IS cybering cheating if ?

[Cyndeveaux]

If one person in a relationship has the permission from the other to cyber, even when the other isn't around, is that cheating?

 

[Anomaly1964]

If you have his permission, I would say NO...

 

[EctoJohn]

I wouldn't see it as cheating in any light.
It's all text fantasy, so long as it doesn't turn real, there's no cheating.

Now, whether or not a SO would like finding out their partner was cybering I can't say, but it's not cheating.

It's masterbating at worst.

 

[DiablosWhore]

Well, I would ask what difference it makes what any of us here at LIT have to say about it? If your BF thinks you're cheating, then you sure can't turn to the LIT members as some kind of permission, can you?

Ask your BF or you might be really sorry that you asked a LIT forums group.

 

[L8tnIt]

Well, I would ask what difference it makes what any of us here at LIT have to say about it? If your BF thinks you're cheating, then you sure can't turn to the LIT members as some kind of permission, can you?

Ask your BF or you might be really sorry that you asked a LIT forums group.

I concur with DiablosWhore: if your SO thinks it is or is not cheating, then that is really the only opinion that should matter to you.

 

[cumunder]

no touch cyber is not cheating, not in my word anyway

 

[Cyndeveaux]

deleted to avoid confusion.

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

I am sorry if anyone misunderstood. The permission came from my BF.

Well, I guess it isn't cheating then right? Have fun!

Love,

Thom

 

[L8tnIt]

I am sorry if anyone misunderstood. The permission came from my BF.

Then it seems like there really is not any reason to be misunderstood: your Significant Other has already said that it is acceptable, then it is not Cheating.
At this point, it is honestly an Open-and-Shut case*

*Note: the Written Word cannot properly convey the nuances that a Spoken Voice has, like Sarcasm.
To ensure that I am clear, I am pointing out that I am taking this seriously and am not intending to come across in an insulting manner*

 

[DiablosWhore]

I am sorry if anyone misunderstood. The permission came from my BF.

Ah, well, now, ....this is a different thing!! Now I see it clearly, ....you ARE cheating, and you're trying to use us to help justify that cheating in your own mind. Ha! Now I got it.

Hey, look at it this way, ............why did you even post the question? Hmm?

 

[DonnaBeck]

Cyber cheating

I'm confused...is BF a boyfriend or best friend? Because my best friend totally co-signs my cyber activity, my husband does not.

Also, cyber chat with an anonymous stranger is in my opinion, just masturbation. I started out like that, but took it much further and developed intimate relationships with a few, exchanging photos and hot emails all day long, so it did require a lot of secrecy. I stopped. No judgment on right or wrong, I just had to do what was right for me. (This is not "opinion", just my experience.)

Was is actual "cheating"? Opinions vary. I stopped because it was becoming unsatisfying and taking my attention from other things that needed my attention. I got consumed. But that is my confession. There are certainly situations where cyber activity just adds spice to a decent relationship. That is not my story. I was trying to substitute something and it didn't work for me.

 

[Blazexx]

No. I don't think so. I used to cyber. Am retired from that. Hubby knew I talked with other men. He doesn't care as long as I don't get carried away.

 

[DiablosWhore]

No. I don't think so. I used to cyber. Am retired from that. Hubby knew I talked with other men. He doesn't care as long as I don't get carried away.

Yeah, see, that's fine. There's a matter of trust, your husband knew, things were fine because of the trust. But, .....did you come to the Internet LIT forums and pointedly ask if you were cheating? I'm think that the reason someone would come out and ask - on anonymous forums - is because she's seeking self-justification. Hmm?

Still, I don't think it's any of my business. But then she did ask, right? ;=)

 

[sharona55]

...harmless fun...that's it!

 

[DiablosWhore]

...harmless fun...that's it!

Unless it is, in fact, harm-FUL. Big difference. If the BF don't like it, and she continues doing it, then it's not "harmless", it's "harmful". See the differences?

But see, ask yourself ...why is she even asking us? Who the hell are we to them? In my view, she's seeking self-justification for "cheating".

 

[winedark_sea]

The important question to ask yourself, is WHY do you cyber?

 

[DiablosWhore]

The important question to ask yourself, is WHY do you cyber?

Good question! But for me, it's also ...what the hell is "cyber"? I've heard the term for years, but never did know exactly what it meant. Cyber sex? How is that even possible? ;=)

 

[daddie]

If your cybering activities include kinks and fetishes that your BF is aware you are into, though he is not, then it isn't cheating.

However, if you are cybering about personal kinks or fetishes that you have not discussed with your BF, then yes, you are cheating him out of potential fun that could help build, strengthen & bring your relationship to a new level.

 

[EroticForYou]

Interesting Question....

Well Well Well, Lucky YOU Cyndeveaux! DiablosWhore has responded to pretty much all of your responders for you. Isn't that... "Special"! It's wonderful to come here and ask a pretty simple question and be called a Liar by someone who knows nothing about you?

As far as your question goes. You have permission from your Boyfriend. Is he insisting you Cyber? If so and you don't want to perhaps a discussion about all the in's and out's of Cybering and come up with some rules so you and he continue to keep communication open.

Just my 2 cents worth. (probably not even worth 2 cents these days)

Enjoy!

 

[DiablosWhore]

........ It's wonderful to come here and ask a pretty simple question and be called a Liar by someone who knows nothing about you?

She asked for opinions, I gave my opinion. Simple, huh? ;=)

..... Just my 2 cents worth. ...

And that's your opinion, right? So it's worth exactly what everyone else's is worth. ;=)

 

[eyespyk]

Mmmm let's see.....if you even have to ask the question, I think you already know the answer.....

 

[EroticForYou]

Actually NO

You responded to each of her responders trying to infuse YOUR idea of why she is asking. Feel free to do as you please but you fool no one here. Your accusations only serve to show you are here to bump your post count while badgering people with spam.

Good Job!

 

[DiablosWhore]

You responded to each of her responders trying to infuse YOUR idea of why she is asking. ...

You don't seem to know what a discussion forum is. Curious! ;=)

 

[DiablosWhore]

.... serve to show you are here to bump your post count while badgering people with spam.

What does one get with high post counts? Is there a contest I don't know about? ;=)

 

[EroticForYou]

Discussion?

So far all you have managed to do is accuse her of something you made up. That's a Discussion to you? Oh Joy... I bet your SO is one very happy Human having to dodge those all day. Cheers