Is commitment a learned behavior?

[badasschick]

At what point will I get tired of my goofy off and on relationships and finally settle down?

Amongst my girlfriends I'm that single one who they don't want around their man. A lot of them have tried to set me up with various losers in the effort to get me paired off.


I'm single by choice...OK I'm not patient enough to have a "boyfriend/husband", does this make me a freak or do I just need to grow up?

 

[cybergirly]

At what point will I get tired of my goofy off and on relationships and finally settle down?

Amongst my girlfriends I'm that single one who they don't want around their man. A lot of them have tried to set me up with various losers in the effort to get me paired off.


I'm single by choice...OK I'm not patient enough to have a "boyfriend/husband", does this make me a freak or do I just need to grow up?

Doesn't make you a freak at all!!
When and if you are ever ready to settle down you will.
If not, so what. It's your choice, we can't live by others preconceived notions.

 

[badasschick]

True and I don't, but what up with the "you should start seeing ____ you would have beautiful babies together" comments.

 

[cybergirly]

True and I don't, but what up with the "you should start seeing ____ you would have beautiful babies together" comments.

*sigh* have I heard that one.
Just ignore it, I personally think its the married people wanting everyone else to be part of a couple too. Either so everyone else is as "happy" as they are, or so they aren't jealous of all the fun their single friends are having.

 

[Sillyman]

You just haven't found the right one yet.

 

[gr8sexdude]

Meeting women who need commitment if fine. The question is do they REALLY want it. Relationships need to be easy and honest.

 

[Suzi]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....

I AB5OLUTELY agree vvith vvhat cybergirly said! If you are not feeling especially lonely, then vvhy rush it? Remember: choosing boyfriends is a little like choosing vvhat movie to see---vvhat they have for an opinion about the man/movie may not be hovv YOU see it. The girls vvho set you up to keep you avvay from their boyfriends may THINK they are doing you a favor, but they are not. They are really being territorial. If they are true friends, they vvill not just "set you up" vvith someone, they vvill take the time FIR5T to figure out if the man has anything in common vvith you. A true friend KNOVV5 you!

Just my opinion!

 

[riff]

I struggle with this constantly.

You know I find myself (after years of not wanting commitment) wanting commitment. Nothing wrong with that.

But I am all broken-up inside right now. It hurts like hell. And I am trying to heal.

The hardest part of it is as much as I would like to be with someone, I have my doubts about myself. I would wonder if I was just using them to make me feel better about me and that has to come from inside of me and not from someone else.

Sex, sex, sex. So much sex. I have had too much sex maybe and not enough love. I don't know. I am confused.

Like that RHCP song "It's so lonely when you don't even know yourself... it's so lonely."

~teariing up~

 

[enjoyingitall]

I don't think commitment is so much a learned behavior as much as it is an acquired taste. Once you're ready for it, you'll know it and you'll welcome it. Until that time, enjoy yourself as only you can. Never let others dictate your actions.