Is it "Natural"?

[Burning4U]

I joined this forum out of curiosity like I'm sure a few others have done. However, I have always had a strong desire to be dominated and I like to be dominant as well. Problem is, where does one find a woman that enjoys the same thing? I mean, I know how to "please" a woman more ways than there ARE to be please but finding one TO please isn't always easy! The fact that I LOVE to perform, uh, certain "things" on them is not advertised on my shirt so how could they possibly KNOW this? I have often wondered if wanting to "go down" on a woman is "natural"? Of all the things I love to do, this has to be THE one thing I love the most. So, if a man has a STRONG desire to "please orally", does that make him unusual? And, don't most woman really, really LIKE that? I have actually STUDIED female anatomy just so I CAN please a woman and I DOlove to make a lady feel GREAT! So is that "unusual" too? If so I'm in big trouble because nothing pleases me more than TO please!!!!!

 

[lovetoread]

lol, I do believe that going down on a woman is not that kinky.

Welcome to Lit.

 

[WriterDom]

Some like the tongue and some like the cock. But you'll never convert a cock needy lady into a clit needy lady.

 

[Burning4U]

Thank you lovetoread! And WriterDom? No, I would never try to "convert" a woman between those two things!! I would however give her both, just can't seem to do it at the same time! I hear that in some states this is actually illegal? If so I guess I am an outlaw then.

 

[SexyChele]

lol, I do believe that going down on a woman is not that kinky.

For some of the men I've dated over the years, they considered it way too kinky for them.

 

[MasterKensbeany]

I'll take....

a cock over a tongue any day of the week and you're quite right Sir, no one could ever convert me.

Respectfully
beany

Originally posted by WriterDom:

Some like the tongue and some like the cock. But you'll never convert a cock needy lady into a clit needy lady.

 

[bunny bondage]

mmm....cock......clit....

personally, i like being fucked from behind WHILE He rubs my clit....

but in reply to your question, i've met several men who just couldn't get enough of eating me out. even one particullarly kinky one who really liked to do it while i was menstuating, but that's not the point. what i'm saying is that you belong to a vast army of muff-munchers and if kinky is your thing you've found home! welcome aboard! ^_^

 

[Guest]

mmm....cock......clit....
even one particullarly kinky one who really liked to do it while i was menstuating, but that's not the point. what i'm saying is that you belong to a vast army of muff-munchers and if kinky is your thing you've found home! welcome aboard! ^_^
.......... For some of the men I've dated over the years, they considered it way too kinky for them (SexyChele).

Well as far as the guy who liked to do it while you were menstruating, that is where I would have to pass. It's a hygiene thing I guess. And to SexyChele's dates that DON'T enjoy orally pleasing their woman all I can say is that sucks, or, lack there of! At least I see that this wonderful act is not THAT "kinky" but for some reason I enjoy it even MORE if a woman INSISTS that I go down town, make sense? For as much as I crave it I still like to have my head held there by a hot lady that is very emphatic about having me "do her" down there! Adds something to an already great endeavor! Interestingly enough I see where it has been mentioned "either cock OR" and, to me anyway, one is simply a prelude to the other and I enjoy doing both (for a very long time) equally. To me, the "hotter" you can make your partner, the more enjoyable it will be for both involved. I guess my ultimate goal it to please the woman, everything else is secondary.

 

[Cirrus]

Hell, I'm a lady and oral on my period would be a turn off to ME. Even if my guy wanted to do it, I don't think I'd let him. I was recently converted to being OK with having sex during my period , but oral? Uh uh...no way.

I don't think I'd even be able to enjoy it, I'd just be thinking about the "ick" factor. And it's a hygeine issue too, and one of taste, I think as well. I've tasted blood...I've had enough oral surgery to last me a lifetime, and I wouldn't want that in my mouth, so I wouldn't expect anyone else to have it in theirs.

 

[curious2c]

For some of the men I've dated over the years, they considered it way too kinky for them.

I dated three women that have broken up with me over the years because I wanted to perform oral on them...theydidn't mind oral on me...but when I started on them they were less than 'enthusiastic' about it for sure. One even threw a fit, called me a pervert and demanded to be taken home. strange world we live in huh?

 

[P. B. Walker]

Hell, I'm a lady and oral on my period would be a turn off to ME. Even if my guy wanted to do it, I don't think I'd let him. I was recently converted to being OK with having sex during my period , but oral? Uh uh...no way.

I don't think I'd even be able to enjoy it, I'd just be thinking about the "ick" factor. And it's a hygeine issue too, and one of taste, I think as well. I've tasted blood...I've had enough oral surgery to last me a lifetime, and I wouldn't want that in my mouth, so I wouldn't expect anyone else to have it in theirs.

Well, being one of the pervs that has actually gone down on a woman while she's on her period... I will say, you don't taste blood. At least not in my experience. I've never done it on a "heavy" day either. Plus, I always have them go take a shower first, or at least clean themselves with soap and a wash rag first. Plus, they have in a tampon.

When I'm down there, I ONLY concentrate on the clit. I don't go digging my tongue into her hole or sliding fingers in. So I never get a taste of blood and if they've done a good job cleaning, I don't even notice a different smell.

I guess I'm picky about this. If I follow these guidelines, it's a pleasant experience for both parties. Now, I'm sure some guys like to get all down in it and shit like that. But not me. LOL. I'm not that perverted.... yet. <winks>

The other way to do it is while in the shower. That's another "acceptable" way for me.

PBW "Hey, what happens if I pull this string??"

 

[Cirrus]

See, that's the thing...I'd probably do it if I could wear tampons, but I can't. My body just, like, rejects them or something. I'm OK on the heavier days, but I can't use them on the lighter ones or I get horrible, uh...intestinal...symptoms. I'd rather not dance with toxic shock, personally. And yes, on light days I use a light tampon, but with the same results. I figure if I go a week or so, give or take, without oral, it just makes me appreciate it that much more.

 

[P. B. Walker]

See, that's the thing...I'd probably do it if I could wear tampons, but I can't. My body just, like, rejects them or something. I'm OK on the heavier days, but I can't use them on the lighter ones or I get horrible, uh...intestinal...symptoms. I'd rather not dance with toxic shock, personally. And yes, on light days I use a light tampon, but with the same results. I figure if I go a week or so, give or take, without oral, it just makes me appreciate it that much more.

Well, that definitely makes a difference. I can definitely see where you are coming from. I probably wouldn't try it without a tampon in... not sure. Been a long, long, long (oh gawd, now I'm depressed) time since I've had a steady enough GF to where this issue has arisen.

PBW

 

[lillum]

Sorry but how vanilla...lillum

 

[P. B. Walker]

Sorry but how vanilla...lillum

We are all so glad you approve lillum.

Check ya later.

PBW

 

[Guest]

I dated three women that have broken up with me over the years because I wanted to perform oral on them...theydidn't mind oral on me...but when I started on them they were less than 'enthusiastic' about it for sure.

I dated three women that have broken up with me over the years because I wanted to perform oral on them...theydidn't mind oral on me...but when I started on them they were less than 'enthusiastic' about it for sure.

THAT is a very good point and one of the reasons I posted this question in the first place "curious"! You see, I have actually MET woman (so have you obviously) that think "muff-diving" IS kinky! One thing they all had in common was this; a bad previous relationship. I was told more than one things like, "my ex didn't know HOW to do it" and "it HURT!". However a couple of these ladies I did manage to convince and once they DID let me "eat" them they liked it after that! One thing I DO know is one must shave the face or it is really going to put some abrasion on their thighs and that has to hurt. No wonder some don't like it. Maybe there are MANY women out there that have had a bad experience with this? I mean it IS a technique of sorts! I always try to "familiarize" myself with the lady first and NOT just dive right in and I also know that patience is important. I know that if I take my time and do it right both of us enjoy it more.

 

[H piltdown]

I have often wondered if wanting to "go down" on a woman is "natural"?

C'mon Burning, you know the answer to that one. Who gives a damn if it's "natural." We can't even define 'natural' in that sense. (The word kinky isn't much different) The answer is......Do you like it? Does she like it? Is anyone getting hurt, or otherwise victimized in any way? If you answered yes - yes - no, then, my friend, you win the grand prize--A one way ticket to nirvana. Jump on board, and enjoy the ride!

 

[SaltydogNH]

natural is as natural does

if you are not using appliances then it is "natural"

if you are not comfortable or if your partner is not then perhaps it is kinky or mererly bizarre.

I have never met a woman, who given time and gentle ministrations didn't come to enjoy receiving oral sex. My current wife has hangups on being messy... but enjoys the feelings.

Menstruation is not particularly postive for me, more like eating a very rare piece of beef in flavor. Nothing that a quick rinse won't cure.

but you need to remove stubble and work your way around the valley till you get a positive response, not just dive in and chew away.


Salty

 

[Burning4U]

C'mon Burning, you know the answer to that one. Who gives a damn if it's "natural." We can't even define 'natural' in that sense. (The word kinky isn't much different) The answer is......Do you like it? Does she like it? Is anyone getting hurt, or otherwise victimized in any way? If you answered yes - yes - no, then, my friend, you win the grand prize--A one way ticket to nirvana. Jump on board, and enjoy the ride!

Yes, the act itself is natural there is no question about that. My question was is it natural to be obsessed with WANTING to do this to your lady? Obsessed to the point where it is much more important to you that you please her than receiving pleasure yourself? In fact, for me, it DOES give me pleasure to do this to a women and if she has never had it done TO her before or is was done to her dissatisfaction, then it seems she is turned-off by it until you can convince her otherwise by showing her. OH yes, it's "natural" alright, in my eyes it is, but maybe hot in HER eyes!

 

[Kri]

Yes, the act itself is natural there is no question about that. My question was is it natural to be obsessed with WANTING to do this to your lady? Obsessed to the point where it is much more important to you that you please her than receiving pleasure yourself? In fact, for me, it DOES give me pleasure to do this to a women and if she has never had it done TO her before or is was done to her dissatisfaction, then it seems she is turned-off by it until you can convince her otherwise by showing her. OH yes, it's "natural" alright, in my eyes it is, but maybe hot in HER eyes!

In my opinion any woman would be lucky to be your girlfriend since you seem so enthusiastic to give oral sex, and to please her. All you need to do is find at least an open minded woman. Who knows, maybe someday you'll find a woman who loves receiving oral sex as much as you love giving it.
From my experience, most people I know don't think oral sex is so kinky, nor do they reject it as some seem to do. I think often women have a problem with oral sex because it means your face will be right in her crotch, and for some reason some women are self conscious about the way they look or smell down there. I think some women are taught that their genitals are dirty or nasty. It's unfortunate but I think true.
If you DO end up finding a woman who refuses to let you give her oral sex, just have a talk with her and tell her how much you enjoy giving oral sex and enjoying a woman's body.

 

[Burning4U]

In my opinion any woman would be lucky to be your girlfriend since you seem so enthusiastic to give oral sex, and to please her. All you need to do is find at least an open minded woman. Who knows, maybe someday you'll find a woman who loves receiving oral sex as much as you love giving it.

Thank you Kri! That is very sweet of you!! Made my day actually. Maybe I'm just getting old, but where does one go to FIND such a lady now? I wish I COULD have a label on me that says, "Love2PleaseU" or something like that. Because I do! I love EVERYTHING about women BUT I love being a man. I even love the aroma of a fine lady AND I could care less if she was a large or tiny woman. I DO have a propensity toward larger ladies however and I wish more of them could be more CONFIDENT! Everyone thinks I should date "Barbie Doll" types but that is NOT what I enjoy. I DO however enjoy a large lady even though it would seem SOME of them ARE, like you said, "worried about their smell". As long as they are clean this "smell" only serves to attract me MORE making me VERY horny! Well, I gave up on the "bar-scene" years ago so, meeting women has been a real challenge despite my so-called "good looks". So, just the act of FINDING a lover that LOVES to be pleased has been nearly impossible for me. What a waste! So much to give and nobody to give it TO !

 

[lark sparrow]

Yes, it is.

But someone here had a very good point regarding liking to be dominated, and liking to orally please a woman. They are not the same thing, though they may not be mutually exclusive.

 

[Burning4U]

Re: Re: Is it "Natural"?

Yes, it is.

But someone here had a very good point regarding liking to be dominated, and liking to orally please a woman. They are not the same thing, though they may not be mutually exclusive.

I don't know that much about being dominated, however, to me there is NOTHING more erotic than having a lady practically FORCE me to eat her out! Sometimes I can just LOOK at a woman (and I must scare them!) and think how MUCH I DO want to go down on her! Some girls just have that "look" that says, "go down on me NOW" and that look drives me NUTS with lust for them! OUCH! So I guess when a woman actually HOLDS your face there she is telling you that she is INDEED enjoying it immensely, yes? What can I say I just love to, REALLY love to do this!

 

[lark sparrow]

Re: Re: Re: Is it "Natural"?

I don't know that much about being dominated, however, to me there is NOTHING more erotic than having a lady practically FORCE me to eat her out! Sometimes I can just LOOK at a woman (and I must scare them!) and think how MUCH I DO want to go down on her! Some girls just have that "look" that says, "go down on me NOW" and that look drives me NUTS with lust for them! OUCH! So I guess when a woman actually HOLDS your face there she is telling you that she is INDEED enjoying it immensely, yes? What can I say I just love to, REALLY love to do this!

If it's so yummy, no force is necessary... but yes, enthusiasm is always sexy! And being "forced" to do something you want to do is always a pleasure. Begging for it, and being teased and denied can be fun as well, or being "used" and controlled in exactly how it is done.

How about a task you really don't find an overwhelming personal pleasure in, such as washing the dishes or doing the laundry. This can become a pleasure in pleasing someone else as well, yes?

I joined this forum out of curiosity like I'm sure a few others have done. However, I have always had a strong desire to be dominated and I like to be dominant as well. Problem is, where does one find a woman that enjoys the same thing?

Right here! This would be a good place to explore if you are curious as to whether your pleasure in oral sex is connected to a need to be dominated. Welcome!

 

[Burning4U]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Is it "Natural"?

Right here! This would be a good place to explore if you are curious as to whether your pleasure in oral sex is connected to a need to be dominated. Welcome!

Well thank you "Lark Sparrow"! And yes, it would be GREAT to meet a woman with these er... attributes on this board! But I also know that not everyone is honest about either their appearance OR their personality at times. Therefore I was wondering, is there a place in this forum that I can post my picture and view others as well? No, looks are not everything but it sure is refreshing to know what a person DOES look like that you may be conversing with. I did see one area with some STUNNING ladies (most married) in the "main" section, is that where all the photos are placed? Or, is there another area that forum members use for these pictures? Thanks again for all the comments, I find them all very helpful!