Is it Obvious?????
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Is it Obvious to anyone which people talk to who Privately???
I mean you all know that I talk to Ravenloft, but is it really that Obvious who talk's to who????
I mean there are people that I talk Privately too that I have no contact whatsoever with on the Board. Others I have a complete Ball with as I know how much fun they like to have.
Again I'm being nosy but I was just wondering???
[This message has been edited by Nicole (edited 06-01-2000).]
I mean you all know that I talk to Ravenloft, but is it really that Obvious who talk's to who????
I mean there are people that I talk Privately too that I have no contact whatsoever with on the Board. Others I have a complete Ball with as I know how much fun they like to have.
Again I'm being nosy but I was just wondering???
[This message has been edited by Nicole (edited 06-01-2000).]
Magic Merlin
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Nicole......Nicole...Nicole...Again with the questions...
Such an inquisitive mind you have.
Yes, I would say some are quite obvious. Others, I can only guess...
I'll take the easy way out for now...I would say The Wizard and Skitten.
<heard from the peanut gallery> Boo!! Boooooo!! Hisssssssssss!
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Such an inquisitive mind you have.
Yes, I would say some are quite obvious. Others, I can only guess...
I'll take the easy way out for now...I would say The Wizard and Skitten.
<heard from the peanut gallery> Boo!! Boooooo!! Hisssssssssss!
[This message has been edited by magic merlin (edited 06-01-2000).]
Finally, one of Nicole's questions I can get in early on!! WOOHOO!
Anyway. I don't have a clue what's going on unless someone tells me! I have to be one of the most oblivious people on this BB.
I don't talk to anybody on a regular basis. Even my sister (who's not on Lit.) refuses to talk to me! LOL No, not feeling sorry for myself. I have no problem existing solely with my own thoughts. (yeah, right)
Ack, way off the subject, there. Anyway, to answer Nicole's question, It is not obvious to me who talks to whom privately.
Anyway. I don't have a clue what's going on unless someone tells me! I have to be one of the most oblivious people on this BB.
I don't talk to anybody on a regular basis. Even my sister (who's not on Lit.) refuses to talk to me! LOL No, not feeling sorry for myself. I have no problem existing solely with my own thoughts. (yeah, right)
Ack, way off the subject, there. Anyway, to answer Nicole's question, It is not obvious to me who talks to whom privately.
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Being fairly certain that this thread was created as a result of some inane comment made on my part, I feel the need to address it (although, even now, I am still not sure why).
First and foremost...I am not offended or "hurt" in any way. That being said, I can now say...
"Who the fuck cares!?"
I am not sure if your intent upon starting this thread was an attempt to get everyone to make their "lists" of who they think are "secretly" corresponding outside of the board OR if you are just looking for confirmation from others of your own suspicions in the form of, "Why yes, Nicole...I, too, think it is quite obvious." The latter, of course, not being as much fun in its intrinsic entertainment value, so I would have to assume the former.
No doubt that I would appear upon several lists (even my own), but do I care? Not in the least. I am not ashamed of any single one of my friends (here or IRL), and subsequently feel that friendship is not something that I have to hide. The fact that this "community" has the inherent ability to foster such friendships even on "the outside" is a testament to what a truly special place this is.
Yes, I am guilty of making little "inside jokes" here and there, and will most likely continue to do so in the future. It is just in my nature. I don't apologize for it, nor would I expect any of the regulars to refrain from expressing their own little "affections" or "connections" with other board members that they are particularly fond of. I could scroll off a list of people that I think may be corresponding outside...but what purpose would that serve? Pure gossip? I have actually had outside correspondences with quite a number of you (even you, Nicole), and have only found them to richly add to the quality of the experiences I have had here at the BB.
Chatmic made an excellent point on another thread (name escapes me at the moment) when she said that it is very intimidating for a new person to try to "fit in" and find their place here. I agree, for the most part, and I applaud you, Chatmic, for having the moxi to vulnerably stand up and say so. I felt the same way just seven shorts weeks ago when I first joined. I know that many of the people who have been here for 4 mos or more may not realize it, but this board DID seem like a very close-knit group when I joined, and that only the "fittest" would survive.
Whether anyone wants to admit it or not, THERE ARE little "cliques," and people DO tend to feel a little excluded at times. Just like in high school, you have your "intellectuals," your "cool people," your "flirts," your "sweeties," your "class clowns," your "huggy/kissy group," and those (newcomers) who so desperately want to be recognized, accepted and liked by all the "experienced." Granted, it is not quite as bad as I remember from high school, but the dynamics are nonetheless there.
Then I see a post like the one Creamy Lady made (see thread "Broomstick"), saying that she has been made to feel so much like an outsider that she wants to leave. I think to myself, "Wow...now how badly must this person have felt to be prompted to make a post like that?" It made me very sad.
I know I've gone off on a tangent here, but these were some things that I just really felt I had to release.
If any of my comments or "inside jokes" have made anyone feel "excluded," I do apologize for that, as it was not my intention, but now, in retrospect, feel that maybe that was part of the reason for the creation of this thread. On the contrary, I would love to have outside correspondence with alot more of you, and would only encourage others to do the same with those people with whom they feel they may have a great connection with.
Nicole...you are a sweet girl and very well-liked by the majority of the board. Please don't take anything I've said personally. I actually thank you for giving me the opportunity to express what I just did.
I won't be around the BB for awhile, so take care everyone and just have fun.
Always, in friendship and laughter,
LL
First and foremost...I am not offended or "hurt" in any way. That being said, I can now say...
"Who the fuck cares!?"
I am not sure if your intent upon starting this thread was an attempt to get everyone to make their "lists" of who they think are "secretly" corresponding outside of the board OR if you are just looking for confirmation from others of your own suspicions in the form of, "Why yes, Nicole...I, too, think it is quite obvious." The latter, of course, not being as much fun in its intrinsic entertainment value, so I would have to assume the former.
No doubt that I would appear upon several lists (even my own), but do I care? Not in the least. I am not ashamed of any single one of my friends (here or IRL), and subsequently feel that friendship is not something that I have to hide. The fact that this "community" has the inherent ability to foster such friendships even on "the outside" is a testament to what a truly special place this is.
Yes, I am guilty of making little "inside jokes" here and there, and will most likely continue to do so in the future. It is just in my nature. I don't apologize for it, nor would I expect any of the regulars to refrain from expressing their own little "affections" or "connections" with other board members that they are particularly fond of. I could scroll off a list of people that I think may be corresponding outside...but what purpose would that serve? Pure gossip? I have actually had outside correspondences with quite a number of you (even you, Nicole), and have only found them to richly add to the quality of the experiences I have had here at the BB.
Chatmic made an excellent point on another thread (name escapes me at the moment) when she said that it is very intimidating for a new person to try to "fit in" and find their place here. I agree, for the most part, and I applaud you, Chatmic, for having the moxi to vulnerably stand up and say so. I felt the same way just seven shorts weeks ago when I first joined. I know that many of the people who have been here for 4 mos or more may not realize it, but this board DID seem like a very close-knit group when I joined, and that only the "fittest" would survive.
Whether anyone wants to admit it or not, THERE ARE little "cliques," and people DO tend to feel a little excluded at times. Just like in high school, you have your "intellectuals," your "cool people," your "flirts," your "sweeties," your "class clowns," your "huggy/kissy group," and those (newcomers) who so desperately want to be recognized, accepted and liked by all the "experienced." Granted, it is not quite as bad as I remember from high school, but the dynamics are nonetheless there.
Then I see a post like the one Creamy Lady made (see thread "Broomstick"), saying that she has been made to feel so much like an outsider that she wants to leave. I think to myself, "Wow...now how badly must this person have felt to be prompted to make a post like that?" It made me very sad.
I know I've gone off on a tangent here, but these were some things that I just really felt I had to release.
If any of my comments or "inside jokes" have made anyone feel "excluded," I do apologize for that, as it was not my intention, but now, in retrospect, feel that maybe that was part of the reason for the creation of this thread. On the contrary, I would love to have outside correspondence with alot more of you, and would only encourage others to do the same with those people with whom they feel they may have a great connection with.
Nicole...you are a sweet girl and very well-liked by the majority of the board. Please don't take anything I've said personally. I actually thank you for giving me the opportunity to express what I just did.
I won't be around the BB for awhile, so take care everyone and just have fun.
Always, in friendship and laughter,
LL
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I second Latina's "Who the fuck cares!?" and raise it a "Let's move on!"
I think Nicole was just trying to find out who of us "talk" outside of the BB - no big deal. But about this whole clique thing...argh!
Since this board has been in existence, occasionally someone will complain that it's big "clique" and they're an "outsider". Look - when you come on this board, you're walking into a community of people who enjoy each other's company very much. There's going to be in-jokes and references to things before your time. I've seen new posters come in, introduce themselves, and become old-timers.
Yes, it takes effort. If there's a group of people having a conversation, you can't walk up to them, sit there quietly while they talk, and then walk away pissed off because they "ignored" you. Neither can you jump in and interrupt them with a rude remark or attack and expect everyone to give you a great big hug. You have to get actively involved in the threads, show interest in what others are saying, give 'em your opinion... You have to be fun and reasonably polite - that's it!
And you can't get offended when your posts seem to go unnoticed. I don't know how many times I've posted what I thought was the end-all be-all opinion on a subject, only for it no one to comment on it. At the same time, I've read many posts that have made me laugh or go "ah ha! that's IT!" but, because of laziness on my part, failed to post an "attaboy/girl".
The "House Warming" post shows that newcomers ARE welcome here. But that doesn't mean you're going to get instant respect. That's something that has to be earned.
I think Nicole was just trying to find out who of us "talk" outside of the BB - no big deal. But about this whole clique thing...argh!
Since this board has been in existence, occasionally someone will complain that it's big "clique" and they're an "outsider". Look - when you come on this board, you're walking into a community of people who enjoy each other's company very much. There's going to be in-jokes and references to things before your time. I've seen new posters come in, introduce themselves, and become old-timers.
Yes, it takes effort. If there's a group of people having a conversation, you can't walk up to them, sit there quietly while they talk, and then walk away pissed off because they "ignored" you. Neither can you jump in and interrupt them with a rude remark or attack and expect everyone to give you a great big hug. You have to get actively involved in the threads, show interest in what others are saying, give 'em your opinion... You have to be fun and reasonably polite - that's it!
And you can't get offended when your posts seem to go unnoticed. I don't know how many times I've posted what I thought was the end-all be-all opinion on a subject, only for it no one to comment on it. At the same time, I've read many posts that have made me laugh or go "ah ha! that's IT!" but, because of laziness on my part, failed to post an "attaboy/girl".
The "House Warming" post shows that newcomers ARE welcome here. But that doesn't mean you're going to get instant respect. That's something that has to be earned.
Hey Lovely Latina thanks for the comment, but I just registered and dove into the pool... the water is fine and no one has tried to drown me yet, so I am treading water fine so far....
Laurel, I know where you are coming from, it must be tiresome constantly having to "welcome" someone new, and make them feel like part of the party...especially when they are insecure and unsure..
but hey, that's the price ya pay for a popular BB chat area. Everyone wants to be in the A crowd.
I know I always wanted to sit at the big kids table..
so I have jumped in and if some people laugh at what I say, great..,If I get ignore, hey, I will just be wittier next time and if I get grief, well I will tighten my armour...
so I am here, move over please, I wanna play too...
Laurel, I know where you are coming from, it must be tiresome constantly having to "welcome" someone new, and make them feel like part of the party...especially when they are insecure and unsure..
but hey, that's the price ya pay for a popular BB chat area. Everyone wants to be in the A crowd.
I know I always wanted to sit at the big kids table..
so I have jumped in and if some people laugh at what I say, great..,If I get ignore, hey, I will just be wittier next time and if I get grief, well I will tighten my armour...
so I am here, move over please, I wanna play too...
Okay first up I took no offense (and Really I Shouldn't have to say this everythime I reply to something). LL and Laurel it was my soul intention to just know "IS IT OBVIOUS" who talks to who?? I don't want list's and If I did I would have straight out asked. Placing my own list up the top there.
I talk to alot of people off this Board, NOT one of them am I ashamed to be friends with, but as I stated earlier I do have alot more "CONTACT" with certain ones ON the Board. I know their fun Qualities and we run with it.
I am here for the sole purpose of having a little fun in my life, talking to certain people outside the Board enables me to have more fun on the Board.
As for "Cliques" I really must be blind to that, I come on here and If there is something I want to say I will say it, not wait for someone else to say it then jump in. The inside Jokes are always going to happen, and I'm pretty sure we are all guilty of making some.
So Basicaly NO I DO NOT want your list at all, never did (Too Damn happy with the ones I talk to now) just a simple Question to ask people if it is at all obvious who talks to who outside the Board.
Like for example to me I think that Angelique and Magic Merlin talk as they DO have the inside jokes, they run with it and it makes it all the more FUN for us.
So you see I don't want your list's, I asked a simple Question that once again Blew up in my face. I also did not LL want to know how I am accepted on the Board because it really doesn't bother me. I come on here I be myself and I continue on, if people have fun with me great but if not then Hey that's life and I know that I am not going to get along with everyone. Just as in Real life some get along others don't.
[This message has been edited by Nicole (edited 06-01-2000).]
I talk to alot of people off this Board, NOT one of them am I ashamed to be friends with, but as I stated earlier I do have alot more "CONTACT" with certain ones ON the Board. I know their fun Qualities and we run with it.
I am here for the sole purpose of having a little fun in my life, talking to certain people outside the Board enables me to have more fun on the Board.
As for "Cliques" I really must be blind to that, I come on here and If there is something I want to say I will say it, not wait for someone else to say it then jump in. The inside Jokes are always going to happen, and I'm pretty sure we are all guilty of making some.
So Basicaly NO I DO NOT want your list at all, never did (Too Damn happy with the ones I talk to now) just a simple Question to ask people if it is at all obvious who talks to who outside the Board.
Like for example to me I think that Angelique and Magic Merlin talk as they DO have the inside jokes, they run with it and it makes it all the more FUN for us.
So you see I don't want your list's, I asked a simple Question that once again Blew up in my face.
I also did not LL want to know how I am accepted on the Board because it really doesn't bother me. I come on here I be myself and I continue on, if people have fun with me great but if not then Hey that's life and I know that I am not going to get along with everyone. Just as in Real life some get along others don't.[This message has been edited by Nicole (edited 06-01-2000).]
points for you, Lovely Latina; obviously there are some off-board activities ... and some of the sillier and more arcane threads may suggest to virgins, occasionals and lurkers that they have missed the plot, but who cares; sometimes it is entertaining ... like the housewarming thread, and if it ain't well there's enough other threads here ...
oh and 2 more things LL -
1. you got a first - first time you posted and I didn't giggle - new serious side comes forth!
2. don't be gone long, girl, I'll miss ya.
oh and 2 more things LL -
1. you got a first - first time you posted and I didn't giggle - new serious side comes forth!
2. don't be gone long, girl, I'll miss ya.
LL, you've got a point. Being new, I see that there are some relationships already going. But my philosophy is just chime in when I can make a contribution -- funny, real, sexy, stupid, whatever. Be myself and sooner or later someone out there will discover what a wonderful, witty, charming, handsome, sexy, screwball I am. Or not. No need to push.
As for Nicole's question, SOME relationships are easy to deduce because of personal messages to each other on the BB. But otherwise, I'm like Neoapril and Jade, for the most part this newcomer doesn't have a clue. And like LL, I really don't much care. Doesn't affect me.
We all of us put ourselves out here for the fun of it, and if someone likes us, well that's a "Tony-the-Tiger GrrrrreeeaaaatT!!"
A question, though: Why am I still a virgin? How do I bust my cherry, anyway? Anyone know?
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Nicole, I can honestly say I have never been offended by anything you have said to me. In any way, shape or form. I think your a lovely lady and have enjoyed watching your bantering with some of the other regulars. Hell, its what makes this place so much fun.
I have only been here about 6 weeks myself, so I hardly feel like a regular although I have been regularly posting for that time. Before that, I "lurked" for a few weeks or month just watching this place and getting the feel of it. I have had posts ignored (not generate any interest is all). I have had what I would consider silly posts generate more interest than I thought they deserved.
But what I really like about literotica is that you never know what kind of interest a post will generate or where a thread will lead... I've LMAO at some of the silliest threads on here. Ones that get started by someones momentary thoughts. I have to admit that I do not come on here to be to serious most of the time, but I have participated in some serious threads (remember the Elian Gonzalez thread) on here.
If people get offended by the insides jokes or the groups of people that have become friends, then I'm not sure what to do about that, other than to tell people to watch if they want and if they don't find another thread that interests them. And get involved. Hell, half of the time I have no idea what is going on between some of the people here. But I don't get offended by that. I either watch and laugh or I move on.
To the new people here. Please get involved if you want. We welcome you. The more cool people involved the more fun and the more friends all of us will make. If you don't get an immediate response from a post or a new thread, don't be offended. That has happened to all of us. If you come on real strong and get rude, then people will let you know about it. Kind of like the real world.
As I see it, this is a place where so many different people from all over the world come and meet. People that would never have met if this site was not here. Like in real life, you will meet people that you hit it off with, people you have no interest in, and people that may piss you off. But you can choose whom you want to participate with and those that you don't.
Enough said..
MM
I have only been here about 6 weeks myself, so I hardly feel like a regular although I have been regularly posting for that time. Before that, I "lurked" for a few weeks or month just watching this place and getting the feel of it. I have had posts ignored (not generate any interest is all). I have had what I would consider silly posts generate more interest than I thought they deserved.
But what I really like about literotica is that you never know what kind of interest a post will generate or where a thread will lead... I've LMAO at some of the silliest threads on here. Ones that get started by someones momentary thoughts. I have to admit that I do not come on here to be to serious most of the time, but I have participated in some serious threads (remember the Elian Gonzalez thread) on here.
If people get offended by the insides jokes or the groups of people that have become friends, then I'm not sure what to do about that, other than to tell people to watch if they want and if they don't find another thread that interests them. And get involved. Hell, half of the time I have no idea what is going on between some of the people here. But I don't get offended by that. I either watch and laugh or I move on.
To the new people here. Please get involved if you want. We welcome you. The more cool people involved the more fun and the more friends all of us will make. If you don't get an immediate response from a post or a new thread, don't be offended. That has happened to all of us. If you come on real strong and get rude, then people will let you know about it. Kind of like the real world.
As I see it, this is a place where so many different people from all over the world come and meet. People that would never have met if this site was not here. Like in real life, you will meet people that you hit it off with, people you have no interest in, and people that may piss you off. But you can choose whom you want to participate with and those that you don't.
Enough said..
MM
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im on your side nicole...and on your side LL
and your side laurel... and OH HELL! im on every bodies side. i just want to fit in.
will anyone grant me instant acceptance?
sorry! didn't mean to interupt.
and your side laurel... and OH HELL! im on every bodies side. i just want to fit in.
will anyone grant me instant acceptance?
sorry! didn't mean to interupt.
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TurgidT, considering your I Wanna Fuck These People thread, I have some important news for you. You're never, ever gonna get very far if you're going at 'em from the SIDE. Try from the front or the back. <gives you a bawdy wink>
<snaps her fingers at the ladies> Girls! This man needs some private tutoring! Line up behind me.
<wraps her arm around Turgid's waist, since she sure as heck can't reach his shoulders> Now, sweetheart, let's talk about the doggie-style position...
<snaps her fingers at the ladies> Girls! This man needs some private tutoring! Line up behind me.
<wraps her arm around Turgid's waist, since she sure as heck can't reach his shoulders> Now, sweetheart, let's talk about the doggie-style position...
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LL and Laurel it was my soul intention to just know "IS IT OBVIOUS" who talks to who??
Oh yeah! Your question! I was so busy going off on the clique thing I forgot...
I can't tell if people have relationships outside this board. But I don't notice much. From other threads, it's apparent that other people sense things that I don't. I'm stoked that people meet here & become friends. I'm also stoked when people bring their friends to the site. The more the merrier, I say!
Oh yeah! Your question! I was so busy going off on the clique thing I forgot...
I can't tell if people have relationships outside this board. But I don't notice much. From other threads, it's apparent that other people sense things that I don't. I'm stoked that people meet here & become friends. I'm also stoked when people bring their friends to the site. The more the merrier, I say!
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Hey Whisper!
how about the TOP can i be on top?
how about the TOP can i be on top?
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