding that the longer this continue, the more my desires for more "extreme" fantasies and fetishes develop. At first it started with just older women,milfs, etc. The typical older women fantasy. Then I started getting very into the idea of bondage (although I would never admit this to any of my real life friends). Now I've even started playing around with fingering my own ass while I masturbate. Now this might all seem silly to you, but for someone raised in a relatively conservative household, to be feeling these feelings, these lusts, desires, it's not exactly the most exciting of exercises to go missionary for half an hour and then continue to watch some rom-com movie with aforementioned girl.

So, I'd like to believe I'm relatively well educated, and relatively good looking. All I'm asking is - is it worth putting time and energy into "finding" someone who I could at first just chat with, and who knows, maybe even meet, who isn't as innocent or unwilling to experiment and try new things.

Or - is this all wishful thinking? Is this post going to be followed by huge amounts of trolling, etc? Like - I actually tried things like craigslist/dating sites, before I came here, but 99% of the time I was met with fake bots or some kind of scam.

Couple of things:

1. Stay far, far away from Craigslist.

2. You are relatively young (I don't mean that in a condescending way) and your sexual curiosities are normal. I wouldn't worry about it too much in terms of your conservative upbringing, although clearly you got the message that many things are "dirty." You are a sexual being. You are a young, horny guy with testosterone coursing through his body. It's ok. It's better than ok. It's a glorious time for you!

3. Your lady friend might be in the same boat - curious but afraid that "nice girls" don't [fill in the blank - love sex, want to be fucked from behind, want to swallow cum, want to jerk their boyfriends off in public, want to be told they're sluts, want to be licked until they are screaming in pleasure, whatever]. She might very well be afraid that you will think less of her.

And here's the thing: you might. Until you wrap your mind around all this, you may compartmentalize to the degree where you think there are girls you have hot sex with but don't talk to in public and girls you have nice missionary sex with a lovely mild orgasm with and marry. Please don't fall into that trap. Please, I beg you. There are wonderful, classy, beautiful women who are also hot sluts in bed. You want one of those. And your girl could be one! You just don't know.

Before you waste a lot of time online, think of all the things you'd like to try with her and start slow and small. Use your time online to research things that might turn her on and make her more receptive. Whatever you like, see if she is willing to experiment. You can still cuddle and watch rom-coms after mindblowing, nasty sex, I promise.

4. But if you try and she's not game, and you have really given it your best shot and still feel like she is the girl for you, then yes, Lit can be a great outlet. Other posters have said to spend some time posting on others' threads, and this is true. Read, lurk, etc and then get your ass out there and post. It really is how people learn about you. And then you will meet great people, some of whom may be right for you and some of whom may not.

I have been lucky, very lucky. After a few odd experiences I made an online connection that fills a need for both of us. It is unique and I doubt very much that I will have another just like it, though I enjoy all my online friendships. Sometimes you just click with another person on a certain level - you can't predict it any more than you can in real life. If you just let go and stop thinking so much, sometimes you can have a really great time.

Oh, and keep in mind - online is to some degree real life. There is a real person on the other end of all this, a person with needs and desires and also bad days and obligations and all of that. So keep that in mind. Some people straddle the two worlds better than others.

Good luck to you; I hope you find exactly what it is that you want.

 

[KierstH12]

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